Equality Link Love (13/11/2012)

So this is going to be a special edition of the usual Link Love, as the posts I normally put under the heading “Equality” has been building up. I used to actually have five different headings, Women’s Issues, Men’s Issues, Women & Men’s Issues, LGBTQ Issues and Racism. Now I’ll be doing it a bit different this time around, and maybe if I continue to have so many posts for equality, I’ll let some of the new headlines stick around.

Women’s Sexuality

“The answer, of course, isn’t to treat girls’ sexuality like the Ring of Doom, something that must be kept secret in order to be kept safe. As Ford writes, “we do our girls no favours by refusing to acknowledge the raw complexities of their own sexual desires.” But helping girls own their own pleasure will take more than explicit encouragement to masturbate. It means teaching men of all ages, in no uncertain terms, that women’s sexuality belongs to women. Just as we need to reiterate that sexy Halloween costumes and short skirts aren’t an invitation to harassment, so too we need to remind our boys -– loudly and clearly -– that girls’ interest in sex isn’t an open invitation. Until we do that, the grim “policing” of young women’s sexuality will continue.” If It’s Not a Secret, It’s Not Safe: Girls, Boys and the Pleasure Paradox – Jezebel

Teenage Dating in a ‘Twilight’ – ‘Hunger Games’ World – Good Men Project

“There are, after all, consequences to the widespread belief that these acts of harassment are regrettable but not ultimately punishable. Specifically, it obscures truths about the practice—first, that this kind of thing is not merely the province of children who know not what they do. While the police have yet to confirm the identity of Todd’s harasser, the “hacktivist” group Anonymous has identified an adult man who lived nearby as the culprit. (He denies the harassment, though he told a Canadian television news crew that he did indeed know Todd.) It remains to be seen whether they’ve pointed the finger at the right person. But the theory—that an adult would have targeted a teen-ager for such abuse, that he would have tricked her and been indifferent to the price she paid—is not merely plausible. It is a thing that happens every day on the Internet.” Amanda Todd, Michael Brutsch, and Free Speech Online – The New Yorker

Women’s Reproductive Rights

“You know, in all this one thing I can’t wrap my head around is how people who don’t think that pregnant people should have the right to decide to give birth, after that think that parents should have ultimate sovereignty over their children? I’ve never been through labour myself. But I have watched more episodes of One Born Every Minute than I should probably admit to in public, and I’m not sure where in all the swearing, pooing, vomiting, cursing, crying and epidurals comes the magical responsibility fairy.” If you can’t trust me with a choice, how can you trust me with a child? The Children’s Rights Referendum – Consider the Tea Cosy

“So let’s get this straight, taking birth control makes a woman’s body LESS likely to dispel fertilized eggs. If you believe that life begins at conception, shouldn’t it be your moral duty to reduce the number of zygote “abortions?” If you believe that a zygote is a human, you actually kill more babies by refusing to take birth control.”Zygotes Lost With Birth Control v Without Birth Control – Love, Joy, Feminism

“In my post I continually spoke of the goals and policies of “the pro-life movement.” I do know that the pro-life movement is a diverse thing made up of diverse organizations and individuals. When I spoke of the pro-life movement as a whole, I was referring to the chief organizations, leaders, and political rhetoric. In other words, the dominant narrative. I am aware that there are both individuals and organizations who claim the title “pro-life” and yet do work to promote birth control and improve the social safety net so that every women can afford to raise children. I am also aware that there are some who call themselves “pro-life” and yet don’t want to see abortion banned. My purpose was not to speak of every person or organization claiming the title “pro-life,” but rather to indict the dominant voices, organizations, and narratives that are currently so much a part of our politics today.” A Response to Objections on my Pro-Life Movement Post – Love, Joy, Feminism

“When the emphasis is placed on trying to convince people to not have sex unless they are open to having a baby, even when making effective means of birth control more widespread and available would actually be more effective in bringing down the number of unplanned pregnancies and abortions, well, it becomes pretty clear that I did misunderstand the pro-life movement as a child, teen, and young adult, and this was the point of my original point. I thought the primary goal was preventing the murder of babies, and that in order to do that we should be willing to examine a variety of different strategies to go about achieving the goal, things like improving the social safety net for mothers or making birth control more effective and widespread. But if the only solutions the pro-life movement is willing to pursue are urging people to be abstinent, banning abortion, or doing whatever possible to keep women who are already pregnant from having abortions, well, it really does start to sound like it’s about believing that sex should always be attached to procreation and needs to have “consequences” and not about preventing the murder of unborn babies.” If You Don’t Want A Baby, Just don’t Have Sex? – Love, Joy, Feminism

