Link Love (07/02/2013)
“Learning to be comfortable with discomfort.
If you learn this skill, you can master pretty much anything. You can beat procrastination, start exercising, make your diet healthier, learn a new language, make it through challenges and physically grueling events, explore new things, speak on a stage, let go of all that you know, and become a minimalist. And that’s just the start.” Discomfort Zone: How to Master the Universe – Zen Habits
“So I have two beginnings for you, two opposing-but-necessary thought-pathways that you have to synthesize into your brain. They are contradictory. You will not like them. But you must read them. They are:
1. These are hard times, and it is okay to be where you are! Your position is perfectly understandable, and there is absolutely no shame in it. You can work on this, and you can bring yourself into the life that you would like to have. Everyone takes a different path, and no one path is better than any other – some people simply come into themselves later in life.
2. These are always hard times and everyone is in a recession. You are out of excuses and we are running out of patience. Others spent their twenties improving themselves, taking joy in their skills, building their futures and forming their hearts in the very same difficult economic climate; you spent your twenties so terrified of risk and rejection that you bummed yourself right out of the game, and it’s nobody else’s responsibility to haul you back into it. You are not inherently entitled to a regular wage, a pleasant job, a comfortable home or a willing girlfriend, and complaining that life has not yet handed you these things because “you still need to work on your confidence” is naive at best and offensive at worst.” #437: Adulthood Is a Scary Horse – Captain Awkward
“Imagine if the only thing that could possibly make you happy was one grain of sand you had to go find on the beach. Your odds of ever being happy would be exorbitantly low. But good things are as abundant in the world as sand is on a beach. Our problem is that we constantly lose sight of this because we’re looking for one fucking particular little grain that we expected to have and convinced ourselves belonged to us. But nothing belongs to us and nothing cannot be taken from us, not even if we deserve to keep it. But, fortunately, there’s plenty of sand on the beach for the taking.” How to Live Happily: Have No Expectations – Camels With Hammers
“Inside, you have great compassion for poor people. Great. Does that result in you doing anything about it? Do you hear about some terrible tragedy in your community and say, “Oh, those poor children. Let them know that they are in my thoughts”? Because fuck you if so — find out what they need and help provide it. A hundred million people watched that Kony video, virtually all of whom kept those poor African children “in their thoughts.” What did the collective power of those good thoughts provide? Jack fucking shit. Children die every day because millions of us tell ourselves that caring is just as good as doing. It’s an internal mechanism controlled by the lazy part of your brain to keep you from actually doing work.” 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person – Cracked
“Because optimal learning isn’t necessarily optimal enjoyment, this also means there will often be a tradeoff between the two. You want progress to be intense enough to reach your goals in a timely fashion, but not so intense you lose your desire to learn the subject at all. Where you strike that balance will probably depend on what your goal is and how much motivation you have.” Flow Doesn’t Maximize Improvement – Scott H Young
Baby Bust: Is the World’s Population Actually Declining? – Time
“But as a non-believer, I don’t enjoy the same freedom. I mean, I do, of course – we all enjoy the same freedom of expression, in theory, anyway. But the truth is that I’m expected to keep my non-believing thoughts to myself for the most part. Can you imagine if I frequently blurted out some secular or atheist statement to address conversations in order to buy myself some cred or just because I felt like it even if it wasn’t welcome and the situation didn’t call for it?” Insert: God – Life As I Know It
“And here’s where I start having all sorts of unpleasant thoughts. What is so important about keeping women emotionally immature, relationally inexperienced, and sexually ignorant? Could it be that the less maturity a woman has, the less likely she is to upset the apple cart and the easier she is to manipulate? I read somewhere that one reason fundamentalist Mormon sects marry off their daughters underage is that that way they end up saddled with several children before they get to a point where they’re mature enough to truly introspect and question. In the Victorian era physicians argued that women should avoid book learning so as to avoid damaging their fertility. In many parts of the world today, keeping young women inexperienced and ignorant continues to serve as a form of control.” Notes on Virginity: Idolizing My Inexperience – Love, Joy, Feminism
