Writer’s Wednesday: First Crush: The Pursuit of Brave (Self) Love by Mara Glatzel
Mara Glatzel is one of my favourite coaches, time and time again her blog posts and newsletter love notes have broken through my shell and hit me right where I needed it. When it comes to courageous and brave self-care and self-love, she’s the first person I turn to. I love her thoughts on the need for us to look after ourselves the way we would look after a child – doing the hard thing, because it is the right thing in the long run. Something I am still working on truly incorporating into my life.
When you sign up for her newsletter you also get a free copy of First Crush: The Pursuit of Brave (Self) Love; 14 beautiful, courageous, inspirational love letters. I read them frequently, because they are such beautiful and necessary reminders.
Here’s one of my favourites:
I just need to get this out of the way: self-love doesn’t mean that everything is going to be pretty and pulled together all the time. It doesn’t mean that you wake up in the magical land of luxuriating in your own perfection 24/7.
It can be messy. It can be ugly. There will be tears.
Too many of us are walking around the world thinking that we aren’t “doing it right” when we get angry and frustrated with ourselves or speak to ourselves cruelly.
You will have hard days. You might even have hard months or years. Things happen.
Self-love is the practice of sticking with yourself – no matter what – even when (and especially when) things aren’t working out as you’d like them to.
Are you brave enough to hold both love and disappointment in your heart at the same time? Can you dig deep and say to yourself, “Yep, we might want to do that differently next time” without making that mean that you are bad or there is something wrong with you?
You deserve that kind of unconditional love from yourself.