Link Love (19/02/2013)
“Seriously, I’m really getting tired of people griping about how their FREEDOM OF SPEECH is being violated because people don’t like what they’re saying and say as much. Look, you are perfectly free to call a gay person a pervert. Really! But that does not mean I can’t call you out for that, or that I have to be buddy buddy with you, or that I have to endorse your hate. Heck no. And you know what? You are perfectly free to call a woman you don’t like a c***. Really! But if you do that, be ready for some serious backlash, because believe it or not, being hateful and sexist has consequences.” Freedom of Speech =/= Speech Free from Consequences – Love, Joy, Feminism
The Power of Habit Investments – Zen Habits
“What Juster reveals, quite simply, is that when American evangelicalism arose in New England in the 1740s, it was a radical movement based on gender equality. Evangelical women preached, voted in their congregations, and spoke on an equal level with men. In fact, the profoundly egalitarian nature of eighteenth century New England evangelicalism completely horrified those in mainstream culture. Early evangelicals, though, reveled in rejecting conventions, and that included rejecting the hierarchies of age, theological training, and gender.
In fact, Juster reveals that the language of converts gender was often reversed, with men using the feminine language of community and emotion and women invoking the individualism of masculine discourse. More than that, the evangelical experience itself was gendered feminine by mainstream society.” When Evangelicalism Was Egalitarian – Love, Joy, Feminism
“Karl Marx saw religion as an opiate of the poor: it soothed them so that they did not rise up against their capitalist oppressors. For Marx, this short-term relief hardly outweighed the long-term cost of poverty. It turns out that Marx may have been right. Research by political scientists Frederick Solt, Philip Habel, and J. Tobin Grant (all from Southern Illinois University) suggests that greater economic inequality correlates with greater religiosity, a correlation which they argue stems from the rich using religion to discourage wealth redistribution.” Religion the opiate of the poor? – Science on Religion
A Powerful Case Against God – Friendly Atheist
“If we ever hope to realize a more positive masculinity, though, we must leave behind these insulting generalizations about the nature of men.
Just as we must never excuse the misogyny of intimate partner abuse by saying that men are violent by nature, we must be careful never to excuse other forms of sexism by saying that men are slaves to sexual desire.
After all, it is not a far leap from “men want to spread their seed, so they cheat” to “men want to spread their seed, so they rape.”
In short, men are human beings. We have will, agency, and responsibility for our actions.
It’s time we hold men to the high standard that our cognition deserves.” Why Saying “Men Are Slaves to Their Sex Drive” Is Insulting to Men – Everyday Feminism
“So, this is kind of horrifying, but some individuals are actually arguing that women shouldn’t be allowed to serve in more military positions because when they do the rate of sexual assaults will go up, and that will ruin men’s careers. Yes, you heard that right. Men’s careers.” The Real Victims of Sexual Assault in the Military… Men’s Careers?!? – Love, Joy, Feminism
3 Life Lessons I Want to Share With My Only Son – Role / Reboot
“The laundries — a beneficent-sounding word that helped hide the mistreatment that took place inside their walls — were operated by four orders of Catholic nuns in Ireland from 1922 to 1996. Over 10,000 young women, considered a burden by family, school and the state, spent an average of six months to a year locked up in these workhouses doing unpaid, manual work. Some were kept there against their will for years. Their numbers were made up by unmarried mothers and their daughters, women and girls who had been sexually abused, women with mental or physical disabilities who were unable to live independently, and young girls who had grown up under the care of the church and the state. The laundries were “a mechanism that society, religious orders and the state came up with to try and get rid of people deemed not to be conforming to the so-called mythical, cultural purity that was supposed to be part of Irish identity,” Irish historian Diarmaid Ferriter told Ireland’s national broadcasting service, RTE, this week. Known as the fallen women, the workers were only entitled to leave if signed out by a family member or if a nun found a position of work for them, and if they tried to escape the confines of the home they were brought back by the Irish police.” Ireland’s Magdalene Laundries: Report Exposes a National Shame – Time
Man who adopts his wife’s last name is accused of fraud – Salon
“While it’s heartening to see so much pushback in popular media against slut-shaming and victim-blaming, it’s not enough to merely diagnose and describe the disheartening scope of the problem. We need cultural and technological solutions that put girls and boys on a level sexual playing field. As incomplete and imperfect as they are, these five suggestions constitute a start.” ‘Slut-Shaming Fatigue’: Because This Crap Has Got to Stop – Jezebel
“The conservative argument for marriage has it exactly wrong. Marriage isn’t a ticket to wealth or stability or education. Rather, it’s wealth, stability, and education that make marriage a more reasonable possibility, and help sustain marriages for the long haul.” Let’s not be wed to outmoded ideas of what marriage is – Guardian
Why Bodybuilding at Age 93 is a Great Idea: Charles Eugster at TEDxZurich
Clean a Plastic Shower Curtain & Mat – Clean My Space
When Should I Replace Old Cookware? – LifeHacker
Sweet Potato Ginger Brownies – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations
Coconut Secret Bars/Homemade Healthy Mounds | Tessa the Domestic Diva
Irish Paleo Girl: Recipe: Coconut Chocolate Muffins
Apple Streusel Egg Muffins – Balanced Bites
Flavored Kombucha – Real Food Forager
How to Cook Crispy Salmon – Humans Are Not Broken
“Good listeners get what they deserve–better speakers.” How to listen – Seth’s Blog
“Emotions are valuable, and offer a bounty of benefits. Once we’re able to process and cope with them effectively, we can learn a lot about ourselves and our needs, Mininni said. Emotions send us important messages and help us connect with others and accomplish great things, she said.” How to Manage Emotions More Effectively – World of Psychology
“Dear one, be gentle, merciful and compassionate with yourself and with your intentions with food. You want to hold loosely onto your expectations, with levity. I like to think of grace as lightness of being. We aren’t perfect. We don’t always follow our intentions perfectly. That’s okay – it means we’re no better or worse than anyone else; it means we’re a part of our shared common humanity.” Recovery is not perfection – how loosening up can help you heal – First Ourselves
“What you are doing in your life doesn’t matter.
What matters is whether or not what you’re doing lights you up, satisfies you, and leaves you feeling really good when you rest your head on your pillow at night.” Cultivating Your Heart-Scape – Mara Glatzel
“Self-care is self-care when we’re building intimacy with ourselves, when we’re meeting ourselves where we are, and when we’re deepening our receiving. When we’re in that spirit, the same trashy magazine or cookie might be a way of communing with our hearts. But when we reach fumblingly for ourselves and simply can’t connect? We wind up indulging… Wallowing in so-called pleasures for the escape of it, not really feeling their sensations.
And I want to end by saying that’s okay too. The worst thing we can do when we’re struggling so much that self-care is out of our reach is to beat ourselves up even more for indulging, for numbing, for soothing in the clumsiest of ways. So when indulgence, numbness, and distraction are the best I can do, I use them and pray that they’re like an incoming tide that will soon wash me back onto the shore where I can find my feet and (soon, soon, I hope!) step forward in ways that are actually nourishing.” Imperfect Self-Care – The Hot Love Revolution