Link Love (2013-12-07)
“Among Tumblr’s 140+ million blogs, social communities form around specific topics: music, fashion, photography, and also kinds of disorders. Months ago Laura was part of one such community, scrolling through hundreds of photographs on Tumblr that evoke negative emotions through art and call it depression. Black and white photographs of mystical emaciated women who stare off into the distance put psychological torment and beauty on the same page, and quotes like “So it’s okay for you to hurt me, but I can’t hurt myself?” and “I want to die a lovely death,” try to justify self-harm. All this is at the tip of anyone’s fingertips: anyone can search tags like “self-harm,” “depression,” or “sadness,” and find thousands of blogs with a similarly distorted vision of what it means to be depressed. ” Social Media Is Redefining ‘Depression’ – Anne-Sophie Bine – The Atlantic
Gary Slutkin: Let’s treat violence like a contageious disease – TED
“Of course it’s nice when the people in our lives work around our stuff! When they take into consideration our gluten intolerance or our fear of snakes or the fact that we’re on a really tight budget!
But ultimately, I am the only person who is responsible for myself, my happiness, and dealing with my issues.
And I imagine you’re in the same boat.” My problems aren’t your responsibility (and, ahem, probably vice versa) – yes and yes
“The pervasive message that women are untrustworthy liars is atomized in our culture. There is no one source or manifestation. It fills every nook and cranny of our lives.
I find it sad and disturbing that children learn so quickly and normatively to distrust women. Any commitment to parity means challenging the stories we tell them. It means critically assessing the comforting institutions we support out of nostalgia, habit, and tradition. It means walking out of places of worship, not buying certain movie tickets, closing some books, refusing to pay for some music, and politely disagreeing with friends and family at the dinner table. It’s not easy. But, really, what’s the alternative? ” How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars – Role / Reboot
More Ads Should Be Like This ‘Controversial’ Indian Jewelry Commercial – Jezebel
“One of my major epiphany moments was when a friend simply said “sex is hilarious”, and it is. The magazine representation of sex leaves no room for mistakes. Awkward moments are restricted to “confessions” pages to be ridiculed by the more sexually well-versed among us. It is easy to dismiss these issues, ignoring them and believing that girls should somehow inherently know how they should behave in the bedroom – but they don’t” Navigating the world of magazine sex tips – The F-Word
Standing Up for the Rights of New Fathers – NY Times
“When we talk about gender issues and gender roles, a recurring theme of gender debates is shame. A victim of sexual assault is blamed and shamed for wearing too short a skirt or walking alone down a dark alley drunk. A football player is scorned by teammates or fans as a “pussy”, for not being manly enough. People of all genders are shamed in different ways for not conforming to overarching gender norms and expectations.” Don’t Buy Into Shame Culture – Gender Focus
Negotiating the Hyphen in Asian-American – Everyday Feminism
Beauty & Body Image
“They also fail to reflect what we actually look like. Thus Verily’s mandate: “Whereas other magazines artificially alter images in Photoshop to achieve the so-called ideal body type or leave a maximum of three wrinkles, Verily never alters the body or face structure of the Verily models.”” Verily Magazine’s No-Photoshop Policy Proves It Can Be Done – Huffington Post
Staying With & Honouring Your Body – Mara Glatzel
” have good news and I have bad news. Here’s the bad news: No one is coming to save you from yournegative self-talk (addiction, abusive relationship, or draining job).
And the good news? Facing the truth that you’re responsible for your life is incredibly liberating.” Developing Self-Compassion When You Don’t Think You’re Enough – Tiny Buddha
You Don’t Know Clit! (OR what every woman should know about female anatomy but few do) – Hot Love Revolution
How to Engineer a Successful Day of Sunbathing – Mark’s Daily Apple
10 Remarkable Ways Meditation Helps Your Mind – PsyBlog
Will the Real Cinnamon Please Stand Up? The Prairie Homestead
Caramel Apples (Dairy-Free, AIP-Friendly) – The Paleo Mom
Autumn Comfort: Carrot & Parsnip Cake (Grain-Free!) – And Here We Are
Paleo Recipes: No-Bake Apple Pie – Paleo Non Paleo
DIY Mint Extract – Perfect for Homemade Gifts! – The Prairie Homestead
How to Make Magnesium Oil – Food Renegade
Frozen Peanut Butter, Chocolate & Banana Fudge Bites – Living Healthy With Chocolate