Link Love (07/07/2012)

If you come across any articles or posts you think I might enjoy send them over!

Thought-provoking

“So why hasn’t this become an issue of global concern? Instead, between 1997 and 2008, the percentage of international aid that went to sanitation and water fell from 8% to 5%. Concerns over safe drinking water get much more attention, despite a recent World Bank study that found a more pronounced impact on health from building toilet infrastructure than from drinking-water improvements. Few people enjoy talking about bodily functions, and it’s hard for emerging economies to get excited about pit latrines and compost toilets when they’d rather showcase their shiny new buildings and high-speed trains. Feces and open sewers are a hard sell for donors too. There’s no pretty logo — no babbling brook or fresh water spring — for a toilet.” Erika Christakis: Is Bad Sanitation a Feminist Issue? – Time

not tooling around: a “Never a Plain” guide for finding a therapist – Scoutie Girl

“One of the painful things about our time is that those who feel certainty are stupid, and those with any imagination and understanding are filled with doubt and indecision.” The Dunning-Kruger Effect: Why the Incompetent Don’t Know They’re Incompetent – PsyBlog

How to Learn a Language in 90 Days – zen habits

“I am in no way surprised that many women, who have been socialized in a culture in which male sexuality is linked to domination and in which women are taught their sexual power comes from being wanted, have fantasies of submission.”  A conversation about kink with Natalie Zina Walschots – Feministing

Religion

“And of course, the cognitive dissonance caused by this lack of evidence means they have an inability to admit they don’t have any. Once that genie is out of the bottle it will be impossible to get back in again and all will be lost. So they either rationalise that by claiming ‘everything’ is evidence, or by refusing to look for any, and especially refusing to consider evidence which suggest there is no god, or that there is no need for one to explain anything.” How Fundamentalists Get Their Head Round It – Rosa Rubicondior

“The thing is, all of the responsibility for keeping my marriage together was placed squarely on my shoulders. I was to “forgive as Christ forgave you” and basically have no expectation that my ex-husband should change his dreadful behavior. Outside of Christian circles, the behavior I was encouraged to adopt is called co-dependency.” Just Pray for Him: How the Christian Church Refuses to Hold Abusive Men Accountable – No Longer Quivering

“Modesty is socially constructed. Because it’s socially constructed, every time you make the norm more modest, you are simply moving the bar – not eliminating sexual feelings, thoughts, and attractions. Simply put, because (heterosexual) men (and women) are wired to be sexually attracted to those of the opposite sex, making the norm more modest will not end that attraction. It simply changes what is titillating. For example, the Muslim men in the picture I linked to above seem to find the burka-wearing women’s ankles extremely attractive – at least, that is all they can see.” On Modesty and Moving the Bar – Love, Joy, Feminism

“Keeton’s conflation of personal and professional values, or at least her difficulty in discerning the difference, appears to have been rooted in her opinion that the immorality of homosexual relations is a matter of objective and absolute moral truth.The policies which govern the ethical conduct of counselors, however, with their focus on client welfare and self-determination, make clear that the counselor’s professional environs are not intended to be a crucible for counselors to test metaphysical or moral propositions.” Judge Tells Christian Counseling Student That Her School Was Right to Punish Her for Wanting to Convert Gay Clients – Friendtly Atheist

Hilarious! “Just pick any line at random to begin proving your favourite deity is real, then either follow the cross-references to join the others into a longer sentence by putting ‘because’ between them or wait till your opponent asks you for evidence for that assertion and use the next one to answer it. Don’t forget to fill in the name of the deity and your holy book correctly or you could be promoting the wrong deity. Remember to keep track of your position otherwise your proof might start to look like it’s not joined up. When it starts to go round in circles tell your opponent that he/she keeps asking the same questions and break off the debate claiming victory.” The Fundomatic Deity Prover – Rosa Rubicondior

Equality

“As human beings, we mimic the world around us. That’s why messages like this, and like those we see in the media and pop culture and in our friends and workplaces and social circles, are so important. Because when we see, hear, and experience a culture, we internalize it. We think of it as normal. We’re at a place now, in fact, where misogyny and violence against women are so normalized that many people can’t tell the difference between quotes that come from magazines and ones that come from interviews with convicted rapists.” Why We Shouldn’t Make Jokes About Rape Or Sandwiches

“At 27 years old, I have not yet been a victim of sexual assault. But let’s be real: that fact is likely to change. Because one in six women will, in their lifetimes, be the victim of a rape or attempted rape. And I mean, we’re estimating there–sixty fucking percent of rapes are never reported to the police. I’m more likely to be raped than I am to get breast cancer.” Who Will Rape Me? – HAY LADIES!

