Link Love (02/10/2012)

News Across the World

Afghanistan: “Killing and death threats reveal depth of Afghan society’s prejudices against women” Kabul attack on female actors leaves survivors facing more ‘punishment’ – Guardian & Taliban Need No Education – IPS

Malaysia: Good News: “I know today’s world sees and believes Islam to be intolerant of differences, especially in relation to the gay community,” began Sheikh Abdullah Abu Tarek, who believes that this is partly why people around the globe misunderstand Islam. “Here at this mosque we teach that Islam is about one’s personal relationship with God, and this means understanding everyone in that lens,” argued the London-educated sheikh, who is in his late 20s.
For him, young women like Mariam and Rina, who is a convert to Islam, are the most important in his congregation. They represent a “new wave of Muslims who can take the message of tolerance globally as human beings. Their sexuality should not be an issue, because at the end of the day, Islam is a faith that is based on tolerance and multi-culturalism.” Creating Change in the Mosque – Qantara and bad news from Malaysia: “The Malaysian government has begun holding seminars aiming to help teachers and parents spot signs of homosexuality in children, underscoring a rise in religious conservatism in the Muslim majority nation.” Malaysia holds seminars on how to spot gay children – Reuters

Palestine: “Raised in a broken family, she had to accept the first man who came to ask her hand in marriage, she said. At only 22 years of age, she was married, abused, beaten, had her husband take away her one-week-old baby and divorced. ” Domestic Violence in West Bank on the rise – Al Jazeera

Senegal: “The women are prohibited to speak to strangers, including neighbours, women’s rights activists or marriage counsellors about their matrimonial problems. They also do not have the right to complain unnecessarily as long as they have “everything”, which includes food, clothes and sex.” Polygamy Throttles Women in Senegal – IPS

Syria: “Women and girls continue to be the worst affected by Syria’s conflict, but their suffering rarely makes the headlines. Among the men who have died in the conflict, many will be honoured as martyrs. Those who have survived suffering at the hands of the regime will return to their homes as heroes. But women, including victims of sexual assault and refugees, will remain permanently stigmatised in conservative societies that simply do not see their suffering as equal.” Online trafficking of Syrian women shames all involved – The National & Syrian Refugees: Forced into Marrying off their Daughters – Al Akhbar

Turkey: “A controversial rape case has shown how in this patriarchal country it is always women who pay the price” Rape, abortion and the fight for women’s rights in Turkey – Guardian & Sex Education Remains Taboo Topic – EurasiaNet


Waking up to your long-term partner and asking yourself “How the hell did I end up with this asshole?” doesn’t necessarily mean you’re with the wrong person. It means you’re in a relationship, and relationships are hard.” Stop Pretending Relationships Aren’t Ridiculously Hard – Role / Reboot Six Steps to Making Friends After College – Nourishing the Soul

“Either way, one thing is certain: Those who do? Not only attract more opportunity, have more self-esteem, and have more confidence. They get more ass, too.” Are You Going to be Someone Who Does? Or Doesn’t? – the middle finger project

“How are we to have constructive dialogue or debate if stifled by censorship masking itself as political correctness?  How can we rationally address the very real problem of religious zealotry and the violence it inspires (latent in the most of the world’s holy books) if muzzled by a misguided pandering to the perceived victimhood of certain special interest groups?” Islamophobia vs. Racism – Disinformation


“In giving these warnings, Reb Bradley effectively cuts off parents from the support of professional therapists and Child Protective Services, even if the professional therapist and social worker happen to be Christians.” “Biblical” Parenting, Criticism #4: A Parent Who Isolates In Order to Control – Past Tense, Present Progressive

And so the fourth characteristic of a Christian Right home is that children are born evil and can become good only through a Godly mixture of love and punishment.” “Little Bundles of Sin”: Evangelical Child Rearing – Love, Joy, Feminism

“The lessons which I was taught in Sunday School were quite in the fundamentalist line. None of my teachers ever doubted the infallibility of the Scriptures… I accepted Biblical studies uncritically until I was about twelve years old. But this uncritical attitude could not last long, for it was contrary to the very nature of my being… At the age of 13 I shocked my Sunday School class by denying the bodily resurrection of Jesus. From the age of thirteen on doubts began to spring forth unrelentingly.” – Martin Luther King, Jr. – Did Martin Luther King, Jr. Agree With His Namesake? Doubtful, But It Helped Him Succeed – Coffee Shop Atheist

“Drawing from recent research in neuroscience, Erik Asp, Kanchna Ramchandran, and Daniel Trandel of the University of Iowa College of Medicine formulated and tested a model that shows how brain function is related to gullibility, beliefs, and religious fundamentalism. Imaging studies have shown that critical evaluation of beliefs and truth claims is related to the ventromedial prefrontal cortex (vmPFC) – the part of your brain more or less directly over the space between your eyes – which suggested that damage to this area should lead to reduced doubt and increased gullibility.” Where does religious doubt come from? The forebrain – Science on Religion

“Suffer not a woman to teach, not to usurp authority over the man” – Love, Joy, Feminism

Focus on the Family is Giving up on Reaching out to Millennials – Friendly Atheist


