Link Love (30/06/2012)

News Across the World

Iran: “ISNA cited Tehran police as saying that the “Zendegi cinema complex has been sealed by police after it sold tickets to women since cinemas are only authorised to sell tickets for such screenings to men.”” Tehran cinema shut for selling women Euro 2012 tickets – AFP & “”When my mother was young, finding a husband and having children was the only measurement of success. Now — at least to me — it is the least important factor.” — SHOUFOUKEH, a student who is planning to pursue her studies.” Single Women Slowly Gain Acceptance in Iran – NY Times

Lebanon: “Since Saghir arrived in Gaza in 1994, she has only seen her family once – nine years ago, through an organization called the “Palestinian-Lebanese Friendship Society.” She says that she submitted her paperwork and received a 15-day visa, costing her $150, to visit her own country.” Lebanese Women in Gaza: No Way Home – Al Akhbar

Malaysia: “First it was our friends who were a little taken aback by our getting together, but they came around,” continued Rina. “Now we can go to a number of clubs in KL and elsewhere, spend time on the beach and not be bothered, because we see that once people learn about us and see us, it is different.” Malaysia lesbians hope for change – bikya masr

Saudi Arabia: “I was shocked when I read an article in Arab News about high school boys here in Saudi Arabia who pull “pranks” every year when school is let out for the summer.  What really floored me was that the students who were interviewed apparently had no qualms about their full names being published in the newspaper in an article which confirms their participation in destructive and illegal activities.  It was as if they felt like their disgusting behavior was normal and that they were proud of coming up with a variety of ways to damage or ruin teachers’ vehicles or to destroy school textbooks.” Saudi Boys Allowed to Run Amok – susie’s big adventure & “A year after she defied this nation’s religious prohibition against women driving, al-Sharif is jobless, facing intense death threats and worried about going broke.” Saudi Driving Star Pays a High Personal Price – Womens eNews


“When we force children to submit to unwanted affection in order not to offend a relative or hurt a friend’s feelings, we teach them that their bodies do not really belong to them because they have to push aside their own feelings about what feels right to them,” said Irene van der Zande, co-founder and executive director of Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International, a nonprofit specializing in teaching personal safety and violence prevention. “This leads to children getting sexually abused, teen girls submitting to sexual behavior so ‘he’ll like me’ and kids enduring bullying because everyone is ‘having fun.’ ” I don’t own my child’s body – CNN

Disavowal. The ever-present temptation to deal with embarrassing, troubling, and deeply traumatic past or present experiences by attributing them to something that has nothing to do with me or my culture. To dump the blame onto someone else, somewhere else. So that I can distance myself from it all, in my mind and in my emotions: It was all just so alien! Don’t know how I ever got caught up in it… well, I do kinda know, but it has nothing whatsoever to do with who I “really am,” at least not now.” Why appropriating the burqa-clad woman is not cool – A Sober Second Look

“There’s something to be said for strength in numbers.  But with just one more person fending off attackers – a petite, 5’3 woman at that – how much of an effect would it have had?  I know we all like to imagine that we’d have gone in guns blazing and fists flying to protect one another.  But the truth is, you never can know how you’ll react when faced with the possibility of real danger – especially physical danger.” Hate Crimes in My ‘Hood – What Could I Have Done? – Left Standing Up


“Wherever and whenever you were born you would almost certainly have the same faith as your parents.Unless, that is, you had applied exactly the same standard to your parents’ faith as you have to all the others. If you had, you are very unlikely to have any faith at all because, like every other faith, yours has no evidential basis and so would fail John W. Loftus’ Outsider Test Of Faith.
In fact, if you were honest, you would admit that you have never really even thought about the other gods and other faiths, let alone applied any of the tests you just assume someone else must have made when they accepted your faith and rejected all the others.” The Outsider Test of Faith – Rosa Rubicondior

“This isn’t really a guidebook for those that are seeking out a way to spiritually abuse their children.  What it is, though, is a manual for you to spot the warning signs of those young people that need to be rescued.” How to Spiritually Abuse Your Children in Three Steps – Incongruous Circumspection

“””…also as a response to people in the recent discussions of Progressive Christianity who were arguing that at least the Fundamentalists don’t cherry pick the Bible. As I’ve pointed out before, they most definately do pick and choose what verses apply to their lives. Or rather, they let the field do it for them. That allows them to say with a straight face that they accept the authority of the Bible while still ignoring large sections. They’re unaware that they’re still miles away from the Bible, interacting with the field of traditional interpretations that their community has passed on to them.” Everyone Interprets, Some Just Admit It – Unreasonable Faith

Unconditional love does not mean loving someone while disapproving of their actions. It means forsaking the right to disapprove. You cannot love who I am and hate what I do. What I do shows you who I am. If you choose to love a figment of your imagination, some idea of who I might become, then you love only your own mind, and what you hate is me. You can’t have unconditional love and be homophobic. Perfect love casts out fear.” Christian Fundamentalist Homophobia: It Really Is About Fear (Introducing a New Series) – The Phoenix and Olive Branch, Part One: Generalized Anxiety and Images of Depravity, Part Two: The Argument is in the Eyebrows and Part Three: Finding Unconditional Love Outside the Church

“If I don’t believe what the faith tells me I’m supposed to believe, I don’t belong in that faith. If you don’t believe Jesus came back to life three days after Crucifixion, you have no business calling yourself a Christian, either.” If You Don’t Think the Wafer Turns Into Jesus, You’re Not Really a Catholic – Friendly Atheist

“The problem is that the content of the Bible does not stand the test of time and the Bible states that no additions will be made. This book is the end all and be all of God’s collective wisdom to humanity. So how do we deal with this obvious contradiction?” Atheism 101: Is the Bible the inspired word of God? – Examiner