“We have an abundance of rape and violence against women in this country and on this Earth, though it’s almost never treated as a civil rights or human rights issue, or a crisis, or even a pattern. Violence doesn’t have a race, a class, a religion, or a nationality, but it does have a gender.” A Rape a Minute, a Thousand Corpses a Year – Mother Jones
“What I’m doing is apologizing to the little boy inside all of us men who was willing to show our vulnerability, but was subsequently shut down. I am empathizing with the pain, frustration, and fear caused by the messed-up social conditioning and training, we men have received, which makes us feel compelled to abide by a set of rules with regard to maintaining masculinity.” Trapped: An Apology to Men – The Current Conscience
How to Help a Friend Who Has Been Sexually Assaulted
“Indeed, often we forget how far-reaching King’s vision was. Brave for his time, it would have made him a target of controversy even today. In speeches, King called for governments to invest in programs to guarantee incomes for poor Americans. He came to identify with Latino workers and struggling rural whites, and advocated on their behalf through his work. His doctrine of non-violence led him to oppose the Vietnam War, a stance that outraged fellow civil rights allies – including his most powerful, President Lyndon Johnson, who’d expected King’s support after signing the Voting Rights Act of 1965. And in his final days, King worked with organised labour to call for an economic bill of rights to protect the disadvantaged.” What would King learn from us? – Feministe
The Home Economics of Domestic Workers – Bitch Media
“I said these numbers are often “forgotten,” but that’s not the case. These numbers are intentionally avoided, ignored, swept under the rug, shelved in favor of potent rhetoric and emotional outcry. It is easier to have a conversation about “morals” and “responsibility” if we pretend that the users of abortion services are women without a sense of either. It is easier to rail against them if they are somehow miraculously distinct from the women we know and love. But that is simply, factually, scientifically not true. They come from all backgrounds, all ages, all faiths. There is no us and them, no division between “those” kind of women and “our” kind of women. There are just women.” On This 40th Anniversary of Roe v. Wade, Here’s Why It’s More Important Than Ever – Role / Reboot
5 Homemade Cleaners – Clean My Space
Homemade Herb Cough Syrup Recipe – Wellness Mama
“This post is about my journey from breakout (left) to clarity (right).” WAP me Pretty – Cave Girl Eats
Headaches, Hives, and Heartburn: Could Histamine be the Cause? – Chris Kresser
Grain-free Sandwich Bread (Paleo and SCD) – Against All Grain
Grain Free- Almond & Coconut Truffle Tart – NeoHomesteading
Paleo Blueberry Muffins – Livin Paleo
Paleo Cheesecake – Living Healthy With Chocolate
Zesty White Chocolate & Tangerine Hot Chocolate – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations
Strawberry Ice Cream Chocolate Roll (Grain, Dairy Nut Free) – Primally Inspired
“Now how would you react if the person hurting were you? Would you acknowledge your pain, and figure out how to help yourself? Would you be just as kind and empathetic?
Because this is what self-kindness looks like, said Rosie Molinary, an author and educator who empowers women to embrace their authentic selves so they can live their passion and purpose and give their gifts to the world.
“Self-kindness is taking all those actions, all those reactions and applying them to yourself just as readily as you offer them to others.” It’s about acknowledging the difficulty of a situation, recognizing your efforts and soothing yourself, she said.” 7 Ideas for Being Kinder to Yourself – World of Psychology
“As well-intentioned as these body positivity and self-esteem campaigns are, it starts to feel very alienating when everyone around you is busy Loving Themselves and you just can’t seem to get there. With every injunction to “love yourself” comes an implicit blame if you do not.” “Love Yourself”: A Beautiful But Flawed Idea – Brute Reason
Pin-Adequate? The Surprising Reason Pinterest Makes Some Women Feel Like Crap But Doesn’t Phase Others – Modern Mrs Darcy