“In short, ensuring that women have access to contraception promotes sustainable economic growth. And it’s a cost-effective investment. Every dollar spent on family planning can save $2 to $6 in other development areas.” Why women’s needs must be part of the conversation at Rio – Population Action International

“So, in all seriousness, why do you want to see Lara Croft get raped? Do you think she has an obligation to be sexually available, if not to you in real life, to someone else in-game, and if she violates that obligation, that it should be enforced upon her? One of the hard, immutable truths of adulthood is that no one owes you, and there is no mechanism to guarantee that everyone gets some mysteriously-allotted fair share of happiness and sexual satisfaction.” An Open Letter to the Guys Who Told Me They Want to See Lara Croft Get Raped – ThinkProgress

“If American mothers are driving themselves crazy, it’s because they are being fed an unrealistic and unnecessary ideal of motherhood and then being scapegoated when they can’t attain that ideal. They are being told they should be able to “achieve work-life balance” in a society that is structured to prevent that. It’s not Feminism playing this mind game on women, it’s the folks and forces who prefer the status quo.” I DO Want to’Have It All’, Starting With What Women in 178 Countries Have – Role / Reboot

Health

“”Dishwashers haven’t been in existence for so long,” she said. “It wasn’t like people were dying because of dirty dishes” before the advent of dishwashers. (Even before they were widely used, dishwashers were considered the superior choice, as this 1917 study indicates). Touché.” It’s Settled: Dishwashers Beat the Lowly Hand, Almost Every Time – The Atlantic

“Against this sort of picture, a paltry few-percent-at-best saving to be gained by somehow compelling most people in the world to remain on their present not-very-nutritious diets and (even more difficult) getting westerners to join them in this … well, it hardly seems worth bothering with. If atmospheric CO2 is what bothers you, every scrap of political capital, every scintilla of goodwill and economic wherewithal, must be focused on just one thing – that is, getting people to burn less coal. Footling stuff like campaigning against meat is a waste of political resources which are probably insufficient to the task in the first place.” Amount of meat we eat will barely affect future climate change – The Register

Tips for a Healthy Summer: Part 1 – Chris Kresser

Beauty & Body Image

“I believe in self-loving for YOU. I truly believe that you are beautiful and that you should accept yourself just as you are. Look at you – you’re bloody fabulous! But me? My body? Well. I know my body is “normal” (and even if it wasn’t “normal”, it would still be wonderful) and still I can’t. If my body was your body, I would think you were lovely. And yet.” We’re all works in Progress: The Shame of Still Feeling Shame – Silence, Cupcake

Inspirational

“Alone time gives us a much-needed break. It lets us sit with our own thoughts. It gives us the opportunity to focus on our needs and wants (and figure them out in the first place). And, ultimately, it’s rejuvenating and fun.” How Not to Feel Lonely When You’re Alone – Weightless

“It isn’t too late for you to improve something in your life that you really want to change. No matter what age you are at.” It’s Never Too Late to Change Your Life – Positivity Blog

8 Tips to Waking Up Early & Conquering the Alarm Clock – Goins, Writer

“This is space to create tangible things that I’m proud of – things that I hope will resonate with the community here in the near future. Things I had been putting off for months while I was “busy” checking Facebook for the 1,000th time.” Unplugging + Rebooting Your Life – Medicinal Marzipan

“The cold hard truth is that you’ll move forward when you’re sick of staying where you are.” When You’re Afraid of Putting Yourself Oht There – Wake Up Cloud

Blogging

21 Ways to Grow as a Writer – Aliventures

“Have you ever argued passionately about something then realized that you’re really arguing someone else’s point of view, that you never really stopped to investigate an issue yourself and form your own opinion?” 6 Ways to Become a More Independent Thinker at Work – On the Job

Stop writing lists. Write one tip that helps you get one result.” One Paradigm-shifting Idea That Will Change the Way You Communicate – Goins, Writer

Relationships

“Sustaining a marriage is something that requires work, cooperation, and commitment. But a married couple is already accustomed to those things; it’s what a successful marriage is about, after all. When you decide to use romance to sustain your marriage, you also decide that it is worth the effort, and your partnership will be stronger and last longer.” How Important Is Romance In Your Marriage? – Marriage Gems

5 Ways to Harm Your Marriage – Project Happily Ever After

Misc.

The 7 Most Baffling Things About Women’s Clothes – Cracked

11 Instagram Tips for Beginners: Etiquette Rules Ever User Should Know – Huffington Post

3 Comments

  1. Very nice to read about the Dunning Kruger effect! I had no idea it was called that way, but I ‘ve often wondered why things tend to be like that.

  2. Wow, thank you so much for pointing your readers to the post I wrote for marriagegems.com – much appreciated and glad you liked the post. Have a lovely day,
    Grace

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