“Declining to hear ‘no’ is a signal that someone is either seeking control or refusing to relinquish it.  With strangers, even those with the best of intentions, never, ever relent on the issue of ‘no,’ because it sets the stage for more efforts to control.  If you let someone talk you out of the word ‘no,’ you might as well wear a sign that reads, ‘You are in charge.’”” On Why You Shouldn’t Ignore Me When I Ask to Split the Dinner Check – Left Standing Up

“Seriously: Did Romney actually tell his wife that her job was more important than his? So condescending. If he thought that, he’d be doing it.” Elizabeth Wurtzel: 1% Wives Are Helping Kill Feminism and Make the War on Women Possible – The Atlantic

“In any comment section on the internet where feminism comes up, someone will pipe up and cry, “But feminism is about CHOICE!” No. Feminism is not about choice – at least not insofar as it’s about saying “Any choice women make is a feminist one and so we can’t criticize or judge it.” Feminism isn’t about creating non-judgmental happy-rainbow enclaves where women can do whatever they want without criticism. Feminism is about achieving social, economic and political equality for all people, regardless of gender. It’s not about making every woman feel good about whatever she does, or treating women like delicate hot-house flowers who can’t be criticized.” Feminism + Housewifery – Feministe


“And we’re teaching girls that this behavior is desirable. When we dismiss a girl’s concerns with how she is being treated by boys by saying, “oh that’s what boys do,” we’re teaching her that cruel behavior is normal and to be expected. We’re teaching her that her feelings are not as important as protecting the spirit of “boyhood.” When we tell her that “he probably just likes you,” we’re telling her that cruel behavior is not only normal, but a sign of attraction. We’re teaching her that abuse equals attraction. We’re teaching her to expect cruel treatment from any future men.” We teach boys to abuse women. We teach girls that abuse = attraction – Sarah Over the Moon

Look delicious! Quick and Healthy Chocolate Chip Cookies – Peas and Thank You

“It’s certainly not a glamorous topic, but what comes out of you can tell a lot about your internal health and even the posture that you use to “poop” can make a difference in how well you eliminate.” How Do You Poop? – Wellness Mama

How to make your own Almond Meal and Nut Butters – Budget Paleo

Building Your Medicine Chest: First-Aid Antiseptic Ointment – Frugally Sustainable

Beauty & Body Image

“But in our rush to focus on health — or at least the perceived appearance of health — we’re simply setting up a new idealized figure to chase after, and not necessarily one that is any better for us.” Is “Fitspo” the New Thinspo? – xoJane

“Learning to love your body may seem small or selfish or pointless at times, especially when compared to fighting for larger causes and reaching out to help others. But to fashion yourself into a powerful, effective, whole being, you’ve got to come at life from a place of strength. Your body is your home. If you hate your home – if you flee from it, disrespect it, and wish it were fundamentally different – your strength will be diminished. Whether you want to help others or simply find your way to happiness in your own life, loving yourself is absolutely vital.” Here’s why I think that cultivating body image matters – Already Pretty

“I want to talk about how, as a woman over age fifty, I am trying to use fashion to express my sexuality. I want to talk about some of the difficulties I’m running into with this project. I want to talk about some of the ideas I’m chewing over on how to deal with this… and I want to solicit ideas that I might not have thought of.” Fashion Friday: Age and Sex – Greta Christina’s Blog

“More specifically, a dialogue about bra size can be fraught with implications and insecurities. Remember, her breasts are inherently tied to her self image, sexuality, and physical confidence. When you discuss their size, be aware that you won’t simply be talking about a number letter combination. It pays to be as subtle, complimentary, and as gently honest as possible.” Reader Question: How do I tell someone they might be wearing the wrong size? – miss underpinnings


Self-love coaching is about recognizing the fact that you are an individual and, thus, have individual dreams and needs. This is not one-size-fits-all. This is about digging into YOUR stuff, to figure out what is standing in YOUR way – so that together we can work to clear away the cobwebs in your body and your brain and start conjuring up some magic in your life.” Accountability, Coaching + Getting Shit Done – Medicinal Marzipan

“Here’s a fun game to play: think aboutone place in the world that you’d like to visit someday. You don’t have to make a long list, just think of one single place.” Your One Place – The Art of Non-Conformity


Checklist: 7 Things You Have to Do to Write Unforgettable Articles – Write to Done

“I truly trust that within me, and within you, there is a well of natural motivation for our right work. What stops us, in my experience, usually isn’t lack of focus but fear, resistance, or plain ol’ unhelpful habits.” Three Ways to Increase Your Focus – Tara Sophia Mohr

Are you following your passion? 8 Lies You’ve Been Told About Following Your Passion – Dumb Little Man

Create 2-4 goals per week.  One goal per week is fine if it’s big, urgent, and important.  But 5 or more goals means you’re probably putting too small or unimportant of things on your weekly goal list.  These are the “big rocks” of your life.  Pick the most important few for the weekly list and just fit in the rest when you can.” Unleash the Power of Weekly Goals – Pick The Brain

How to Land a Guest Post Every Time – Write to Done

5 Ways to Spiff Up Your Facebook Fan Page – Customize Fan Page


“Almost all of us, your mate included, would give a 7 or better to seeing our spouses come alive, even if joining them in whatever they are doing would get a 1 or 2 from us. Separate the two. If you cannot share the interest, share your delight. Just save the technical details of why it’s so delightful for someone who shares your H level.” No Support for Your Interests? – Assume Love


  1. I just read this story on a friends’ blog. I thought you might like it and probably want to share it:


    • Ah yes, it’s an old traditional fairy tale / folk story, loved it as a kid! Thank you for sharing 🙂


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