Link Love (2014-09-27)
#617: All The Dating Advice, Again – Captain Awkward
“Friends and colleagues often ask my wife how she balances her job and motherhood. Somehow, the same people don’t ask me.” Why I am leaving the best job I ever had – Max Shireson’s blog
3 Simple Things That Will Make You 10% Happier – Barking Up the Wrong Tree
“If you get ahead for years and years because you got dealt good cards, it’s not particularly likely that you will learn that in the real world, achievement is based as much on attitude and effort as it is on natural advantages. In the real world, Nobel prizes and Broadway roles and the senior VP job go to people who have figured out how to care, how to show up, how to be open to new experiences. Our culture is built around connection and charisma and learning and the ability to not quit in precisely the right moments.
But that’s not easy to sort for in school, so we take a shortcut and resort to trivial measures instead.
What if we celebrated the students who regularly try the hardest, help each other the most and lead? What if we fast tracked those students, and made it clear to anyone else willing to adopt those attitudes that they could be celebrated too?” The wasteful fraud of sorting for youth meritocracy – Seth’s Blog
Top 10 Reasons why Constant Complaining in the Workplace is so Toxic? – The Chief Happiness Officer Blog
“2. Because misguided or not, those twenty years of my life were sincere and passionate and a very important part of my life. How would you like it if someone took an eraser to two decades of your life, telling you they were illegitimate? Through those years, I came to know both the Bible and the Christian message very well, and that earns me a place at the table of discussing religion in a public setting. I am not approaching these matters as an outsider. I come to this table as one who has earned the right to say something about modern American evangelicalism. So of course it bothers me when someone pretends those years never even happened. That discredits my contribution to the discussion. It disenfranchises people like me so that our voice doesn’t have to be heard. That’s not playing fair, and it limits what you can learn from people like me. In other words, nobody benefits from this tactic, and you’ve just lost any chance you might have had of discovering something new and expanding your own ideological horizons.”You Were Never Really One of Us – Godless in Dixie
Beauty & Body Image
“As Black women in America, we’ve been taught that aspects of our physical self are unacceptable in their natural forms. As such, they should be relegated to the privacy of our bathrooms — or better yet, transformed into tamed, relaxed, and otherwise invisible alternatives.” How Blackgirl Natural Hair Is Shamed From Infancy to Adulthood – Everyday Feminism
“When everyone smiles at my son, offering compliments, they teach him that the world is a friendly place and he is welcome in it. That is a good thing of course. Is every baby treated this way? Many are. But I can’t help but wonder: what about the babies with some kind of visible difference or physical challenge, or those with Down Syndrome? Are they looked at and responded to in the same way? Or are there subtle glances, evasions, and movements that send less welcoming messages to them? These questions are important because identities do not pre-exist such social interactions but are created within and through them. Parents and caregivers have the greatest influence, but the world at large is made through our visual and physical engagements with it. We do not control these engagements, especially not during childhood.” Appearance Makes the World – Feminist Figure’s Blog
“1. Be Gentle
If there was just one thing I wish I could have learned earlier in life it would have been to BE GENTLE – with myself, with others, with the past, with the future, with the present.
I spent so much of my 20’s beating myself up for not having everything “figured out.” But discovering how to be truly happy isn’t as easy as everyone says it is and it’s even harder when we’re chasing an imaginary version of “perfect.”
The truth is, you’re going to fall down, get hurt, feel afraid, do things you don’t want to, or wish you hadn’t. It’s just part of the human experience. Learn to be gentle with yourself. Learn how to comfort and soothe yourself. Treat yourself as you would your own precious child. Life is so much easier when we’re nice to ourselves.” Notes To My Younger Self – Beautiful Living
Why It’s Worth Making Time for This Lengthy Morning Ritual – Inc.
“Feelings and emotions are messengers. They ask for our attention and when given, bring information about ourselves, our world and how things are going. While I have some preferred emotions, I don’t think of any of them as inherently bad. And until we hear them, they will up the ante of being heard- often in ways that would have us wish we’d listened to them in the first place.” I’m Not Fearless, Nor Do I Want To Be – Randi Buckley
4 Simple Ways to Cast Out Impostors Syndrome – Everyday Feminism
“And there she goes, that “too much” woman, making people think too much, feel too much, swoon too much. She with her authentic prose & a self-assuredness in the way she carries herself. She with her belly laughs & her insatiable appetite & her proneness to fiery passion. All eyes on her, thinking she’s hot shit.
Oh, that “too much” woman. . . too loud, too vibrant, too honest, too emotional, too smart, too intense, too pretty, too difficult, too sensitive, too wild, too intimidating, too successful, too fat, too strong, too political, too joyous, too needy—too much.
She should simmer down a bit, be taken down a couple notches. Someone should put her back in a more respectable place. Someone should tell her.” I Am A “Too Much” Woman – Sex Love Liberation
Dr. Goes On Record About Fibromyalgia & Natural Cures – Nourishing Plot
The Truth About Stomach Acid: Why low stomach acid is jeopardizing your health – Primal Docs
The Problem with Scented Candles & Non-Toxic Alternatives – Wellness Mama
What To Do If You Need To Take Antibiotics – Chris Kresser
AIP Carrot Ginger Sauce – Sweet Potatoes and Social Change
Basil Pesto – Enjoying This Journey
Blueberries & Cream Gummies – Living Loving Paleo
Garlic-Roasted Pork Shoulder – The Paleo Mom
Strawberry and Rhubarb Bars – Against All Grain
Easy and yummy almond coconut bites recipe – Songbird
Sleepy Tea – Nourished Kitchen
Simple homemade vanilla extract – Real Food Simple
Adaptogenic Homemade Sports Drink with Electrolytes – Empowered Sustenance
Slow Cooker Butter Chicken – Becomingness