Link Love (2014-08-09)
“Gideon Levy is the most hated man in Israel – and perhaps the most heroic. This “good Tel Aviv boy” – a sober, serious child of the Jewish state – has been shot at repeatedly by the Israeli Defence Force, been threatened with being “beaten to a pulp” on the country’s streets, and faced demands from government ministers that he be tightly monitored as “a security risk.” This is because he has done something very simple, and something that almost no other Israeli has done. Nearly every week for three decades, he has travelled to the Occupied Territories and described what he sees, plainly and without propaganda. “My modest mission,” he says, “is to prevent a situation in which many Israelis will be able to say, ‘We didn’t know.’” And for that, many people want him silenced.” Is Gideon Levy the most hated man in Israel or just the most heroic? – The Independent
Julian Treasure: How to speak so people want to listen – TED
“My parents taught us to be respectful, but they didn’t teach us to treat others with respect. The way my mother talked about prostitutes, women who live with their boyfriends, mothers who have careers and put their children in daycare—it was crystal clear that she had very little respect for any of these individuals. When she talked about gay people her tone was one of disgust. We were not in fact taught to respect others or their choices, different as they might be. Rather, we were taught both implicitly and explicitly not to respect them.” Just Who Is Teaching Respect? – Love, Joy, Feminism
How to Build a New Habit: This Is Your Strategy Guide – James Clear
“Plant-animal integration is, I realised, the norm in nature. It is how prairies and savannahs and all manner of ecosystems have been sustained for countless millennia. It is the most natural, ancient, and sustainable of systems — flora and fauna feeding one another in endless cycles. But our participation blurred boundaries I had taken for granted. If the squash and beans we grew were fed by local dairy farms, were we really eating just plants?” Tovar Cerulli: The hidden cost of vegetarianism – Aeon Magazine
7 Ways You Can Easily Increase Your Willpower – Barking Up the Wrong Tree
“Evangelicals often claim that teenage girls who dress “immodestly” have low self esteem or lack confidence. This is bullshit. Yes, sure, some of them may indeed have body image issues or low self esteem—but the same is true for many girls who dress “modestly” (my teenage self included). In other words, there isn’t a correlation, and dressing “modestly” is not a solution. Some teenage girls who dress “immodestly” have low self esteem; some teenage girls who dress “modestly” have low self esteem. In other words, “modesty” is not actually a solution to teenage girls’ self esteem problems or body image issues. What are some solutions? Encouraging them, listening to them, valuing their thoughts, trusting them, and giving them space to find themselves, to name a few.” “Modest Is Hottest” and Girls’ Self-Confidence – Love, Joy, Feminism
“Given the subject at hand, the irony of pointing out how this makes me feel is something I am aware of, so I won’t dwell on it too much, except to say that understanding you are sexist is actually really quite difficult just on a practical level. When I look around, I see the same things I’ve been doing and saying without thinking about them reflected back at me from every angle, and the fact casual sexism is so prevalent is an amazingly effective masking agent for the concept itself, especially among men. (I’m talking to men, of course. I know that our female readers – by virtue of being women – do not need me to point out that the average male is sexist.)” I am sexist – Eurogamer
Little Boxes: 6 Ways to Make Room for Bigger Truths – Everyday Feminism
“Professionalism is a funny term, because it masquerades as neutral despite being loaded with immense oppression. As a concept, professionalism is racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, classist, imperialist and so much more — and yet people act like professionalism is non-political. Bosses across the country constantly tell their employees to ‘act professionally’ without a second thought. Wear a garment that represents your non-Western culture to work? Your boss may tell you it’s unprofessional. Wear your hair in braids or dreadlocks instead of straightened? That’s probably unprofessional too. Wear shoes that are slightly scuffed because you can’t yet afford new ones? People may not think you’re being professional either.” Why I’m Genderqueer, Professional and Unafraid – Jacob Tobia – Huffington Post
“But the fact remains that as a woman, you can put something together from most men’s closets that is okay to walk down the street in. You can walk into a man’s clothing store and buy something for yourself. I work in a menswear store, and it happens all the time. No-one blinks an eye, we just find the last size small for the good lady, compliment her choice of colour and send her on her way.
