Link Love (2014-11-01)
“Everybody loves this Stolen Bike analogy, but it has two fatal flaws. First, a bike is property theft, not a bodily assault. A better (but equally imperfect) analogy would be getting beat up and robbed while intoxicated; do you deserve that treatment because you were physically unable to prevent it from happening?
But even the mugging analogy has a serious limitation; sexual assault is a crime that disproportionately happens to women (though I can’t stress enough that it doesn’t only happen to women) and across the board we treat women’s bodies, women’s safety, and women’s privacy differently.
Want proof? Watch what happens when we review high profile sexual assault cases with one tiny change; all of the pronouns for the victim will be changed from “she” to “he.” To truly think through what it might feel like to be the victim of assault, you need to imagine being assaulted by someone you don’t want to have sex with. For many straight men, it’s too easy to write off being raped by a woman as ludicrous or impossible (though it’s not) so we’ll use male-on-male assault to truly find an empathetic comparison.” If Straight Men Were Raped As Often As Women: How Pronouns Change the Conversation About Victim Blaming – Role / Reboot
8 Ways to Make Sex an Awkwardness-Free Conversation with Your Kids – Everyday Feminism
“I start “call in” conversations by identifying the behavior and defining why I am choosing to engage with them. I prioritize my values and invite them to think about theirs and where we share them. And then we talk about it. We talk about it together, like people who genuinely care about each other. We offer patience and compassion to each other and also keep it real, ending the conversation when we need to and know that it wasn’t a loss to give it a try.
Because when I see problematic behavior from someone who is connected to me, who is committed to some of the things I am, I want to believe that it’s possible for us to move through and beyond whatever mistake was committed.
I picture “calling in” as a practice of pulling folks back in who have strayed from us. It means extending to ourselves the reality that we will and do fuck up, we stray and there will always be a chance for us to return. Calling in as a practice of loving each other enough to allow each other to make mistakes; a practice of loving ourselves enough to know that what we’re trying to do here is a radical unlearning of everything we have been configured to believe is normal.” Calling IN: A Less Disposable Way of Holding Each Other Accountable – Black Girl Dangerous
9 Things You Need to Stop Apologizing for Immediately – Smaggle
“Frankly, I feel used. These atheist activists are the sort of people who want to use my story as proof that religion is horrible to women but aren’t willing to listen to what I have to say about sexism in our culture at large. They are the sort of people who are eager to use the shooting of young education activist Malala Yousafzai by the Taliban to prove how horrible religion is for women but somehow fail to mention that Malala is a Muslim who speaks of drawing her inspiration to fight for gender equality from the Koran. This is not standing up for women. This is exploiting women as merely a tool in a fight against religion.” Do They Care About Women, or Simply Bashing Religion? – Love, Joy, Feminism
You Don’t Know Squat – Katy Says
Rishi Manchanda: What makes us sick? Look upstream – TED
How to Fight Depression and Feel Awesome Without Drugs – Bulletproof Executive
Redesigning Not Retreating – 21awake
Gluten Cross-Reactivity UPDATE: How your body can still think you’re eating gluten even after giving it up – The Paleo Mom
Bringing Mindfulness to the Office – Whole9
Carob Ganache Mini Tortes – The Paleo Mom
Kombucha Jello – Traditional Cooking School
Coconut Oil Chocolate Nut Bar – Renewing All Things
Italian Chopped Salad – Against All Grain
Gingerbread Truffles – Au Natural Nutrition
How to Roast Butternut Squash – Elena’s Pantry
Creamy Potato and Chicken Soup (AIP, nightshade free, dairy free) – My Big Fat Grain Free Life
Easy paleo vegan gingerbread man cookies recipe – The Real Food Guide
Paleo Lemon Meringue Pie – The Primal Desire
Paleo Banana Bread Macaroons (Egg Free) – Empowered Sustenance