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News Across the World

Afghanistan: ” Far from fears that female education is on the decline after the Taliban campaign against girls’ schools, female students outclassed their male counterparts in the secondary school examination for 2012.” Schoolgirls Beat Taliban – IPS

Dominican Republic: Dominican Republic abortion ban stops treatment for pregnant teen with cancer – CNN

Gaza: “Behind the blockade, conservatism is rising, but so too is unemployment, poverty, depression and domestic violence” Women in Gaza: how life has changed – The Guardian

India: “Afsana is working towards better education facilities for girls” Teen appointed youngest village head in Gujarat – Gulf News

Pakistan: “A Pakistani woman whose nose was cut off by her husband 32 years ago says she has been brought back from the dead after surgery which gave her a new nose. Allah Rakhi hid her face for decades after the attack.” Mutilated Pakistani woman rebuilds her life – BBC

UK: “Hundreds of girls are bring forced by British schools to wear the Islamic veil in a move which has been heavily criticised by mainstream Muslims.” British schools where girls must wear the Islamic veil – Telegraph

Thought-provoking

“When I perused the “International comparison” section of Wikipedia’s article on Crime in the United States, I could see what my Irish friend was talking about. Our homicide rate is among the highest in the developed world, at 4.8 per 100,000. Norway, by comparison, is 0.5. Even more heartbreaking, we also have the developed world’s very highest rate for deaths from child abuse and neglect: 2.4 per 100,000 in the country at large, and 4.05 in the state of Texas. And is it a little frightening that we have the highest incarceration rate in the entire world?” Safe in the United States – Casteluzzo

“When I first went out with this book, there was a version that circulated to editors, and in that version, Dawn was closer to my age at the time I was writing it, like 27. And a number of editors said, “Why doesn’t she have her life more together? She’s such a loser.” Which is so terrible because I was 27 and totally living in a crap apartment and not having my life together. So I made her younger.” ‘Ten Girls to Watch': Charity Shumway On Her Debut Novel and Why It’s OK If Your 20s Suck – Huffington Post

“I say he is a terrorist, and that our media is still caught up on skin color and refuse to label a white man as such.  It is sad and ridiculous, our media have shown the utmost ignorance and cultural/religious/racial incompetence and bigotry in the coverage of this act of violence against the Sikh community in my city.” The Sikh Temple Tragedy and White Supremacist Terrorism – Rooted In Being

“You’re missing the version of a man that you constructed in your head. You created this version of him to fulfill a need. It could be a need to solve the problems of men in the past. It could be an unrealistic obsession with the “perfect guy.” It could be an obsession with unavailable men. Early on in your relationship or friendship, this guy somehow did things that you’ve always wanted a man you’re in a relationship to do and somehow said all the right things and that is what you end up being biased towards. He also seemingly managed to avoid doing things that men in your past did to hurt you emotionally or made you feel uncomfortable. And as soon as you witnessed this “good” behavior, you latched on to it. Box checked; this guy might be the one. You ignore all the bad stuff and hang on to the romantic fantasy of him feeding you nice lines.” You Don’t Miss Him. You Miss the Idea of Who You Wanted Him to Be – The Current Conscience

“Yet, the horrific murders in Wisconsin should teach us that racism is about the dehumanization of an entire group of people: It is the worst kind of guilt by association.  If the Sikh community is not to blame for the events of 9/11, neither is the Muslim community.” The Violence of White Supremacy – Muslim Reverie

Religion

A wife can’t say “I really am submitting to you even if it doesn’t look like it” the way the husband can say “I really do love you even if you don’t feel like I do right now.”” Command v. Suggestion: “Wives, Submit!” and “Husbands, love!” – Love, Joy, Feminism

“If you’re a Christian, imagine reading a story in the Qur’an in which Allah orders the killing of a man who was merely providing for his family. Would this induce you to convert to Islam because Allah is such a kind and merciful god and a source of such wonderfully humane and just rules for humanity to live by?” The Immoral Bible – Rosa Rubicondior

Equality

“A person’s sexuality is like their skin color or their sex. It’s an integral part of who they are, and it’s not something you can just separate out and reject without rejecting that person. You can’t say to a black person “I love you, but I hate your blackness” or to a woman “I love you, but I hate your womanness,” and in the same way you can’t say to a gay person “I love you, but I hate your queerness.”” So you say you don’t hate gay people, part III – Love, Joy, Feminism

“Yet I’m still a feminist. Now and always. And I may not be feminist enough, or in the right ways, and so much of what I’m doing is contrary to feminist beliefs, if you ask certain people. And that’s just fine. Because, just like any far-reaching philosophy or movement, feminism encompasses so much more than what any one group believes or declares. Just like any concept that has shifted and grown over decades of consideration, discussion, and implementation, feminism constitutes an ENORMOUS spectrum of ideas and beliefs. And there’s room on that spectrum for me, for what I believe, and for what I can contribute.” What makes a feminist? – Already Pretty

“This is why 58 mass murders have been committed in this country in the last 30 years, and all but 1 have been by white men – making white men as a group more dangerous to America than any Muslim terrorist – and yet I don’t see racial profiling happening, or phones being tapped, or the FBI spying on young white college students (all of which has been done to Muslims and those resembling Muslims). It pisses me off when we can so nonchalantly throw our hands in the air and say “whelp, that’s just how it is, but I’m not a part of it so I’m ok.”” America’s Legacy of White Supremacy – Rooted In Being

