Link Love (10/11/2012)
Yay! Obama won big last night. So, how’d all those GOP rape apologist candidates do? – Feministing
News Across the World
Afghanistan: “Thousands of Afghan girls and boys are trafficked into neighboring countries and sold into slavery each year. Though it is taboo, prostitution is alive and thriving – at the cost of those forced to work in it.” Human trafficking, prostitution thrive in Afghanistan – Deutche Welle
Pakistan: “Fellow pupils voice support for the cause of Malala Yousafzai, shot in the head by the Taliban because she advocated a girl’s right to attend school” In Swat, a girls’ school gripped by fear – Guardian Weekly
Sudan: “Collecting firewood for cooking puts women in Sudan’s conflict-plagued and impoverished Darfur region at risk of rape.
But a simple stove that replaces traditional open fires has cut the time they spend on potentially dangerous missions looking for wood, while also helping the environment and boosting their finances, the United Nations World Food Programme says.” Simple stove brings safety, income for Darfur women – AFP
Syria: Defected Woman general trains Syria’s Rebels – Al Jazeera
Tunisia: “When Tunisia’s National Constitutional Assembly published the new draft constitution earlier this year, its references to women provoked outrage. One article stipulated that the roles of men and women “should complement each other within the household.”” Tunisian women fight new ‘sexist’ constitution – Deutche Welle
UK: Islamic charity opens women-only homeless hostels – BBC
This is me: Top 10 Things Every INFJ Wants You to Know
“Although Avon claims it’s “in it to end it,” the firm continues to use chemicals linked to breast cancer and other diseases—including parabens, triclosan, and formaldehyde-releasing preservatives—in its products, notes the Campaign for Safe Cosmetics in an online petition. If Avon is serious about ending breast cancer, the group adds, it needs to “meet or beat” Johnson & Johnson’s recent pledge to rid its products of cancer-causing chemicals.” Avon Claims to Fight Breast Cancer, So Why Are Its Products Full of Carcinogens? -Ecouterre
Different Types of Clutterers – Savvy Sugar
“After reading I Kissed Dating Goodbye, I was afraid to so much as have a crush on a boy. I had always been taught that I should be sexually pure, but adding emotional purity to the mix raised everything to the next level. For me, it was easy to be sexually pure. None of my friends were dating, and I didn’t even really know any guys my age anyway. As for sexual thoughts, I was pretty good at sublimating them. I was not, however, very good at not having crushes on boys. I would make up elaborate daydreams of how this boy or that would ask my father’s permission to court me, and there were of course roses and romantic walks and eventually a ring. But because of Harris, I now believed that these daydreams were wrong. They were a form of cheating on my future spouse. It got to the point where I was afraid to so much asthink about guys for fear of cheating on my future spouse.
I wish I’d realized that love is infinite. I wish I’d realized that my girlhood crushes were harmless. I wish I could have enjoyed those feelings instead of hating them and feeling eternally guilty.” What I Learned from Joshua Harris – Love, Joy, Feminism
I really want to quote this whole thing: The Terrible Bargain We Have Regretfully Struck – Shakesville
“Instead of being a man, just be you. Be decent and be kind. Be surprised. Be mad sometimes and be wrong sometimes. It’s all going to happen whether you like it or not. No action or reaction a man has should be contorted into some superficial expectation of what a man is supposed to do. If you’re a man, whether you’re walking or reading or fucking or praying, whatever you’re doing or feeling, you’re already doing what a man does. Let us agree that it’s time to not only retire but refute the regressive notion that there is only one way to be “like a man.”” Stop Telling Men to Act Like a Man – Role / Reboot
“Second, I began to wonder if people like Mitt Romney in some sense have to assume that the extremely poor are where they are because of their own laziness and bad choices. Why? Because otherwise the guilt at being so rich while others have absolutely nothing would surely be completely overwhelming. If I, a graduate student raising two children, feel guilty at how much I have when I encounter a homeless person, how much more guilty must a person with a private jet or an elevator for his cars feel? Believing that poor people are poor because they’re lazy and make bad choices might be the only way to stay sane and be able to actually enjoy the absolute opulence of that kind of wealth.” How We Feel About the Poor – Love, Joy, Feminism
“When I left my fundamentalist church, I expected to find a world taken over by feminists. I had no idea what that would have meant, but I was pretty sure things would be different. I thought maybe people would call me by my own name. I thought I’d be able to sign contracts without anybody asking what my husband thought.
I never thought I’d be 26 and explaining to utility providers that no, this is not, in fact, Mrs. Stuart or the Stuart residence, but they are welcome to come and hook up Mr. Stuart’s cable service tomorrow afternoon.” Adventures in Egalitarian Marriage, Part One: Mrs Who? – The Phoenix and the Olive Branch
“Life’s not perfect. Values change. I can no longer own a slave and I’m happy with that because what society considers right and wrong is up for debate. The oppressed get the rights they deserve. And as a side note, I simply do not understand how one can put things like health issues, such as HIV, infertility and STIs in the same category as rape. It seems that any sort of sexual activity outside the traditional Christian marriage is broken and doesn’t deserve any recognition.” Blindly heteronormative – Gaelick
“”Increasingly, I’ve started recognizing this kind of behavior for what it is: privilege-checking as a form of internet sport. It’s a kind of trolling, with all the politics I agree with, but motivations and execution that turns my stomach. It’s well-intended (SO well-intended), but when the motivations seem to be less about opening dialogue about the issues, and more about performance, righteousness, and intolerance for those who don’t agree with you… well, I’m not on-board.”” Liberal Bullying: Privilege-checking and semantics-scolding as internet sport – Offbeat Empire
Eating Loads of Carbs, Sugar May Raise Risk of Cognitive Impairment, Mayo Clinic Study Finds – Mayo Clinic
Yoga Research: 5 Proven Facts that Make Yoga Awesome – Care2
Pumpkin Butter Cups – Civilized Caveman Cooking
Beauty & Body Image
“When I first realized how much I blame my body for everything in my life, I thought my target was wrong. I don’t need to blame my body, I need to blame an eating disorder! Or my mother! Or society!
And, sure, all those things play a role.
But what’s even more interesting to me lately is the possibility that there’s nothing to blame.
That this is just my life, and maybe the challenges I face aren’t about blame but about what I’m here to learn.
Maybe instead of blaming my body, I can see that I’m here to learn a lesson about self-trust and self-care. And to share that with others.” Blaming Our Bodies – Curvy Yoga
“She continued: “How do you know I’m not looking in the mirror and going ‘I wish I could gain ten pounds?’ Which is actually quite often the case. But if you say that you sound like you’re bragging that you’re naturally thin, and you’re not allowed to do that.” The price of looking like Alexa Chung, as one blogger friend of mine put it, is that you can’t talk about what it’s like to look like Alexa Chung.” Skinny Privilege – Alexa Chung
Natural Hair Group in Georgia Gives Black Barbie Dolls a Natural Hair Makeover – Huffington Post
When to Fire a Top Performer Who Hurts Your Company Culture – Harvard Business Review
The Rare Building Blocks of Exceptional People – Sales Gravy
How to Dress for Success – Real Simple
Things That Annoy Your Boss – The Grindstone