Link Love (03/07/2012)

News Across the World

Algeria: “The recent parliamentary election in Algerian has made little difference to the balance of political power. One thing, however, is new: there are now suddenly five times as many female members of parliament.” “We need to completely change the system of government” – Qantara

Egypt: “Hoda Badran fears that the Egyptian women’s movement is being crushed between two ideologies that have little sympathy for the rights of women. The 58-year-old sociologist and leader of the “Arab Alliance for women” says she believes that both the Islamists and the military have a stranglehold on the work of women’s activists.” Women as Losers of the Revolution? – Qantara, “A wave of sexual assaults against female protestors and foreign female journalists by mobs of men, some armed with sticks and belts, has taken place in the last few weeks in broad public view.” Women Targeted in Tahrir Square – Inter Press Service & “Egyptian women’s rights activists have only bad options in the current power crisis. If the Islamists in parliament hold power, they could erase years of legal gains for women. But if the military has its way, a police state could re-emerge.” Egyptian Women Have Choice of Rock or Hard Place – Womens eNews

Germany: “A German court in Cologne ruled that circumcision for religious reasons is a crime.  Doctors who circumcise infants or children for religious reasons alone can be charged with causing bodily harm, even if the procedure is done at the request of the parents.” German Court: Circumcision for Religious Reasons is a Crime – Care2

Somalia: “Running away to get married is part and parcel of Somali culture and society, though Islamic clerics have different opinions regarding the legality of this type of marriage.” Controversy over runaway marriages in Somalia – RFI

Syria: “Syrian government forces have used sexual violence to torture men, women, and boys detained during the current conflict. Witnesses and victims also told Human Rights Watch that soldiers and pro-government armed militias have sexually abused women and girls as young as 12 during home raids and military sweeps of residential areas.” Sexual Assault in Detention – Human Rights Watch

Tajikistan: “”These women are ultimately being left with no rights or protection both during and after their so-called marriages,” Rahmoni says. “In all cases, the men eventually leave the country, leaving their temporary wives behind. The most painful part is that sometimes children are born into such unions.”” Tajik Mullahs Warn Of New Threat In Temporary Marriages – RFERL

Thought-provoking

“You have the right to be offended, and I have the right to offend you. But no one has the right to never be offended. And never just try to offend either. That’s churlish, pointless and frankly too easy. But always say what you mean. Be honest. No one should ever be offended by truth.” Ricky Gervais: Life’s Too Short to Go With the Flow – Huffington Post

Focus on your own achievements. Set your own goals and spend your energy on something you build, create, or pursue. Can you walk on a tightrope across Niagara Falls? Great. Go ahead and do it.” You Can Do That? Great. Go Ahead – The Art of Non-Conformity

“I hate the silent treatment. Of course, I hate being the recipient of it, but even when I’m not at the receiving end of someone else’s silent treatment, I hate what the silent treatment often represents: an intentional effort initiated by someone to provoke attention from a partner, friend, family member, or worse yet, a sign that someone’s voice has been squelched so often that silence is their only way of responding to a difficult moment.” Silencing the Silent Treatment – The Current Conscience

“In my view, this emphasis on “choice” per se tends to be a red herring. In the end, nobody can know or measure how much “free choice” a given woman might have had. What is much more important is to shift the focus from the initial act of “choice” to its long-term consequences. Its long-term consequences for your life on this earth, as well as the lives of your children and relatives and friends, again, on this earth. ” Unpacking “choice”, and the fish-trap effect – A Sober Second Look

Religion

 When you out-grew your need for faith did it emotionally hurt you? Did you mourn the passing of your faith? The short answer is yes. I did feel hurt emotionally. I did mourn the loss of my faith. Losing my faith hurt for many reasons. One of the most painful things was losing the support and close relationship I had with my family. I am not sure I will ever regain that.” You have questions? I have answers! – Why I Left Christianity

This made me laugh: 40 Killer Arguments for Internet Creationists – Rosa Rubicondior

“Note how the language distinguishes between medical care and “Christian Science treatment.” It’s acknowledged that Christian Science does not offer actual medical treatment, but they get to neglect children because… well just because. Even other Christians aren’t allowed this Get Out of Jail Free card. If a Catholic faith healer, or a Baptist one, is called instead of a doctor, the parents can be prosecuted. Being a Christian Science practitioner has other perks as well, like not being on the list of people mandated to report suspected abuse or neglect — unlike real doctors.” Faith Healing Parents Watch Their Child Die… but Won’t Be Getting Jail Time for It – Friendly Atheist

“Except that this is a load of bull. How are men’s and women’s roles equal when women are told that they must always be under and obedient to male authority, be that a father or a husband? How are men’s and women’s roles equal when men are given the option of a myriad of different careers incorporating different interests and skills while women are shoehorned into homemaking? They aren’t.” Men and Women in Christian Patriarchy: Masters and Slaves or Equals? – Love, Joy, Feminism

