Link Love (2014-10-18)
“We need to encourage frank dialogue around men’s emotions and sexual behaviour. Having spent a lot of time in secondary schools, speaking to students, I believe that the inhibitions we’ve inherited about opening up are causing a vacuum – one that is being filled by damaging behaviour, particularly in the case of male adolescents.” 10 years of sobriety: what I’ve learned about Irish male emotions – Irish Times
Let Fame and Fortune Be the Byproducts of a Life Well-Lived – Thought Catalog
“On some level age segregation makes sense: People of different ages do tend to want some different things. College students want to stay up late and pair off with each other; seniors understandably crave peace and quiet. But it also has costs: It can sow distrust and prejudice between generations, and robs people of the chance to learn from those younger and older than them. Kids, the research indicates, develop important skills by interacting with adults and making friends of different ages, while the elderly have been shown to benefit from spending time around children. There is also evidence that age segregation can affect the economic well-being of a community by making people from different age groups blind to each other’s needs.” What ‘age segregation ‘ does to America – The Globe
How to Increase Your Ability to Focus – Scott H Young
“But that is failing to understand – or refusing to understand – the actual nature of an abusive relationship.
Abuse is not just physical. Many abusive relationships don’t include physical violence at all.
An abusive relationship is not about violence; it is about power and control.
It is not about how many times you hit your partner, or insulted your partner, or whether your partner strikes back.
It is about the systematic use, over a prolonged period of time, of a variety of tactics intended to keep the abused partner in his or her place, which is wherever the abuser declares it to be (and always in a subservient position).
Not every psychologically abusive relationship culminates in physical violence.
But every physically abusive relationship begins with psychological abuse.” the woman in the water: how domestic abuse is psychological abuse – Justine Musk
Why every company needs to give employees Free Time on the job – Positive Sharing
“But once you rule out how some have behaved toward me because of my unbelief, I have to say that (when I am not working too much) I am enjoying life in a way that I haven’t enjoyed it in a long time. It’s not always about what I’m doing at the time, either. Often it’s just about feeling more at home in my own skin than I ever felt when I still believed that Earth is not my home and that I’m supposed to be longing for some other place. To explain what I mean, here is a list of the things which leaving my religion has brought me. Not everyone will necessarily experience the same things I did, but these are the benefits that I see I personally have derived from this development:” What Leaving My Religion Did for Me – Godless in Dixie
Pronoun Etiquettes – Robot Hugs
“Mother or not, you are positioned in relation to motherhood. The existence of birth control has not even allowed us to make the choice between being seen as a mother and being seen as an independent person; we can only choose between being seen as a mother and being seen as a non-mother. Either way we are defined by our capacity to produce someone else, someone who may be worth more than us; we are insufficient in and of ourselves.” Our culture dehumanises women by reducing them all to breeders and non-breeders – New Statesman
17 Lies We Need to Stop Teaching Girls About Sex – Everyday Feminism
“But with the wise understanding that women’s internal barriers are a result of our culture and our history, the same retreat becomes an important gathering where women let go of the limiting inner imprints their culture and history have left inside of them. It becomes a powerful juncture where they can begin to replace that imprint with something healed and empowered and whole. They do this as trailblazers, going forward in undo inner limitations that hold countless women back, so that they can lead in creating a new future for all of us.
What might this mean for you? On an individual level, if you think of working on your inner critic only as work on your unique neurosis, you are robbing yourself of the real power and meanning of that work. What I’d want for you instead, is that you remember that unbridling yourself from self-doubt is part of a collective unbridling, a part of women leaving behind a dark period of our history.” What’s missing from our women, confidence & careers conversation – Tara Sophia Mohr
10 common comments on feminist blogposts – and my responses – The Guardian
5 Ways to Love Yourself Unconditionally – Jennifer Twardowski
“Negative self-talk only keeps us stuck, spinning our wheels, sinking deeper and deeper into the mud and muck. Calling ourselves stupid over and over doesn’t help us learn from a mistake or see anything clearly.
It paralyzes us. It keeps us ruminating about our inadequacies with no forward movement or growth.
But here’s a fact (an actual one): It doesn’t have to be like this. We can create a kinder dialogue. We can talk to ourselves in a patient, supportive, empowering way. Each of us has the permission to do so.” Transforming Unhealthy Self-Talk -Weightless
Motivational Quotes: Nothing is too good to be true and other thoughts that will make your day – Modern Married
12 Signs You Need to Eat More Protein – Mark’s Daily Apple
Why Getting Your Nutrition Only From Food Is a Bad Idea – Bulletproof Executive
Natural Solutions to Cut the Cramps – Mary Vance, NC
What is Collagen Hydrolysate and How to Use It – Wellness Mama
The First Clinical Trial Using a Paleo Diet for Autoimmune Disease – The Paleo Mom
Barbecue Sauce – Paleo Non Paleo
Blackberry Cobbler (Autoimmune Protocol Friendly) – The Paleo Mom
Matcha and Coconut Fat Bombs – The Healthy Foodie
Nightshade-free Shepherds Pie – The Curious Coconut
Kraut Juice – Nourishing Plot
4-Ingredient Tarte Au Chocolat (Grain free, gluten free, dairy free, Paleo) – The Clean Dish
Bulletproof Chai – KetoSisters