Link Love (2014-02-01)
“And when my needs come into conflict with what is actually happening, I will teach myself not to need those things anymore. I will sacrifice them on the altar of TRUE LOVE. Our relationship will be like a constant audition where I strive only to show the best, prettiest, least messy parts of myself to prove that we should be together! I will also use LOGIC and REASON. Pro & Con lists are romantic, right? Long late night talks with crying are romantic, right?” #535: Forgiveness, patience and other traps – Captain Awkward
16 Signs You’re a Little (or a Lot) Type A – Huffington Post
“The project has found that people without children are more satisfied with their relationships and more likely to feel valued by their partner than couples with children.” Happier relationships for couples without children – Telegraph
12 Simple Ways to Create Momentum in Your Day – The Minimalists
15 ways atheists can stand up for rationality – Salon
“So, like, why are straight, cis men irreligious?
You never see this one posed, do you? If you can’t see a reason why LGBTQ people would remain religious, given the oppression they face in many religious communities, ask yourself why on earth straight cis men would ever give up religion. If our decisions regarding religion are based purely on the advantages or disadvantages to be gained by group membership, then why would a straight cis man ever leave? While there are privileges to be gained from straight cis maleness everywhere, many religions sure do pile them on even more than secular society.” Sceptics, Religion and Queers? Oh Myyyy – Queereka
“When people say that women discussing our abortions with our partners is, as one person said to me last week, the “only decent thing to do”, they’re thinking of a particular kind of woman, and a particular kind of partner. They’re not thinking of women in abusive relationships, or women who aren’t in relationships at all. They’re not thinking- a surprise really, given a lot of the other rhetoric about abortion- about women who mightn’t be sure of who the father of the fetus is. They’re not thinking of relationships that, for one reason or another, might be intimate in some ways but not others. There’s no talk of, say, the person I dated who told me once that if I ever had an abortion we’d never speak again. Or of the person who longed for a child, but who also regularly spent days on end unable to leave the house. The image is always of women in loving, mutually supportive relationships who for no particular reason decide not to inform their partners that they’re pregnant and planning to terminate.
That idea? Is frankly ridiculous. If people are in a relationship where conversations on abortion would be welcome, where they feel safe and comfortable sharing intimate details with each other, and where they’ll support each other? They’ll talk about it. The pregnant person will talk about it. If, however, her partner is not someone she feels safe sharing with? Or if they’re simply not the person she thinks to go to, if there’s someone else who she is closer to?” Should “potential fathers” have any say in abortion? – Consider the Tea Cosy
“But using statistics from the FBI and Department of Justice, it’s estimated that on an annual basis, the odds of the average straight man (the target group overwhelmingly concerned with this) in the U.S. being accused of rape are 2.7 million to 1.” 5 Things More Likely to Happen to You than Being Falsely Accused of Rape – BuzzFeed
“When we talk about abortion, we have a set narrative about what an unexpected pregnancy looks like. She’s young. In school. She doesn’t want her parents to find out. She is irresponsible. She probably needs to take responsibility for her mistake.
But that’s not me. I’m 36. I’m married. I have two kids already. I don’t want and can’t afford another kid…another car…a bigger apartment. I was on the most effective and foolproof birth control method available. I WAS DOING IT RIGHT.” All I Want for Christmas is an Abortion – Grounded Parents
“This story shouldn’t be about placing me on the Mount Rushmore of fathers because of a photo. Don’t get me wrong here, it’s an adorable shot and I’m extremely flattered by the kind words I’ve received from people who think so — but I’ve shared hundreds of pictures of my family on social media and none of them received a fraction of the attention that this one did. Just like the other photos of me with my girls, it’s simply another example of a dad … well, “Daddying.” Additionally, I’m concerned that the bar for being a good dad is set so low that a dude can take a photo with his kids, post it online, and automatically become the “world’s greatest dad” in the eyes of some because of it.” When the Story Isn’t the Story – Huffington Post
“But, I want you to stop for a moment and think about the people in your life that you truly love. I’m talking about the kind of love that is able to withstand a bad day or a string of bad days or a year of bad days.
The kind of love that is big enough and brave enough to say:
I love you, but I don’t like you very much right now.
Why is it that we are able to extend this love to others, but we are unable to grant it to ourselves?
Why is it that we are able to forgive and heal and tenderly stitch up our loving relationships, as many times as necessary, but we are so quick to abandon ourselves?” Brave Love – Mara Glatzel
5 Steps to Self-Care After the Holidays – Everyday Feminism
“I’ve been thinking about this all week, these long legs that I didn’t know I had and that haven’t grown at all, except in my own perception of them.
Of how changeable so many of our body stories are and how easily we can write one into proof.
Of how I had been making myself small in that boxing stance and was invited to take up more space (and how much that resonates in life as a whole).
Of how sometimes all it takes is one person seeing you differently to crack open one of these stories.” Our Changing Body Stories (and my long legs!) – Be Your Own Beloved
7 Ways to Beat the Winter Blahs – Care2
Paula Johnson: His and hers… healthcare – TED
Soaking Nuts – The Nourishing Gourmet
Healing Foods: Coconut – Phoenix Helix
Vitamin K2: The Missing Nutrient – Chris Kresser
FAQs: All about fermented cod liver oil (and why I don’t take fish oil) – Balanced Bites
Paleo Butter Chicken – My Heart Beets
Pink Sauerkraut – Jan’s Sushi Bar
Paleo Blueberry Cheesecake – The Merrymaker Sisters
Pecan Pie Recipe – Wellness Mama
Sweet Potatoes Anna with Spiced Ghee – Nourished Kitchen
Crockpot Pulled Pork – Paleo Non Paleo
Kombu Ginger Chicken Soup – Mark’s Daily Apple
French Vanilla Coffee Creamer – (Dairy-Free) – Against All Grain
No-Fail No-Pound Sauerkrauet – Phoenix Helix