Equality

“There are no double standards that privilege women. Men die at war because THAT’S how YOU made it. They commit suicide because they failed to achieve the rigorous standards of masculinity that YOU established. (And women attempt suicide just as frequently.) They get their kids taken away in divorce because YOU don’t value nurturing parenting skills in men and they end up completely unaware of the extent of their abuse. They pay alimony, because YOU promote the idea that men have to earn a higher salary, and you fix the system so they do. And they fair poorly in school because YOU hate femininity so much, that once women integrate themselves into “male territories” like the classroom it immediately becomes uncool.” Disadvantaged Men? Blame the Patriarchy – the fatal feminist

“Even if a fetus were fully a person, in no other arena do we force someone to act as involuntary life support (or as a blood donor or organ donor) for another being. In all situations except pregnancy, such donations are voluntary.” What the Right Gets Right About Abortion and the Left Doesn’t Get – Away Point

The Cost of Same-Sex Marriage Bans (Infographic) – Care2

“Studies of men in traditional marriages, where wives do not work for compensation out of the home and whose role is as the primary and sole breadwinner, show that they are actually hostileto women in the workplace, particularly in leadership roles, and are disinclined to create or enforce policies that help equality in the workplace.” Soraya Chemaly: Complementarianism: Religion, Women’s Work and the Economy – Huffington Post

“I still strongly believe that women can “have it all” (and that men can too). I believe that we can “have it all at the same time.” But not today, not with the way America’s economy and society are currently structured. My experiences over the past three years have forced me to confront a number of uncomfortable facts that need to be widely acknowledged—and quickly changed.” Why Women Still Can’t Have It All – The Atlantic

“One danger of these discussions about “having it all” is that we can elide the differences between what are essentially luxury choices (the kind I’m describing here, a kind that affluent people of both sexes get to make) and the hard trade-offs of necessity that far more people are forced to make. At the same time, it’s worth noting that even immensely privileged women still have greater obstacles to work/life balance than do men.” No One Can ‘Have It All’, But Some Get A Lot More Than Others – Role / Reboot

Health

“Paleo is NOT about meat and more meat. It’s about eating real foods. It’s about avoiding foods that damage the body. It’s about understanding a framework and then tweaking it to fit your own individual needs since we are all very different and tolerate foods differently.” My Top 10 Reasons Why Your “Top 10 Reasons I’m Not Paleo” Are Flawed – Primal Toad

“We’re the weird ones for sitting down to poop, if you want to go by sheer numbers. Worldwide, sitting is actually just the number two method.” Squatting to Poop – Is It Healthy? – Mark’s Daily Apple

“Evidence is mounting that fiber might not prevent colon cancer after all, with a new study suggesting that one type of supplement might even be bad for the colon.” Study: Fiber Doesn’t Prevent Cancer – Aetna InteliHealth

“So then how do we differentiate among all the marketing and sort out the real and the good from the reconstituted and the fake? Education is the key. This article itself isn’t meant to educate you on how to shop but help you to realize that only through education will you turn yourself into a knowledgeable, critical shopper.” Food Education: Supermarket Survival – Tip The Cook

Beauty & Body Image

Sometimes, it’s just a function of unexamined privilege. It may not be your conscious intent to use a fat friend’s weight to counterbalance your own insecurities, but that can be an unintended communication in habits like constantly referring to yourself as fat, or saying you “feel fat,” or announcing that you need to lose weight, or body policing other people in front of a fat friend. ” On Being a Thin Friend to Fatsronauts – Shakesville

“Sometimes I wonder if it’s a part of having poor mental health, and poor physical health and the stigma which goes along with that. Self-care becomes self-shame, because self-care is something that people with disabilities and mental health issues have to do – people who live with anxiety issues, pain problems, depression, abuse survivors.” The Cycle of Self-Shame and Self-Care – Silence Cupcake

“Since notions of beauty are singularly unique and deeply personal to each individual, it’s dangerous to make blanket judgements about a particular decision or appearance. It’s additionally challenging not only to realize what you find beautiful, but to discover that your understanding of beauty might differ dramatically from other people’s.” Beauty 6 teeth – miss underpinnings

No, *You’re* So Pretty: Compliment Week, Part 1 – The Beheld

Inspirational

Stuck? 25 Questions That Will Help You Find and Follow Your Passion – Wake Up Cloud

“A bold life requires that you consistently take action in order to build your confidence and courage. When you hold back out of  doubt and fear, you live small, settle for less, and cheat yourself out of an adventurous life.” Please Don’t Feed Your Fears – The Bold Life

“I know what my definition of happiness is. I’m kind of fond of it, in fact. But when it comes to knowing if you—yes, you!—are happy in your life, there’s more than a little self-reflection required right at the start.” What They Don’t Tell You About Happiness (Part 1) – Make Every Day Count

