Link Love (2013-06-22)

Thought-provoking

“Rinpoche defined Idiot compassion as “a slimy way of trying to fulfill your desire secretly.” Or as the karmayogini journal states, “It is when you give people what they want as opposed to what they need, all in the name of being nice and compassionate [so that you can feel better yourself].”
Idiot compassion then, has serious strings attached and is all about the givers own neurotic needs and desires.” Idiot Compassion vs True Compassioon – Jayson Gaddis

“We do it automatically, usually without realising. We do it partly because it’s easier to see where new pieces fit into the picture-puzzle we are working on, rather than imagining a new picture. It also helps shore up our vision of ourselves as accurate, right-thinking, consistent people who know what’s what.” The Confirmation Bias: Why It’s Hard to Change Your Mind – PsyBlog

“When a friend jokingly told me that I’m easy, I instantly replied, “I’m not easy. I’m selectively convenient.” I don’t play hard to get, and that doesn’t mean that I’m easy. I expect a lot and if I don’t get it, I’ll start a conversation to see if that will change. If it becomes clear that I won’t get what I want and need, or that I’m not offering what the other person needs, I’ll disengage with as much grace as possible. On the other hand, once I know that things line up, it all becomes pretty straightforward. That’s where the “selectively convenient” piece comes in, because I’ll do what I can to make things as smooth as possible.” I’m Not Easy. I’m Selectively Convenient – Charlie Glickman

20 Things Never to Say to a Friend Who Confides In You That They’ve Been Sexually Assaulted – Feministe

Religion

(This is a guest post written by a Christian): “However, when Costner spoke to his pastor, he should have been directed to an earlier passage in Matthew 6, which reads, “And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”
This is a mere four verses before the prayer is given. Before Jesus said anything about what to pray, this was the instruction on where to pray. Not in public, but in private. Not to be seen by others, but as a show of faith that God will hear our prayers even if they are uttered into the void without any immediate feedback.” If Christians Want to Pray During their Graduation Speeches, They Should Read the Bible First – Friendly Atheist

Equality

The Genderbread Person v2.0: a helpful visual aid for explaining gender (again) – It’s Pronounced Metrosexual

“So, how do I balance this disequilibrium? How do I show both sides and validate both their desire to wrestle, and their desire to snuggle into me and rub their soft cheeks against my arm? How do I show them that women and men can be strong and powerful both in an office and in the home? How do I show them that women can run the businesses and the teams and world if they want to, but may still choose to stay home with their babies for a while? How do I show them that being strong and powerful doesn’t have to be the ultimate goal? Traditionally masculine features and habits and tendencies have come to be equated with the more desirable. Traditionally defined strength and power is lauded in both genders. So how do I show my boys that, regardless of gender, it’s just as “strong and powerful” to choose to be a parent, to be empathetic, to be a caretaker, to express your feelings.” Raising Feminist Sons – Rattle and Pen

“Women want sex far more than we’ve been allowed to believe. So suggests a new book that shatters many of our most cherished myths about desire, including the widespread assumption that women’s lust is inextricably bound up with emotional connection. Are men ready to cope with the reality of heterosexual women’s horniness? The evidence suggests we aren’t, at least not yet.” Turns Out Women Have Really, Really Strong Sex Drives: Can Men Handle It? – Hugo Schwyzer – The Atlantic

“We are a part of the problem, because we are holding women our women bosses, colleagues, direct reports, business partners, and clients to a different standard. We are likely expecting them to be nicer in the midst of a busy and stressful work day than we are expecting men to be. If a woman is gruff or emotionally unavailable or terse at work, we tax her in a way that we don’t tax the guys. If a woman makes an autocratic decision that isn’t aligned with the opinions of her team, we’ll tax her for it in a way that we wouldn’t tax a man.” when there’s a woman at work you really don’t like – Tara Sophia Mohr

Health

5 Ways to Use Healthy Oils for Skincare -Care2

Recipes

Raw Fruit Tart (Dairy-free, Grain-free) – Healy Real Food Vegetarian

Rhubarb Lemon Lovin’ Muffins – Empowered Sustenance

Apple crisp. Light apple date coconut crisp – Sue’s Nutrition Buzz

Chocolate Covered Coconut Stuffed Dates (Raw, Vegan, Gluten-Free, Paleo) – Gourmande in the Kitchen

Perfect Coconut Macarooon Cookies – Naturally Sweetened, Gluten Free, Paleo Recipe – Foy Update

Very Berry Chocolate Cakes – Things My Belly Likes

Inspirational

10 Small Ways to Make This the Happiest Summer of Your Life – Positivity Blog

1 Comment

  1. Thanks for the link love 🙂 Wishing you a very happy Sunday, Cat

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