Link Love (2013-03-09)
“The most important skill is execution. Having great ideas, wise decisions or clever strategies comes second. The ability to get things done is paramount.” Self-Discipline Comes First – Scott H Young
6 Habits of Remarkably Likeable People – Inc.com
“One of my Secrets of Adulthood (and a point oddly under-emphasized by positive psychologists) is: Outer order contributes to inner calm. More, really, than it should. Why does making your bed make such a difference?” Do You Find Yourself Falling for These 12 Familiar Myths about Clutter? – The Happiness Project
Question #148: My work performance suffers when I dont’ feel confident, which makes me feel less confident. How can I break this loop? – Captain Awkward
“Hey, here’s a novel idea. How about asking why adults without children are happier than adults with children and working to correct this? I think there are a lot of ways our society makes child-rearing harder and less fun than it needs to be. But none of that interests Last. Last’s solution is not to ask why raising children decreases an adult’s happiness but rather to suggest that happiness is overrated. Yay. Right?” Jonathan Last, Race Suicide, and Demographic Collapse – Love, Joy, Feminism
“Society tells us young men can’t think of women as role models, unless they’re a family member, whereas young women can admire and seek to emulate anyone, regardless of gender.
If you’re a young man, and if you have a poster on your wall with a woman, she had better be half-naked in a bikini, even if the Ronald Reagan or Gen. Patton poster next to it obviously features the man fully-clothed.
Young men are not to taught to think of women as role models. They are taught to think of them as either family members or sexual objects. There is no other category presented.” Why Are We So Ashamed of Our Women Heroes? – Charles Clymer
“Today I hold the door for people all the time. If I’m there, and it’s not going out of my way, why in the world wouldn’t I? I hold the door for women, and I hold the door for men—honestly, gender doesn’t even cross my mind when I do it. I’m just trying to be nice. And if I see someone coming with a box, or a stroller, or what have you, I hold the door even if it means going out of my way. The thing that I don’t do is determine whether I hold a door for someone by that person’s gender. Why in the world would I? It’s simply about treating others as you would have them treat you.” On Chivalry, Opening Doors and Basic Humanity
“Let me be clear: Rihanna’s reconciliation with her abuser does not make her a “bad girl.” Rihanna returning to her abuser makes her just like many other women who have been victimized who return to their abusers multiple times before they are able to walk away completely. And while there is certainly negative publicity surrounding Rihanna returning to Brown, that shouldn’t then be conflated with her being “bad.”” Rihanna going back to Chris Brown doesn’t make her a “bad girl” – Feministing
“On the Daily Kos, McKenna Miller — a man, or rather son — makes an excellent comparison to rhetoric about gay rights, “The reason to fight homophobia isn’t because ‘you’ve got a gay friend,’ it’s because it’s simply the right thing to do. The reason why a woman is valuable isn’t because she’s someone’s sister, or daughter, or wife, it’s because of the person she is unto herself.”” Stop calling us wives and moms – Salon
“Never did it occur to wonder why it was that I was so often the sole person responsible for insisting on safe sex, why I was positioned repeatedly as the condom police, posed at the entrance to my vagina with a whistle and a handheld stop sign.” Why Do Women Always Have to Be the Condom Police, Anyway? – xoJane
Product Review: The Squatty Potty (yes, that is what it sounds like) – The Paleo Mom
13 Healthy Ways to Begin the Day – Mark’s Daily Apple
12 Fruits and Vegetables That Lasts for Months – Organic Gardening
Amy’s Oven Roasted Potatoes – Humans Are Not Broken
Turkey meatballs w sweet’n’sour sauce – Against All Grain
Gluten Free and Egg Free Pasta Dough – Adventures of a Gluten Free Mom
Primal/Raw Salted Almond Macaroons – Rising Moon Food
Gluten-Free Cheesecake Brownies – A Girl Worth Saving
Beauty & Body Image
“The most important thing to remember is that we each deserve the kindness that we dole out so effortlessly to others. If I would never encourage a kind of-curvy friend by fat shaming her, why would I do that to myself?” How to Exercise Out of Self-Love and Not Due to Fat-Shaming – Everyday Feminism
“Her amateur scholarship is sticking a pin in the long-held assumptions among historians about the complicated, gravity-defying styles of ancient times. Basically, she has set out to prove that the ancients probably weren’t wearing wigs after all.” On Pins and Needles: Stylist Turns Ancient Hairdo Debate on Its Head – Wall Street Journal
“It is well known to the point of why am I even saying this that men are under less pressure than women are to be beautiful. What is not so often mentioned is the extent to which men are rewarded for not looking beautiful. Not simply for abstaining from whichever “metrosexual” grooming endeavors or definitive challenging of gender norms (i.e. makeup), but actually looking a big ol’ mess.” Too Brilliant to Bathe – The Beheld
“If a woman in the 1920s had a boyish figure and was naturally skinny, she was all set to slip on a slim sheath, a signature look of the 1920s. But if she was plump and curvaceous, she might choose certain undergarments to help achieve the fashionable unisex flapper shape.” The History of the Flapper, Part 3: The Rectangular Silhouette – Threaded
“Mattering a universal human need, and it’s one you have the opportunity to satisfy. But that depends on if the people in your life can answer, “yes” to the following questions:
- Do you see me?
- Do you hear me?
- Do you care about me?
- Do I matter to you?”
The 12 Most Important Ways to Let People Know They Matter – Angela Maiers
17 Ways to Make Your Life Light and Easy – The Bold Life
Four Steps That Will Help You to Turn an Overwhelmed and Stressed Out Day Around – The Positivity Blog
Faking Powerful Body Language Reduces Stress and Makes You More Confident – LifeHacker
LinkedIn: 9 Mistakes You’re Making – Inc.com