Daring to Dream – and to Write

Heart
I’ve always wanted to write.

But for a long time, I haven’t dared to follow my dream. Haven’t dared to follow my heart.

Friends, family members and people I barely knew would encourage me to write, and ask me why I didn’t write more. I’d shrug, tell them I hadn’t really thought about it (lie), but thank you.

Changing Things

You might have arrived here from my old blog, a smaller, personal blog, and I welcome you. But this blog will be different. It’ll be less personal. But I hope, that it’ll dig deeper. I want to write stuff that matters. That will make a difference. Make you think. Help you solve problems. Make your life better. Ask the hard questions or brighten up your day.

Honestly though? I’m scared.

Fears

I’ve been thinking about doing this for months, if not a year by now. But it wasn’t until yesterday, that I really managed to talk about my fears.

I’ve been dealing with some anxiety this past week, and I was talking to one of my closest friends about it. He asked me why I was feeling anxious, and I told him I didn’t know. Immediately I realized that wasn’t true. I did know.

I was scared of failing. I was scared that no one would want to read what I had to say. Or if they did, that they would think it horrible and a waste of time. I was scared that people would think I’m too young and don’t have enough experience – or too old and I should’ve started this years ago.

But my friend is pretty smart, and he asked me one of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves – and each other – whenever something scares us. So?

 - What if no one reads it? Or if they don’t like it? Or if they think I’m a fake?

- So?

- So then I’ll fail?

- So?

- Then all I’ll be is a failure.

- So?

- So I suppose then I’d have to start over again.

- So?

- So then it’ll take longer.

- So?

- So I guess worst case scenario I’ll be back exactly where I started… with some more experience.

- Exactly.

The Things We Regret

I “knew” this already. I’d heard it many times. The biggest regrets are for the things you never do. The risks you never take. But I didn’t know it until then.

The same day I bought this domain, under my own name, and began setting it up.

I’m still scared, but I’m also incredibly excited. I’m excited, because I’m following my heart and my dreams.

But I am a writer.

Questions

What dream, is fear keeping you from pursuing?

If you didn’t have to worry about failing, what would you do?

What would happen, if you dared to pursue that dream and you failed?

Please share your thoughts and questions in the comment section.

16 Comments

  1. maibritt stagaard

    Very interesting, Rebekka. Go for it. With all my love. Mom.

  2. Congrats on the new blog! Best wishes!

  3. Congrats, Becky!
    Count me as a reader already, and I’m not really much of a blog-follower at all. I’m glad you could finally take the step, that’s great.
    Oh, and I can tell you that in this little first post you’ve made me think, and asked hard questions!
    Congrats again.

    • Thank you Mohamed, that really means a lot to me. Shame you’re not much of a blog-reader, there are some amazing ones out there. Honestly I think you could have a lot of interesting stuff to share as well.
      Glad to hear I made you think! Hope to see you around.

  4. This is wonderful, Becky! I’m so happy you’ve dared to make this step! You know, I needed to get 25 to finally have the courage to start piano playing, and in the end, it probably was the best decision I’ve ever made.

    • Thank you Kath! I had no idea you didn’t start playing piano until 25! And you are so skilled at it. Thank you that really means a lot to me.

  5. Hi Rebekka,
    I see you follow my e-book-blog – don’t, it’s dead. I realized it makes no sense to write about ebooks as apart from other books. It’s just a format.
    Maybe you would like to follow my professional blog, betydning.wordpress.com instead. I can see we have a love of writing in common.
    Also: You should definitely read Steven Pressfields wonderful book The War of Art. It changed my life. I think it is not available right now, but it’s getting reprinted by Black Irish Books. You can read about The War of Art on my blog, and please visit his ‘writing wednesdays’ on his blog, stevenpressfield.com

  6. Hi Ulla,
    Thank you for your comment! I didn’t realize the e-book blog was dead – it was WordPress’ suggestion that I follow, but I completely understand why it wouldn’t make sense to write about it separately.
    I actually follow your professional blog already (well, I’m subscribed via Google Reader), and I’ve been reading it for a while – I really enjoy it.
    I’ll check if the library maybe has a copy of ‘The War of Art’ and I’ll be sure to check out your blog post, and Steven Pressfield’s blog as well.
    Once again, thank you for stopping by!

  7. LK

    You’ve got to do what you believe is your calling. I thought I never could do medical which is why I didn’t pursue it in undergrad. 6 years later I’m prepping for graduate school in a medical profession and getting all As in my pre-req classes. You never know what will happen when you choose to believe in yourself.

    • You are so right LK! And congrats to you for pursuing your dream and doing so well! :)

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