Link Love (2013-08-03)
How to Keep Habits Going During Travel – Zen Habits
“When you realize that you have many bad or mediocre habits that are holding you back in life, you may start to feel overwhelmed. Where should you begin? Should you upgrade your health habits? Attempt a 30-day supertrial? Commit to working an hour a day on your online business?” Add the Best; Drop the Worst – Steve Pavlina
10 Questions This Poly Person Is Happy To Answer – Reluctant Femme
“The most ridiculous thing you can do as an adult is stop being ridiculous.
Taking yourself too seriously is very serious work.” The Most Ridiculous Thing You Can Do as an Adult… – All Groan Up
Hypnosis: 8 Myths Most People Believe – PsyBlog
“I’m a big believer in the power of side projects. This blog was once a side project. Same for the business behind it. Nearly every professional milestone I’ve made was from something that happened in my spare time, and I don’t think that’s an accident.” How to Execute a Successful Side Project – Scott H Young
“Finally, in telling her that she must never speak ill of her husband again but must instead only speak good of him no matter what he does, Debi is robbing her of Sunny one way to cry for help. She’s silencing Sunny. She’s dictating Sunny’s words just as she dictated women’s thoughts in the previous section. What if Sunny were to follow this advice and then end up dead six months later, leaving relatives scratching her head and wondering what went wrong when Sunny had clearly told them everything was perfect?” CTBHHM: Earning Your Abuser’s Trust – Love, Joy, Feminism
“To put it another way: The First Amendment guarantees a right to speech. It does not guarantee a right to respect. As I am fond of saying, if you want people to respect your ideas, get better ideas. Likewise, freedom of speech does not mean freedom from consequence. If you’re going to parade around on television engaging in hateful bastardry, then, strangely enough, people will often call you out on it. They may also call you out on the hypocrisy of maintaining that when you say that the way someone else lives is unnatural and detrimental to civilization, you mean it with love, but when they call your words bigoted trollspeak, they’re crossing a line or engaging in slander — the legal concept of which, incidentally, you don’t appear to understand very well, nor libel, which generally speaking is probably more applicable in this case, you crazy public figure, you.” Speech and Kirk Cameron – Whatever
“The saddest part of this is how many men are completely shut down, day after day after day. Like my former self, they have no tools. They have no support. Many don’t even know that it could be different. Their conditioning has imprisoned them. And, the ones that do want help, might not seek support because that’s fucking weak. ” Emotionally Shut Down Men – Jayson Gaddis
New York Times sourcing sexism: The paper quotes 3.4 men for every woman – Slate
“Even Ryan Gosling himself (hey, girl) had something to say about the Blue Valentine rating: “The MPAA is okay supporting scenes that portray women in scenarios of sexual torture and violence for entertainment purposes, but they are trying to force us to look away from a scene that shows a woman in a sexual scenario which is both complicit and complex.”” In Pursuit of Sexual Pleasure Equality – Everyday Feminism
6 Ways to Avoid Paper and Plastic in Your Home – A Delightful Home
How to Primalize Your Daily Routine – Mark’s Daily Apple
2 Easy Steps for Non-Toxic Air in the Home Environment – Red and Honey
8 Reasons Why Better Nutrition Makes You a Better Developer – The Code Barbarian
Are You a Moquito Magnet? Blame Your Blood – Care2
Secret Ingredient Gluten-free Lasagne – Wallflower Girl
Sangria: The Answer to All Your Summer (Beverage) Problems – And Here We Are
Chia Seed and Kombucha Energy Drink Recipe – Wellness Mama
Beauty & Body Image
“And when someone else notices us (eek!) and has the audacity to acknowledge what they see- we feel incredibly self-conscious and anxiously explain that we’re still working on being perfect.” You’re beautiful – Heather Day
“The smartphone self-portrait or ‘selfie’ has established itself a form of self-expression. Is it a harmless fad or a dangerous sign of western society’s growing narcissism?” How selfies became a global phenomenon – The Observer
“I feel like these questions represent some of the myths that have been unintentionally perpetuated by style blogs: That some women hold the secret to a perfectly styled and utterly immobile scarf. That some body types can keep a belt in place without loops. It’s just not true, friends. In these photos I am standing relatively still after having adjusted my outfit to look as I wish it to. And even then I sometimes have to fuss with my belt or scarf after a photo or two! Clothing and accessories move around. Unless you work as a Live Mannequin, yours will shift, too. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.” Belts and scarve shift throughout the day and need readjustment – Already Pretty
“Showing up messy means arriving as we are, radiating our truth and purpose and inner beauty – even when we have no idea how it’s going to turn out.
It means trying something new, even if you’ve never done it before and you are on the teetering edge of thrilled and terrified.
It means holding on to what you know to be true, even when everyone is busy telling you what you should do instead.
It means allowing others an opportunity to truly know you, even if there is a chance of rejection, because you know that being loved for who you really are is worth the risk.
It means being true to yourself, even when and especially when you’re scared.
It means choosing to believe that you are important, you are deserving, and you are worthy – even when you have compiled (and are holding on tightly t0) a ton of evidence to the contrary.
It means knowing that there is no destination – that this moment, this path, this journey is all we have.” The Beauty in Showing Up Messy – Mara Glatzel
“Sometimes growth is just seeing it sooner.
You see sooner that you are silencing your voice.
You see sooner that you are acting out of fear.
You see sooner that you are projecting the past on to the present.”
Sometimes Growth is Just Seeing it Sooner – Tara Sophia Mohr
“Life is not perfect. It never has been and it never will be. But this can be good news. It means we can stop pursuing the mystical, perfect life. It means we can stop chasing perfect skin, the perfect job, the perfect house, or the perfect spouse. It means we can find freedom to live within our imperfections.
In fact, the sooner we realize that perfection is not available to us in this world, the sooner we can begin living better lives because of the imperfections.” Life Is Not Perfect. Fortunately. – Becoming Minimalist