“A comprehensive global study of abortion has concluded that abortion rates are similar in countries where it is legal and those where it is not, suggesting that outlawing the procedure does little to deter women seeking it.” Legal or Not, Abortion Rates Compare – NY Times

“The term “pro-life” should be a shorthand for respect for the sanctity of life. But I will not let that label apply to people for whom sanctity for life begins at conception and ends at birth. What about the rest of life? Respect for the sanctity of life, if you believe that it begins at conception, cannot end at birth. That radical narrowing of our concern for the sanctity of life is leading to terrible distortions in our society.” “Pro-Life” or Did You Really Mean “Anti-Woman” – Care2

Gender Roles

“I think we can all agree that gender roles have softened considerably since the 1960s, and even since the 1980s. So what’s with the current design? If you look through retrospective photos of the Easy-Bake Oven, the current one is about as girly as they’ve come, with the exception of one front-load model about a decade ago that looked like it was straight out of Barbie’s Dream Mansion. It’s 2012. Women are moving into the workplace faster than ever before, and more and more dads are finding great joy as primary caregivers to their children. In a time when we’re up in arms about Lego Friends’ girls being preoccupied with beauty, why aren’t we up in arms over the exclusion of boys from an entire toy phenomenon?” My Sons’ Easy Bake Oven Shame – Role / Reboot

“To Vision Forum, the post important thing about a child is its gender. This has changed in mainstream American society. Sure, it’s far from perfect – as the mother of a daughter growing up in a princess pink girl culture, I know this better than some – but we no longer blink at the artistic boy or the athletic girl. Skills, talents, and interests matter. But not for Vision Forum. No. For Vision Forum, your gender matters first, and any skills, talents, or interests that don’t fit your gender, well, you can just forget about those.” What’s the most important thing about you? Oh right. – Love, Joy, Feminism

“So, the whole “girls can’t do what boys do” has come up before, but inevitably as she gets older the conversations become more complex and the follow-up questions more thoughtful and intelligent. When kids are little, the differences between boys and girls can seem miniscule. From sports to academics to relationships–both sexes seem to enjoy a similar trajectory and we are quick to let them know, at this stage, that a girl can do anything a boy can do. But soon the divisions between the sexes in relation to specific social boundaries can become difficult to navigate as well as more obvious. Women face uphill battles when it comes to entering certain career paths, for instance, and we know are still experiencing a gap in the pay scale.” Deep Conversations With My Daughter – Princess Free Zone

Is Chivalry Sexist – Role / Reboot

Equality News & Legislation

Petitioning Website Will No Longer Be as Progressive as You Once Thought – Autostraddle

Ireland Prepares to Open Doors to First Abortion Clinic – Feminspire & Marie Stopes Belfast Clinic to Offer Abortions – Cork Feminista

Random Official Takes It Upon Himself to Save N. Ireland from Gay Parents – Care2

Pennsylvania Bill Would Reduce Welfare Benefits for Women Who Cannot Prove They Were Raped – ThinkProgress

“I think we have a new one for the bingo card. “It wouldn’t have happened if you weren’t in a bar,” “make lemonade out of lemons,” and “of course the victim isn’t to blame BUT” are classics, and “other people might be drunker than you” is a nice end-around to the fact that the victim wasn’t, herself, drunk. “Now you’ve learned a Very Important Lesson About Friendship,” however, is a new one.” Judge tells assault victim that this is what she gets for going to a bar – Feministe


“What’s more: once it kicks in, it doesn’t kick in equally for everybody. The more racially diverse your peer group, the less strong the amygdala effect. At really high levels of diversity, the effect disappeared entirely. The authors of the study write that ”these findings suggest that neural biases to race are not innate and that race is a social construction, learned over time.”” New Evidence That Racism Isn’t Natural – The Atlantic

