Link Love (23/10/2012)
News Across the World
Pakistan: “They shot Malala because girls’ education threatens everything that they stand for. The greatest risk for violent extremists in Pakistan isn’t American drones. It’s educated girls.” Young Pakistani advocate for girls’ rights shot by Taliban – Feministing
& Pakistani Teen ‘Critical but Stable’; Rally Condemns Taliban Attackers – RFERL
“She offers many of the usual reasons people give for not wanting children—career, finances, bad genes, crazy parenting they don’t want to repeat and the overpopulated planet—but the simple truth is that it wasn’t a priority. “And if you’re not totally sold on it, it makes no sense,” she says.” Childless Couples – You Beauty
Excellent idea – take a picture at 8.36pm every day. You can join me and others by searching #836pm on Twitter and Instagram. 8:36pm – Enjoymentland
“More so, however, it’s a mindset that can be cultivated, a flexibility in engaging the rough and tumble of life as well as a willingness to live with ambiguity. It’s perhaps also an art we can undertake, a richness we can weave into the support and substance of our lives. The more resilient we are, research shows, the more satisfaction we tend to garner from life.” How to Cultivate Resilience – Mark’s Daily Apple
“From this viewpoint, the question became: “Why should a woman be legally forced to risk her life, freedom, and well-being to keep someone else alive inside her body, even if that someone else is also (possibly) a person?” This was the first time I had heard the pro-choice viewpoint phrased in a way that didn’t try to diminish the personhood of a fetus. That piqued my interest. It wasn’t long before I realized I found the pro-choice side the more convincing of the two, and I even began to allow myself to question the “personhood from conception” belief.” Rebecca recounts her childhood in Operation Rescue – Love, Joy, Feminism
“Many countries including the United Kingdom and Brazil have a one-year deferral period, allowing MSMs to donate blood if they have not had intercourse with a new partner within that time. The United States lags behind other countries that have moved away from questions concerning sexual orientation or MSM contact during the donor screening process. Dr. Busch explains that South Africa and Italy base eligibility on the number of sexual partners in the period before donation. According to Dr. Custer, the Australian equivalent of the FDA is contemplating reducing the one-year deferral criterion for MSM individuals to six months due to technological advancements that have narrowed “the window” of detection.” Tainted: Why Gay Men Still Can’t Donate Blood – The Atlantic
“Not once did they talk to him about invading another little person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. It was, to them, some kind of XY entitlement. How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations, and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?” ‘Boys Will Be Boys’ Is No Excuse for Bad Behavior – Role / Reboot
Toothed Vaginas and Wandering Uteri: The Seven Most Ridiculous Myths About Female Biology – Jezebel
“You say why don’t we put some responsibility on women for ‘getting raped’ but the problem is that we already put too much responsibility on women. That’s the fucking problem. And ultimately she can’t ever completely safeguard herself against rape because rapists exploit situations where they can seize power over someone else, which was pretty much the whole point of my previous post. And believe me if it is one thing women don’t need more reminding of it is that we could get raped. We already got that memo, loud and clear. The only thing women need reminding of is that it isn’t our fault. And if we are going to use court reporting to send out public warnings to try and “help avert a few situations like this in the future” then shouldn’t we be sending the message of responsibility to the men who actually rape and not their victims?” But why shouldn’t she take some responsibility too for the rape? – Blue Milk
“Is it that people believe that feminism is no longer needed?
If feminism were no longer needed, I would not be afraid that I would be sexually assaulted when I walk home alone at night.
If feminism were no longer needed, the wage gap would not still be 71 cents to the dollar in Canada.
If feminism were no longer needed, media would not hold women to an impossible and unrealistic standard of appearance.
If feminism were no longer needed, eating disorders would not be a serious epidemic.
If feminism were no longer needed, porn would not be teaching 11-year-old boys that violence against women is sexy.
If feminism were no longer needed, survivors of sexual assault would not be blamed.
