Link Love (2014-01-21)
Paul Piff: Does money make you mean? – TED
“1. Being the Judge. The Judge says: “You were able to do that yesterday.” “But you went on a hike with me once.” “You don’t look like you’re in pain though.”
Do not make yourself the judge of a person’s level of pain, fatigue, etc. Everyone has good days, bad days, in-between days, and you don’t know what price they pay to do the things they do. Maybe they went on that hike and spent a week in bed after because they really wanted to enjoy nature and decided it was worth it. This person’s care team monitors their health much more closely than you can as a bystander. This person’s (chosen) family has seen how their illness affects them much more intimately than you have. Leave it to their support team, and realize that a smile and vibrant look for 2 hours at a party doesn’t mean that person isn’t sighing or in tears when they go home. If you are not very close to this person, there might be a whole other side you never see. They might not feel like being on public display, and making themselves vulnerable.” How to be an Ally to Sick People – Autistic Hoya
15 Fresh Starts for the New Year – yes and yes
“This voice isn’t you. It’s a little child inside you. It’s the younger version of you, perhaps when you were 5 or 6.
This little child, this younger you, doesn’t like things that are uncomfortable or scary or difficult. What 5-year-old does?
This little child likes things that are comfortable and safe and pleasurable.
This is the child that you were when you learned all your thinking habits, when you tried things and quit because they were hard. Who could blame a 5-year-old for being like that?
But you’re not 5 years old anymore. And yet your life is run by this 5-year-old. Mine was for many years, and sometimes still is when I’m not aware of what’s going on.” The Child that Holds Us Back – zen habits
Sensitive? You May Be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) – LonerWolf
“1) Biblical morality is relativistic to the extreme. Counter to the monotonous charge that atheists have no basis for moral reasoning, the story of Abraham being told to kill his son illustrates that if “whatever God says is good is good” then nothing can consistently be called “bad,” not even child sacrifice.” Father Abraham Had Many Psychoses – godless in dixie
Meditation, no gods required – The Secularite
“Men still tell me openly that they think women are better at “that people stuff” than “technical things”, as though their opinion outweighs my experience and citations and as though technical problems were not caused by people. They say that boys are better at math, as though they don’t turn to StackOverflow any time they need an equation. A few brave and very ignorant men suggest that it’s my masculinity that enables me to code. I tell them the best software development class I took was Introduction to Writing Poetry and I am the only one in it who became a programmer. I tell them a story where our insistence on masculinity is bankrupting our profession. I say that there are millions of women who have been driven from the field by the ignorance and sexist behavior of people like them. Each time, I blush in fear at my audacity, but my masculinity protects me. Before the shift, they laughed at my protestations of belonging or mocked my supposed naivete. Now in person the worst they do is walk away or change the subject uncomfortably.” It is easier now that I look like a guy – Geek Feminism Blog
The Most Wonderful Time of the Year? – Violence and the Holidays – Adios Barbie
“Covers! “The Scary Thing 90% of Men Fantasize About” is having sex with someone who isn’t their partner! “Weird Things Guys Do When You’re Not Around” basically comes down to sometimes they’re naked! I can understand the need to be shocking on the cover, but I can’t forgive faking it, not in a world where “female kangaroos have three vaginas” is an actual fact! And then there’s Miley! Wearing an otherwise see-through suit covered in rhinestones and encouraging us to “twerk your ass off”! Yes, dear, you’re very scandalous. Good for you. We’re all very scandalized.” Cosmocking Catchup: October-December ’13! – The Pervocracy
While Wearing Their Pretty Dresses, They Ruined Lives: 12 Years a Slave & the Role of White Women in Slavery – Olivia A. Cole
““Ignore the barrage of violent threats and harassing messages that confront you online every day.” That’s what women are told. But these relentless messages are an assault on women’s careers, their psychological bandwidth, and their freedom to live online. We have been thinking about Internet harassment all wrong.” Why Women Aren’t Welcome on the Internet – Pacific Standard
The Many Things Avocados Do for You (Plus a Recipe!) – Bulletproof Executive
17 Health Benefits of Walking – Mark’s Daily Apple
Top 10 Ways to Survive the Cold, Harsh Winter – LifeHacker
Oil Pulling for Oral Health: Why & How It Works – Care2
Chocolate Friend or Foe? – Phoenix Helix
Bûche de Noël Recipe – Nourished Kitchen
DIY Vaseline – Savvy Sugar
3 Ingredient Paleo Naan (Indian Bread) – My Heart Beets
Paleo Carrot Soup – Elana’s Pantry
Creamy Tomato Soup Recipe – Wellness Mama
Roasted Clementines – Leaf Parade