As a woman, wearing something that is made for a guy is considered cool, edgy, interesting.
If a man walked into a womans store and asked for some help finding a womans dress for himself, the reaction would probably be very different. If he put together an outfit from a womans closet, he’d be unlikely to make it down the street without some backlash.
Men wearing something intended for women is most often seen as being ridiculous and demeaning.” Whether Guys Can Wear Dresses is a Litmus Test for Feminism – This Kind Choice
“I inevitably have to clarify that in this context, positivity and enthusiasm are not the same thing. The term is an attempt to address the individual and social place of sex and sexual identity. Sex-positivity boils down to a view that sex is a healthy and necessary part of human existence. It’s about acceptance and inclusion of the ways individuals choose to express themselves sexually.” Identifying As Sex Positive – Literally, Darling – Huffington Post
“Frankly? Provided the kids’ clothing is clean and activity-appropriate, I don’t care what gender my children’s clothing says. At the same time, I’m not going to use my children to make some sort of a political statement. I don’t put Bobby in dresses to make some sort of point, and when I visit the grandparents I leave his dresses at home. I would like to leave my children’s clothing choices up to them. Sally wears mostly dresses because that is what she prefers. That’s fine by me. Bobby has expressed no preference yet, and wears whatever we put on him. As that changes, I will respect his preferences. It’s not about using my children to satisfy some sort of agenda. It’s about removing the walls and letting them make their own choices.” Why I Put My Son in Dresses – Love, Joy, Feminism
“The truth is: You may never feel fully ready.
You may not ever be entirely resolved about quitting your job or going back to school or leaving your relationship. You might not be entirely comfortable with your yearning, even when you cannot deny it’s existence. And, in thoughtfully probing your discomfort, it is possible – likely even – that you are making your indecision mean that there are holes in your desire or that you should wait until you feel absolutely certain before moving onto the next step.” What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do – Mara Glatzel
“I wanted others to tell me I was on the right track. The more I did this, the emptier I felt inside.
Why? Because I was giving my power away. Instead of listening to my own guidance system, I was relying on someone else.” 10 Habits of Unhappy People (And How to Fix Them) – Tiny Buddha
“And if you repeatedly tell yourself you’re not loveable, you’ll start to believe it. You’ll retreat and prevent yourself from being open or accepting love and intimacy, making your negative script a self-fulfilling prophecy.
But lucky for us – it’s totally, 100% possible to stop that internal litany.” How to Stop Negative Thought-Patterns – Danielle Dowling
“When you practice an attitude of gratitude, you appreciate what you have, not envy what you lack. It means you’re a good steward. You nourish and exercise your body and mind, cherish and respect your spouse, love your dog, keep your home clean and orderly, encourage your children. If you water your garden, you’ll watch it grow.” Reframing Your Definition of Affluence – Mark’s Daily Apple
“It argues: if you reveal that you don’t know something, then you’re really revealing that you know NOTHING. (This, by the way, is a heady blend of a couple of the 12 Lies of the Impostor Complex.)
So, we keep the shame hidden and we stay down. We stay quiet. And we stay a little less informed. A LOT less informed.” Raise Your Hand – Tanya Geisler
9 Signs You Need to Eat More Fat – Mark’s Daily Apple
The Push to Understand the Placenta – NY Times
Ten Alternatives to Caffeine to Get You Through the Day – Laura Green Psychology
Guest Post: Kitchenspired, Balsamic Peach Chicken – Paleo Parents
Fermented Minced Garlic & Ginger – Neo-Homesteading
Sweet Potato Brownies – PaleOMG
Crockpot Paleo Thai Stew – Against All Grain
Pumpkin Cinnamon Muffins with Pumpkin Frosting – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations
Pulled Pork & Jalapeno Frittata – Popular Paleo
Paleo Breakfast Sausage Scotch Eggs – Stupid Easy Paleo
Baked Pears with Cranberries – Primally Inspired
Creamy Leek & Salmon Soup – Meatified
Paleo Sweet Potato Chili – Savory Lotus