Blogging

“Those of us who are dying for people to love and adore our work — and I’m one of them — have an addiction. We hear 99 positive reviews and one negative critique, and guess which one sticks?” The Essential Guide to (Not) Responding to Critics – Goins, Writer

The 5 C’s of Social Media Dominance – Part 1 – Jon Acuff’s Blog, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4 & Part 5

“One more thing: if you aren’t sure what skills you have that could be marketable, focus on the questions people ask you. Everyone’s an expert at something, and you may discover your specific skills by understanding what other people already see in you.” The Lesson of Skill Transformation (Also Known as “You’re Good at Many Things”)  The Art of Non-Conformity

Bedazzle It! All the Extras Your Query Letter Needs – freelancedom

“You see, we all have beliefs within that tell us what our writing speed limit is. As I’ve let go of these beliefs and blocks, I’ve found myself writing faster and getting into the writing zone effortlessly.” 10 Simple Ways to Double the Speed of Your Writing… Right Now – Write to Done

21 Warning Signs You Chose the Wrong Topic for Your Blog – Boost Blog Traffic

Relationships

“It made me realize that it’s okay to sometimes use the wrong words. It’s okay to get angry, and it’s okay to show it. Sometimes that’s exactly what it takes to get your point across.” Speaking About Sex – Project Happily Ever After

“They were not saying that all their time was spent apart, but rather that they each have their “own time” and aren’t dependent on continual togetherness for their happiness.” Independence and Marriage are Not Opposites – Marriage Gems

“In February 2012 PolitiFact.comstated that the “overall probability of marriages now ending in divorce falls between 40% and 50%.” We tend to assume that the 50% (or 60%) who stay together do so happily. There is substantial evidence to suggest the opposite — that many of the remaining couples are together but aren’t happy about it.” Samara O’Shea: How Many Marriages Actually End In Happily Ever After? – Huffington Post

Misc.

50 Bodyweight Exercises You Can Do Anywhere – Greatist

6 Comments

  1. Thanks for the link love! Glad that you found value in the piece 🙂

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    • You’re welcome! I really enjoyed it – I’m looking forward to reading more from you in the future.

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  2. There are some who live by every rule and cling tightly to their rectitude because they fear being swept away by a tempest of passion, and there are others who cling to the rules because they fear that there is no passion there at all, and that if they let go they would simply remain where they are, foolish and unmoved; and they could bear that least of all.

    Den mand er jo fornuftig. Og jeg som bare troede, han skrev fantasy-bøger.

    Jeg ved ikke, om det er retfærdigt, men da jeg læste citatet, kom jeg uvilkårligt til at tænke på en fælles bekendt. For slet ikke at snakke om en del af hendes medsøstre, som jeg har debatteret med i tidens løb.

    Anyway, hvordan går det med at være ateist – er du stadig fast i troen? Selv fedtspiller jeg indtil videre og holder fast i min agnosticisme. Tænk bare, hvis man gik hen og døde, og pludselig stod ansigt til ansigt med Odin eller Allah eller Hades. Jeg tror, man ville komme længere med “eksistensen af et evt. ultimativt væsen er irrelevant, eftersom et sådants natur og motivation per definition må være ubegribelige for et simpelt menneske” end “GUD FINDES IKKE!”

    Kald mig optimist, men den første kan man snakke sig fra. Den sidste – not so easy. 😉

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    • Ah, sorry, the above should’ve been in English. I’m afraid I got carried away by my Danishness, it happens occasionally. But then again, certain insights can only be expressed in the language of the Gods … 😛

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    • Han er helt sikkert fornuftig, han har skrevet et par bøger efterhånden om selve det at skrive. Mener den første hedder War of Art, den næste hedder Turning Pro (mener jeg) og så er han vidst ved at udgive en ny…

      Jeg skal ikke kunne afgøre om det er retfærdigt eller ej, men det er ikke en helt fremmed tanke. Jeg har oplevet at mange religiøse er ekstremt bange for at stille spørgsmål ved deres tro.

      “Fast i troen” hahahahaha, ja jeg er stadig ateist 😛 Jeg kan sagtens forstå dine tanker, men i følge de fleste religioner er du på røven lige meget hvad, med mindre du troede på den specifikke religion. Er jeg 100% sikker på der ikke findes gud(er)? Nej, det er jeg ikke, men 99% og det er godt nok for mig. – Ellers er jeg ret enig med dit statement.

      Jeg ville mener, at en altvidende Gud, som skulle have skabt mig, kender mig, og ville vide, hvad der skulle til for jeg var overbevist – og alligevel har valgt ikke at give mig det bevis. Det er ikke en kærlig, nådesfuld Gud, og derfor ikke en Gud jeg er interesseret i at tilbeede.

      Jeg er også ret glad for Marcus Aurelius:

      “Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones.”

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