“I realized then, that despite what a mockery patriarchy makes out of the portrayals of female friendships in the media, despite how frivolous and vapid the practice of women discussing romantic relationships with each other appears, despite how proud I was that my friends and I did not engage in such ridiculousness, it is not the vacuous activity that patriarchy will have everyone believe.
It is a mechanism of survival.
Genuine friendship between women, after all, is a powerful feminist act. I had always identified it as such. But I had been wrong to be fooled into believing for one second that a practice associated with femininity, like discussing romantic relationships, was worthy of disparagement because of media portrayals.” Women and friendships: When women talk about men – the fatal feminist

“Here’s what happened: on June 27, 2011, in Duluth, Georgia, Chick-fil-A General ManagerBrenda Honeycutt was fired despite performance evaluations of satisfactory to above satisfactory. She was told by her supervisor, Jeff Howard, that she was being terminated so that she could be a “stay at home mother.” Honeycutt was excluded from the management meetings held to make this decision, and to make matters worse, she was replaced with a male employee.” Gender Discrimination Lawsuit Reveals that Homophobic Chick-fil-A is, Shockingly, Also Sexist – Autostraddle

“Why had I not thought of this before? I’m no June Cleaver just for cleaning my house. I’m just a human being. Even feminists need to clean, or else live in filth! It’s not unfeminist to clean. It’s unfeminist to take on all of the housework duties while your husband sits on the couch with a beer.” You Can Clean the House and Still Be a Feminist – Role / Reboot

Health

Chicken Pot Pie The Sequel – Mrs. Paleo

“For two generations, women using hormonal contraceptives have bled monthly for cultural reasons, most without knowing there were alternatives.” A Brief History of Your Period and Why You Don’t Have to Have It – Jezebel

“Just because something comes from a plant doesn’t make it pure or, depending on how you answer today’s Community Question, even natural.” Where Do You Draw the Line at Natural? – Crunchy Betty

Beauty & Body Image

“No. It’s the fact that the writer commands his or her target audience to hate and despise their future selves. Telling teenage girls to hate 32 year old women simply because they are 32 year old women plants a self-loathing time bomb which will start to tick louder and louder as those same girls embark on what should be an empowered and confident womanhood.” Crows’ Feet and Character Assassinations: Ageism, Caroline Flack and One Direction and Friends – The F-Word

“I don’t know where this is coming from. What’s wrong with my hair?” said Douglas, the first U.S. gymnast to win gold in team and all-around competition. “I’m like, `I just made history and people are focused on my hair?’ It can be bald or short, it doesn’t matter about (my) hair.” Sh*t People Say About Natural Hair, Mine and Others’ – Autostraddle

Inspirational

“14. My mother’s favorite saying is “qui se ressemble s’assemble.” Whenever she didn’t approve of who I was spending time with she’d say this ominously. It means, essentially, you are who you surround yourself with.” How to Be Friends With Another Woman – Roxane Gay is Spelled With One “N”

“What we don’t accept is that we want them to do something else, but actually, what we want is beyond their capacity.
My teacher has said that this is “like going to an apple merchant and asking for oranges. And then we get upset when we get apples. But they didn’t have any oranges to give in the first place. So whose mistake was it for misjudging the other’s capacity?”” Judge Less, Accept More, and Restore Your Happiness – Tiny Buddha

” The important part is that you consciously decide not to feel sad anymore and do something about it! I know that sometimes when I’m sad, I don’t want to feel better, I just want to lie somewhere in my dark misery. But it’s time to realize that we are in control of our own feelings, and if you want to be sad, you will stay sad. And if you want to do something about it, well, then try some of these tips:” 14 ways to beat the blues – The Freedom Experiment

“But here’s the thing: everybody else on the planet is the exact same way.  We are all afraid of rejection.  That man on the bus that you are afraid to look at, he’s afraid to look at you, too.  And that person who had a bad day work and needs a friend, she just needs kindness, too.   Everybody wants to be affirmed, but we are all so fearful of rejection that we end up not affirming each other.  You might be self-conscious, and you might feel a need for affirmation, but the whole world is self-conscious and feels a need for affirmation.” Stepping Beyond the Fear of Rejection – Paleo For Women

You might be a people pleaser if… – Christie Inge

“Now, who you are will never be perfect. We all make mistakes. We all have moments that we are less than proud of. Enter, relentless compassion: the decision to treat yourself kindly and with the respect that you deserve, even when, and especially when, you wish that you’d made different choices.” The Honest Truth About Cultivating Self-Love – Curvy Yoga

Professional

“If you are a woman in this [financial] industry, I don’t care what anyone says, women have to work differently in order to be taken seriously. Men are greeted with “innocent until proven guilty new buddy ” approach and women get greeted with “guilty of being a dramatic girl until proven innocent.” Do Men On Wall Street Expect Women to Be Emotional at Work? – The Grindstone

25 things I learned in 5 years of day jobs – effervescence

Misc.

“There’s an idea, it seems, that it’s much easier for a man to pack lightly than a woman. And while there’s some truth to that, I think it’s a matter of changing long-held ideas of what you need when you travel.” Eva’s List: Traveling Light for Women – zen habits

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