“When I hear folks saying they are pro-life, I wonder for whom, and under what circumstances. You see, being pro-life is far from the black and white moral distinction pro-life folks typically suggest. On the contrary, there are many ways in which being truly pro-life can lead you into incredible gray areas. For example, when a choice must be made between a mother’s life and a child’s, choosing abortion is still being pro-life, isn’t it? Who decides that a child’s life is more important than a mother’s or vice versa? And what aspect of a woman’s life are we willing to give up for a child’s? Her physical body? Her soul? Her hopes and dreams? Her chances to better herself and her family? The well-being and potential of future, wanted children?” Sometimes “Pro-Life” Means Getting an Abortion – Role / Reboot

“The amazing playwright, performer, and activist Eve Ensler said: “I think the whole world has essentially been brought up not to be a girl. How do we bring up boys? What does it mean to be a boy? To be a boy really means not to be a girl. To be a man means not to be a girl. To be a woman means not to be a girl. To be strong means not to be a girl. To be a leader means not to be a girl. I actually think that being a girl is so powerful that we’ve had to train everyone not to be that. “Isn’t this really at the core of allowing boys to play with a doll, for example? By constantly sending this message to boys that they should in no way resemble a girl, by not allowing them to show their nurturing side without denigrating their masculinity, by reminding them that being like a girl makes them less than, we are doing a great disservice to boys and men. ” Why can’t a boy play with a doll? – Princess Free Zone

” Despite the fears of many fellas like my student, mansplaining isn’t a term for any time a guy tries to explain himself.   Mansplaining is about a very specific instance of “privilege and ignorance… when a dude tells you, a woman, how to do something you already know how to do, or how you are wrong about something you are actually right about, or miscellaneous and inaccurate ‘facts’ about something you know a hell of a lot more about than he does.”  Five Tips for the Mansplainers in Your Life – Jezebel

“This is not about Todd Akin. This is about a presidential candidate who touted the endorsement of the same doctor who told Akin the bunk science he parroted this weekend. It’s about a VP pick who worked closely with Akin and so many other senators on bills that would put women’s health in direct danger. But mostly, it’s about an entire political party that is hell bet on taking away all of your reproductive rights.” Romney, the GOP platform and why this isn’t about Todd Akin – Feministing

“I worry when we start talking about women using erotic capital for personal advantage. To me, it sounds too much like we are calling a woman a whore using academic language. It also makes me wonder how we would actually know if conservative women are more willing to trade on their beauty, when it seems just as likely that conservative organizations are only interested in hiring and promoting women who look good but pose no intellectual threat. At the very least, I believe it is safe to say that the women of conservative groups say more about the organizations and the environment in which they compete than they do about the willingness of certain types of women to use erotic capital.” Why We Should Stop Bullying “Dumb” Conservative Women – Role / Reboot

The Great Geek Sexism Debate – io9


How to Crystal Clean Your Electronic Screens for Pennies – Crunchy Betty

Healing Plantain Salve – These Light Footsteps

“These vitamins and minerals are crucial for the proper formation and function of skin cells, and are beneficial in treating conditions such as acne, psoriasis, rosacea, and may even prevent sun damage and wrinkles. Many of my patients have experienced significant improvements in their skin health when addressing the nutrient quality of their daily diet.” Nutrition for Healthy Skin: Vitamin E, Pantothenic Acid, and Selenium – Chris Kresser

No Sugar Cookies – Peas and Thank You

Banana and Cream “Oatmeal” – A Girl Worth Saving

Beauty & Body Image

A discussion of the challenges inherent to giving compliments – Already Pretty

“That means, basically, that the more equal men and women became, the less emphasis men placed on youth and beauty, and the less emphasis women put on wealth and power. ” When Men Stop Seeking Beauty and Women Care Less About Wealth – TIME

“Why should women have all the fun of changing our appearance to suit the mood or occasion? Why should we be the only ones who get to enjoy being sexually alluring? There’s a terrible downside to expectations of female appearance—the expense, the discomfort and the pressure to be thin are high on the list. But I, for one, would not trade my closet of exciting female regalia for business suits and baseball caps. I relish the transformation that happens in the mirror when I get dressed. Do I want fierce don’t-fuck-with-me boots or a flowy feminine dress? I decide. It’s energizing. It creates a break in routine. I very much want to invite men to be able to join me in this excitement.” What If Men Challenged Women as the Fashionable Sex? – Role / Reboot


“Slogans like “become your own best friend” or “love yourself completely” didn’t resonate with me, because there was nothing to ground it. It was like being told to fall madly, truly, and deeply in love with the person sitting next to you on the subway – they may be peripherally attractive or may possess some indicators of intrigue – but they are still strangers.” Becoming a Detective to Your Own Experience – Mara Glatzel

“But I’ve been pondering this past month about the potential of what our lives might be like if we genuinely DID put into action at least SOME of these amazing things that cross our paths almost daily.  I know it’s likely you are doing some things already, but I also know that if you’re anything like me you can suffer a little from the ‘skim’ factor – the ‘that’s really nice’ factor – and then move on.  While some of it may seep into our consciousness – how incredible could things be for us if we actually put into ACTION the wisdom that surrounds us?” Facebook Quote Junkie? It’s Time to Live the Quotes NOT Just Read Them! – Beautiful You

Learning is a Series of Steps: 7 Tips to Master a New Skill – Tiny Buddha

“But high gear isn’t sustainable, and when the season shifts and it’s time for me to downshift and rest, I really struggle to make the transition back to more Clark Kent-esque rhythms and routines. It always reminds me of the way adrenaline doesn’t leave your system all at once, but works its way through in its own time. Except when my adrenaline goes, it often leaves me jonesing for more.” How to be soulful, online and off – Roots of She

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