Link Love (09/10/2012)

News Across the World

Bangladesh: “Bangladesh’s discriminatory personal laws on marriage, separation, and divorce trap many women and girls in abusive marriages or drive them into poverty when marriages fall apart, Human Rights Watch said in a new report released today. In many cases these laws contribute to homelessness, hunger, and ill-health for divorced or separated women and their children.” Discriminatory Family Laws Fuel Female Poverty – Human Rights Watch

China: “Women have led Muslim congregations in China for generations, but their tradition’s success may be its own undoing” A Mosque of Their Own – ChinaFile Beta

Indonesia: “Although the charges against her were unclear, Andy said the stigma felt by the young woman after her arrest burdened her with guilt for shaming her family and is believed to have prompted her decision to end her life.” Aceh Teenage Suicide Puts Focus On Sexist Laws – The Jakarta Globe

Iran: “Of course, when the same type of incident is reversed — a “badly veiled” women beaten in public by police — it’s simply a necessary enforcement of the dress code.” Cleric Beaten Up By ‘Badly Veiled’ Woman – RFERL

Iraq: “Anecdotal evidence suggests certain types of informal marriage are on the rise in sexually conservative Iraq. Unwilling to enter more formal marriages, young Iraqi couples are entering secret relationships that some critics describe as no better than prostitution.” Secret marriages rising in Iraq: and women and children are the losers – Niqash

Kazakhstan: “With respect to the status of women, Kazakhstan stands out in Central Asia because down through history, Kazakh women have had more rights and powers than women elsewhere in the region. For example, unlike neighbouring Uzbekistan, Tajikistan and Turkmenistan, Kazakhstan never cultivated purely patriarchal traditions.” Progress in the Face of Patriarchy and Islam – Qantara


“The Misconception: When your beliefs are challenged with facts, you alter your opinions and incorporate the new information into your thinking.
The Truth: When your deepest convictions are challenged by contradictory evidence, your beliefs get stronger.” The Backfire Effect – You Are Not So Smart

“There is only one sign that you should read to determine if the person that you are dating is right for you. How do you feel about yourself when you are dating them? After a few months, do you feel stronger and more competent, or do you find yourself deferring, demurring, and shrinking? As time goes on, do you find that you are more critical of yourself, your body, your personality, and your little quirks, or do you see yourself through his/her eyes, as entirely lovable and sexy?” There’s No Such Thing As “Soul Mates” – Role / Reboot


On the Freedom to Offend an Imaginary God – Sam Harris

“If you are one of those parents, perhaps it will be a little easier for you to see the relational damage of this parenting approach if you witness a parent outside of your own faith employing these techniques on their child.  Is it ok for an atheist, Buddhist, Muslim, Hindu, or Orthodox Jewish parent to force their child to follow their beliefs about religion, punish their child for expressing disagreement, and isolate their child from other influences?   In another religious context, doesn’t this look like abusive parenting?  Doesn’t it look like the parent cares much more about their own opinions than about their child?  Don’t you feel sympathy for the poor child, and suddenly find yourself believing that the parent ought to let their child have the freedom to choose his or her own opinions?  What makes you think that the experience is any different for the child if the parent happens to be a Christian?” “Biblical” Parenting, Conclusion – Past Tense, Present Progressive

Rep. Todd Akin’s views typical in anti-abortion religious right – Slacktivist

“That’s right, folks. I actually believed you could tell who was a virgin by sight. I was terrified that having crushes on boys meant I would lose the appearance of virginity, and that it wouldn’t matter whether or not I’d done anything because my guilt would be plain for all to see. I used to believe that women whose hips swayed when they walked had to be either married or no longer virgins – which, of course, became a problem once I developed my own hips. All this misinformation not only made me afraid of the changes in my own body, lest they be telltale signs of sinful lust, but it also provided a platform on which I (and fundamentalist kids like me) judged other women.” Can you TELL? or, Lies I Believed About Women’s Reproduction – The Phoenix and the Olive Branch

“The thing is, there’s no physical difference between premarital sex and marital sex, which makes this dichotomy…confusing. You’re told “sex makes you impure” and then suddenly, overnight, it changes to “sex is pure.” After years of pushing away every sexual thought as polluting, you’re suddenly supposed to see sex as something that is holy. That didn’t work for me.” The Purity Culture and “Sex Is Beautiful” – Love, Joy, Feminism

