Love Languages: Receiving Gifts
The third love language is Receiving Gifts. To read more about the other love languages, check out my first port here.
If your beloved always lights up when you give them a present, however small it might be, there’s a good chance that their love language is Receiving Gifts.
Having Receiving Gifts as your primary love language doesn’t make you greedy or materialistic, because it’s not the size or the value of the gift that’s important, but the thought behind it. Knowing that someone was thinking about them when they bought a special treat, flowers, or a small item they knew you’d love, makes these people feel loved and treasured.
It’s important that you don’t just give your beloved random, unimportant things however, as that might make them feel like you don’t care about them, or don’t know them. The gifts should be chosen with your beloved in mind, and as a way to show them that you “get” them, and understand and know what they want and need, as well as what’s important to them.
If you beloved’s primary love language is Receiving Gifts, and you only give them gifts on their birthday and at Christmas, there’s a good chance they feel neglected and they might doubt your feelings for them.
- Buy little things “just because”.
- Choose gifts based on your beloved’s interests and personality.
- Remember it’s the thought that counts.
- Give small gifts frequently rather than big gifts once or twice a year.
- Give impersonal gifts.
- Think your beloved is greedy or materialistic because s/he needs gifts.
- Give expensive gifts, thoughtful gifts are more valued.