“But you don’t understand what it feels like to be me. I am a Native person. You are (most likely) a white person. You walk through life everyday never having the fear of someone mis-representing your people and your culture. You don’t have to worry about the vast majority of your people living in poverty, struggling with alcoholism, domestic violence, hunger, and unemployment caused by 500+ years of colonialism and federal policies aimed at erasing your existence. You don’t walk through life everyday feeling invisible, because the only images the public sees of you are fictionalized stereotypes that don’t represent who you are at all. You don’t know what it’s like to care about something so deeply and know at your core that it’s so wrong, and have others in positions of power dismiss you like you’re some sort of over-sensitive freak.” Open Letter to the PocaHotties and Indian Warriors this Halloween – Native Appropriations & Halloween Costume Shopping: A sampling of the racism for sale – Native Appropriations


“The driving force behind the Christian Right’s political action is something that I call the “Divine Vending Machine” philosophy of government. Vending machines are a three-step process: inserting a token, pushing a selection button, and then dispensing a product. The Divine Vending Machine requires the deposit of a token: a national that is predominantly Christian. This is why the Right is terribly opposed to secularism and is frightened by immigration, particularly by people of non-Christian faith.” Why Gays Are to Blame for Hurricane Sandy – Role / Reboot


How to Accidentally Raise a Feminist Daughter – Role / Reboot

“Currently there is a movie being aired on HBO called “The Girl,” and it portrays what model Tippi Hedron had to go through in order to make it big in Hollywood as an actress.  She starred in Alfred Hitchcock’s infamous film “The Birds,” where she had to endure his utter obsession with her while they were making the film.  He stalked her, called her at home incessantly, made sexual passes at her, forced her to kiss him while being driven to work together, made sexual comments when they were alone together, told her he loved her, all while she was doing her best to avoid him and “just get through it.”  He punished her on the set.  Made her do over 40 takes of a particularly difficult scene, had her play a rape scene on set while mentally and emotionally he was raping her off set.  He climbed into her mind and attempted to turn her inside out, to the point that by the end of the movie she talks about how she feels like she is losing herself and can’t figure out who she is anymore.” Tippi Hedron as “The Girl” – Rooted In Being

Men & Women’s Issues

“When we shut down women’s anger, women’s desire, women’s impetuousness — we create half-people. When we shut down men’s tenderness, men’s vulnerability, men’s empathy — we create half-people. Half people alternately long for a partner to complete them, and resent the hell out of those partners for being able (or, unable) to do for them what they could not do for themselves. It makes for a miserable existence, characterised by the strange and odious way in which men and women simultaneously long for and loathe each other. That’s not nature, that’s a social construct that needs to be dismantled. I lived in that misery of that construct for years.
I call myself a feminist because I see organised feminism as one of the great vehicles for both social justice and personal transformation. I am a feminist because I want to see a world in which both men and women are free to become complete people. Feminism helped me understand that testosterone and a Y chromosome didn’t destine me to be unreliable, predatory, and emotionally inarticulate – but that buying into sexist myths did.” Confessions of a Formerly Sexist Man – Hugo Schwyzer

“I’m still here, I’m just kidding. I value our friendship way more than any dumb attraction. Let me know if you still wanna go pick pumpkins this weekend. I promise I won’t try to hold your hand. Unless you wanna.” Can We Still Be Friends? – The Hairpin

Equality Misc.

“So, here are the contradictions as I see them. As an ally, my job is to not impose my own beliefs of what’s ‘right’, but instead amplify the voices of the oppressed people that I’m trying to be an ally for. Except that I shouldn’t bug them about educating me, because that’s not what they’re there for. And it’s my duty to talk about the issue of oppression in question, because it’s the job of all of us, rather than the oppressed people, to fix it. Except that when I talk, I shouldn’t be using my privilege to drown out the voices of the oppressed people. Also, I should get everything right, 100% of the time. Including the terminology that the oppressed people in question themselves disagree on. This is what I consider The Unicorn Ally phenomenon.” The Unicorn Ally – Pyromaniac Harlot’s Blog

1 Comment

  1. I can’t believe you are quoting Hugo Schwyzer. His whole piece stinks of blatant hypocrisy and sly mockery of his “feminism” especially after what he did!

    Any man who claims to have feminist credentials must be viewed with utmost suspicion, particularly if he also happens to be heterosexual.


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