Link Love (2013-10-16)

Thought-provoking

Daniel H. Cohen: For argument’s sake – TED

Polyamory is the practice of maintaining consensual, openly conducted, multiple-partner relationships in which both men and women have negotiated access to additional partners outside of the traditional committed couple. Ironically, it is easier to begin with what polyamory is not, and then explain what it is.” What Polyamory IS, and What It Is NOT – Psychology Today

Jeremy Rifkin: The empathic civilization – TED

When folks say ‘I can’t,’ there’s some wiggle room in there. Can’t is a fuzzy boundary that invites people to test it. Also, ‘can’t’ is often untrue. What is more true is, “I not able to.” Or further decoded it could mean, “I continue to allow you talk to me like this because I’m uncomfortable taking care of myself and I don’t know how to stand up for myself and respect myself in your presence. I say ‘can’t’ because I’m not strong enough to say ‘won’t’ yet. I’d rather keep abandoning myself because I’m afraid to lose you.” Boundaries: Can’t vs Won’t – Jayson Gaddis

#513: “Frenemy” is a ridiculous made-up word that is occasionally accurate, or, The Case of the Passive-Aggressive Co-Worker – Captain Awkward

Towards a Better Model of Attraction – Intimacy Cartography

Equality

3 Communication Mistakes Women Make – Tara Sophia Mohr- Huffington Post

“Contrary to popular media narratives and the critiques of those concerned about the continued supremacy of the white race, women who don’t have children are not selfish, emotionally stunted or inadequately grown-up. In fact, they’re the opposite: they’re women with the self-knowledge and maturity to buck enormous social pressure and choose a life that’s right for them.” The choice to be child-free is admirable, not selfish – Jill Filipovic – The Guardian

“The stereotypes that plague our lives teach that the characteristics of empathetic understanding are feminine: listening, sensitivity, quiet consideration and gentleness.  Empathy is feminized and boys learn quickly that what is feminized is, in a man, the source of disgust. While parents, teachers, coaches, grandparents and others whose ideas shape children aren’t sitting around telling boys, “Don’t be empathetic!” they are saying, in daily micro-aggressive ways, “Don’t be like girls!”  The process of “becoming a man” still often means rejecting almost any activity or preference that smacks of cross-gender expression or sympathy.” The real boy crisis: 5 ways America tells boys not to be “girly” – Salon

Girls Get Periods – Cozy Confidence

“For example, a June 1918 article from the trade publication Earnshaw’s Infants’ Department said, “The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl.” Other sources said blue was flattering for blonds, pink for brunettes; or blue was for blue-eyed babies, pink for brown-eyed babies, according to Paoletti.” When Did Girls Start Wearing Pink? – Smithsonian Magazine

Nearly quarter of men in Asia-Pacific admit to committing rape – The Guardian

Inspirational

“But what happens when you do all of the right things, and then there’s *still* the health crisis, the financial crisis, the natural disaster, the marriage that crumbles under the weight of a thousand invisible cracks? What skills do you have, then, when you’ve spent a lifetime clinging to security?” Redefining security – Your Courageous Life

“There’s something to be said for celebrating the everyday. To say “this day is good enough just because” is an awesome feeling. Each day is wondrous and magical and extraordinary if you allow it to be.” Do You Celebrate? – Blessing Manifesting

Beauty & Body Image

“Except that I never imagined it could work in reverse. If having my happy face immobilized away from its happy self created depression, what about those whose faces unconsciously register sadness, displeasure, or anger?” Do Facial Expressions Rule Emotions? My One-Woman Experiment in the Field, Plus How Botox Could Help Depression – Wild Beauty

How Your Self-Image Is Running Your Life – Venusian*Glow

Health

Must watch! What matters is not how stressed we are, but how we view stress. Kelly McGonical: How to make stress your friend – TED

Myths and misconceptions in endometriosis – Endometriosis.org

“Yes, dear reader, the word ketchup originally meant “fish sauce” in a dialect of Fujian province, the humid coastal region that also gave us the word “tea” (from Fujianesete).” Ketchup’s Chinese origins: how it evolved from fish sauce to today’s condiment – Slate Russel Foster: Why do we sleep? – TED

“Gentilcore’s second explanation is more interesting. To understand why a fruit (or vegetable-like fruit) is called “gold” or an “apple”, one has to know what it means to call an object of any kind “gold”, or any botanical item an “apple”. It made sense to call a tomato a golden apple in the 16th century, even if it doesn’t make much sense today, because of linguistic, scientific and mythological associations that no longer hold.” Pomodoro! A History of the Tomato in Italy – Times Higher Education

How the chili spread from its South American home and spiced up world cuisine – Time

Recipes

Homemade Natural Laundry Detergent Recipe – Wellness Mama

Homemade Mother Scoby for Kombucha – Jules Food

Natural Homemade All-Purpose Cleaner – Wellness Mama

Paleo Buffalo Greek Caesar Salad – Health-Bent

All-Natural Homemade Scouring Powder – Wellness Mama

How to Brew Kombucha – Double Fermentation Method – Food Renegade

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