If feminism were no longer needed, rates of intimate partner violence would not be estimated as close to 20 to 30 per cent in Canada, the US and the UK.” “I’m not a feminist or anything, but…” – The McGill Daily
“The wiggle room between the rock and the hard place—that sweet spot between being wanted and being respected—is all but non-existent. It is a sliver, a tiny wedge, the narrowest of alleys. Adult women spend years trying to find it, alternating between extremes, recalibrating, shooting for appreciation without denigration. Look at me, but not for too long. Want me, but don’t try so hard. Think that I’m beautiful, but know that I’m classy. But not too classy. Lady in the street, freak in the bed. You know the drill.” What a Disgusting Facebook Page Shows Us About a Woman’s Need to Feel Desired – Role / Reboot
Headaches: Explained, explored and hacked effectively without drugs – Paleo for Women
“Aspartame accounts for over 75 percent of the adverse reactions to food additives reported to the FDA. Many of these reactions are very serious including seizures and death. A few of the 90 different documented symptoms listed in the report as being caused by aspartame include: Headaches/migraines, dizziness, seizures, nausea, numbness, muscle spasms, weight gain, rashes, depression, fatigue, irritability, tachycardia, insomnia, vision problems, hearing loss, heart palpitations, breathing difficulties, anxiety attacks, slurred speech, loss of taste, tinnitus, vertigo, memory loss, and joint pain.” Aspartame is, by far, the most dangerous substance on the market that is added to our foods – Mercola
Do I Have Endometriosis? – Care2
6 Ways to Stay Healthy This Winter – Think Simple Now
Beauty & Body Image
Mirrors – a Short History – Wild Beauty
“Lastly, I must disagree that the average woman even wants a smaller back and bigger breasts. There is a huge stigma attached to large breasts the world over. In the west, anything above a D cup is thought of as fake or “porn star boobs.” Women and even young girls get accused of being a “slut” or “skank” just for having large breasts. A busty woman was even thrown off a Southwest Airlines flight earlier this year for “inappropriate” cleavage.” Vanity Sizing in DD Cups and Up Bras? – Hourglassy
“When we dismiss someone’s words due to our assessment of their appearance, we’re minimizing them to their body.” You’re Not Pretty or Ugly Enough to Talk Body Image. Do It Anyway. – Beauty Redefined
“But I spend a lot of time looking at what I think is not beautiful and continually beating myself up emotionally and physically because of the “scars” left behind from being morbidly obese. Loose skin has always plagued me and while some people would look at it as battle wounds from a hard fought war I still find it extremely difficult to look at and even more difficult to share. So my goal for the #whatsbeautiful campaign is to not focus on a physical goal because there is nothing I don’t think I can accomplish when it comes to raising the proverbial bar. Instead I’m focusing on an emotional goal: Accepting me for all of me.” #WhatsBeautiful – A Lifechanging Journey
The Top 5 Reasons Why You Can’t Love and Accept Yourself – Christie Inge
“Stephen Pressfield calls it resistance. Seth Godin calls it the lizard brain. It’s fight and flight; it’s rocking back and forth in a corner. It’s a million things from a million angles. What it boils down to is: you’re never going to feel ready to put your work out there. And it’s going to totally suck in a variety of new and unimaginable ways when you do.” starting before you are ready – Eclectic Editor
Create Your Masterpiece, a 16-Step Guide – The Minimalists
8 Ways to Defeat Persistent Unwanted Thoughts – Psychology Today
“However, underneath the superficial niceties, I believe that it’s this: being taken care of, on a very structured + safe level, and relaxing into the knowledge that you will always have everything that you want + nothing is required from you in the way of stress or thought about making it happen, financially speaking.” Fifty Shades of Taking Personal Responsibility – Mara Glatzel
How Much is Too Much? Using Social Media at the Office – Daily Muse
How to Get Your Boss to Say Yes, Part 2 – Michael Hyatt
The New Girl’s Network: ‘The Polite Little Girl in the Room’ – Women 2.0
5 online places to find homemade gifts – Tecca