“The problem with us humans is our propensity in whatever it is we are doing to think we are always right.  Of course, some of the time we are right, and for good reasons, but the trap many fall into is that of believing oneself is somehow better for overcoming some obstacle than anyone who has ever faced that obstacle either.” Zealous Deconverted Assholes – Coffee Shop Atheist


There’s No Wrong Way to Make a Family – Role / Reboot

“Since 9/11, there has been a youth-driven revival of yarn arts, a statement against mass production and a reclamation of women’s crafts, contentious since the ’80s as anti-feminist. Contemporary activists have begun incorporating large-scale knit and crocheted pieces into political public art statements. Often called “yarn bombing” or “yarn graffiti,” these installations may beautify public spaces and add a touch of the handmade to our industrialized environments – drab urban landscapes are the usual targets—if temporarily.  More overtly political yarn bombers may target military tanks or relevant statues; for example, Marianne Joergensen stitched a pink blanket over a combat tank to protest Denmark’s involvement in the Iraq war in 2006:” Thread for Thought – Subversive Knitting

” By shaming a survivor or blaming her for what happened to her you are taking the side of the rapist.  You are helping the rapist keep the survivor down.  You are helping him to disempower her.  You are helping him to take away her voice.  You are aiding the rapist.” How to Aid a Rapist – Unladylike Musings


“As difficult as it may be to align schedules with the body clock, it may be worth it to try, because of significant potential health benefits. Disruption of circadian rhythms has been linked to such problems as diabetes, depression, dementia and obesity, says Steve Kay, a professor of molecular and computational biology at the University of Southern California. When the body’s master clock can synchronize functioning of all its metabolic, cardiovascular and behavioral rhythms in response to light and other natural stimuli, it “gives us an edge in daily life,” Dr. Kay says.” Your Body’s Best Time for Everything – Wall Street Journal

10 Terrific Toothbrush Tips – Care2

“The idea that we should sleep in eight-hour chunks is relatively recent. The world’s population sleeps in various and surprising ways. Millions of Chinese workers continue to put their heads on their desks for a nap of an hour or so after lunch, for example, and daytime napping is common from India to Spain.” Rethinking Sleep – NY Times

Nutrition for Healthy Skin: Silica, Niacin, Vitamin K2, and Probiotics – Chris Kresser

Beauty & Body Image

Why I Don’t Have Pubic Hair – Role / Reboot

“How this false equivalence means people who live healthy lifestyles but are not thin are shamed and humiliated, while people like me, who abuse our bodies terribly, are given a pass because our bad habits manifested themselves in weight loss. How self-destructive behaviors are overlooked if they lead to thinness. How putting so much emphasis on weight loss means people are discouraged by their attempts at healthy living when the scale doesn’t budge, and in the process losing out on all of the crucial benefits that come along with a healthier lifestyle.” Breaking the connection between “thin” and “healthy” – Fit and Feminist

“Physical beauty is such a massive, overwhelming force in people’s lives — especially women’s. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable just thinking about it. Uncomfortable, yet driven. Obsessed and despairing. The anxiety of it comes out especially when I’m thinking about getting older, these days, being as I’ve made it to the ripe old age of 28. (Might as well be dead!)” Beauty, and the Horror of It – Clarisse Thorn

Corporate Curves Report: Coating for Autumn – Hourglassy


“Fear of an uncertain future: it can stop us from doing great things, and it can keep us holding onto things that are hurting us.” Finding Peace with Uncertainty – Zen Habits

“Today is the most important day, I remind myself. Actually, yesterday was the most important day, but it’s over. Today is the next most important day, making it the most important day I have left in my life.” The Most Valuable Day – Tynan

“I define a strong mind as having a great capacity to face challenges. Being strong means having the resources, the mental skills, and the physical capabilities to confront difficulties of all kinds. When a person is strong-minded, they have the energy and stamina to face a challenge without being robbed of inner strength.” 5 Characteristics of a Strong Mind – Michael Hyatt

4 Ways to Self Soothe instead of Stress Eat – A Weight Lifted

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