Link Love (2014-03-27)
“If we tell children that they must allow kisses and hugs they do not want, that their physical boundaries are not respected, that whoever is the biggest gets to say who touches or tickles or hugs whom, what in the world do we think we’re teaching them?! For me, this is one of the biggest parts of both keeping Sally safe from predators and ensuring that she will be strong enough to stay out of or leave unhealthy or abusive romantic relationships.
And frankly, respecting your child’s body is also part of being a decent human being.” Respecting Every BODY – Love, Joy, Feminism
36 Lessons I’ve Learned About Habits – Zen Habits
“It’s important to remember that your feelings are valid – always – because you can’t help them.
You can’t help the way that you feel, and so your feelings are never inherently wrong or bad.
We can commit acts that are wrong or bad based on our feelings, but those aren’t the same two things.” 5 Steps Toward Effectively Communicating Your Feelings – Everyday Feminism
How to Stop Giving a F*ck What People Think – LifeHacker
“I think it’s interesting to see the way that when people get into a monogamous couple dynamic, they often have to neuter their sexual desires. As the initial intensity of a relationship shifts to feelings of long-term love, you can end up in a sexless marriage, and I think that’s a huge contributor to infidelity and the breakup of a lot of families. We put so much emphasis on a partner being everything—that this person completes you—and when that doesn’t happen it creates a lot of pressure. I don’t think that open relationships are for everyone but it’s something that you should no longer feel ashamed to talk about at a time when so many marriages are failing.” Up for Polyamory? Creating Alternatives to Marriage – Roc Morin – The Atlantic
Powerful speaking is not about you – Tricia Karp
Bill Gothard, Sexual Pradator – Love, Joy, Feminism
“9. Journalists who substitute the word “sex” for “rape” – as if they’re the same thing.” 25 Everyday Examples of Rape Culture – Everyday Feminism
“So, as we continue to be reminded that the murder of a black boy may never be valued in a legal system that once deemed black folks as less than human, as we collectively grieve for those we lost and those we have yet to lose, this one thought comforts me.
He was free. He was loved.” Remembering Trayvon: On Black Life, Love, and Freedom – Role / Reboot
Investors more likely to give to men over women who are pitching the exact same idea – Feministing
“But in a groundbreaking study published in PNAS last week by Corinne Moss-Racusinand colleagues, that is exactly what was done. On Wednesday, Sean Carroll blogged about and brought to light the research from Yale that had scientists presented with application materials from a student applying for a lab manager position and who intended to go on to graduate school. Half the scientists were given the application with a male name attached, and half were given the exact same application with a female name attached. Results found that the “female” applicants were rated significantly lower than the “males” in competence, hireability, and whether the scientist would be willing to mentor the student.” Study shows gender bias in science is real. Here’s why it matters – Scientific American
Beauty & Body Image
“Before long, many of my friends had followed suit, posting their make-up free selfies and nominating their friends to take part. It was all very well meaning and inoffensive but, as far as I could tell, absolutely nothing to do with breast cancer awareness. If anything, it was trivialising a very serious issue and using it to justify a vanity project.” Why I Won’t Be Posting a Make-Up Free Selfie – Emily Buchanan – Huffington Post
“So clothing is designed for its own appealing shape, not for how it fits actual human beings. Models have often been called “hangers” for this precise reason. They are valued first and foremost as objects. They are useful for their measurements. They are bones and angles off of which clothing is meant to hang, not living, breathing, vibrant human beings.” Two Shocking, Dehumanizing Reasons Runway Models Are so Thin, and Why We Should Never Aspire to Look Like Them – Paleo for Women
“This is an important preface for a step-by-step guide to loving your body. As George or I or any other health advocate out there who has “made it” to the shining pinnacle of self-love and body acceptance will tell you, this is an on-going journey. There is no finish line. There is no trophy; there is no marching band. But there are important milestones. There are ways of thinking about and relating to your body that help. And before you know it, you will have left the cold open waters with sharks behind and have found yourself swimming in warm seas with manta rays – not a perfect place to be, but there is also most likely an occasional mojito waiting for you on the beach.” 9 Steps to Invincible Partnership with Your Body – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations
“As with nearly every exhausting inequality, smart women end up self-flagellating because we’re not able to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and get right on out of our own oppression.
We end up holding our vulnerabilities close to the vest, even when those vulnerabilities are what brought us to the feminist movement in the first place.” Feminists Have Body Issues, Too: 5 Ways to Get Over the Shame – Everyday Feminism
“That’s why boundary work is so vital to establishing a solid sense of self-love. You’re expanding the space that’s available to you in the world.
Through your actions, you’re teaching yourself that you deserve a place on this Earth, just like everyone else.
Boundaries are priceless on their own, but their value runs deeper, too: when you set a boundary, you teach yourself, experientially, that it’s possible and that you’re deserving of space.” claiming space – effervescence
darling, just freaking do it – Justine Musk
“This is fascinating to me: that my body will have the same reaction to an imagined scenario as well as a real scenario. I know that happens with negative stress, but I didn’t make the connection that it would happen with positive stress as well.” On Crushes, Flirting and Delight – K. Foley Wellness
Regulating Circadian Rhythm (and why that’s important) – The Paleo Mom
Double Chocolate Chip Cookies – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations
Lactofermented Red Onion Recipe – Delicious Obsessions
Cinnamon Apple Kombucha – Plaid & Paleo
Apple Cinnamon Coconut Flour Muffins – Wellness Mama
Grain-Free Cheesecake Swirl Brownies – Food Renegade
Molten Lava Cake – The Paleo Mom
No-Bake Chocolate Fudge Fridge Cake (Raw, Vegan, Paleo) – Gourmande in the Kitchen
Coconut mousse pie with berries – Cats in the Kitchen
Homemade Paleo/Clean Eating Marshmallows – Salixisme
Melt In Your Mouth Guilt-Free Brownies – Danette May