Link Love (2015-04-25)
Astroturf and manipulation of media messages – Sharyl Attkisson – TedXUniversityofNevada
“Deciding to ask for help is tantamount to admitting weakness, and if there’s one thing that men are taught over and over again, it’s that Real Men Handle Their Own Shit. Even when we have example after example of fictional tough-guys and bad-asses being willing to open up, admit their fucked-upped-ness and recognize that they need help, there’s still this stigma against saying that you can’t do it alone. We’re supposed to let it all slide off of us as though it doesn’t matter. We minimize the problem because who wants to admit that they’re upset because they’re single? That they can’t “handle some people being mean to them?” Or that they can’t shake this feeling of emptiness or hopelessness or despair?” When It’s Time to Ask for Help – Dr NerdLove
It’s Time: How to Talk to Your Middle Schooler About Porn – Everyday Feminism
“In my experience a “successful” marriage, where two people continue to grow, learn, and deepen over time, has one main goal at it’s core:
This goal of marriage is actually twofold:
- To grow
- To foster an ongoing secure homebase” The Main Goal of a High-Functioning Marriage – Jayson Gaddis
Khalida Brohi: How I work to protect women from honor killings – TED
“Owners of enslaved people claimed they were doing Black women a favor by having sex with them.
Enslaved women were forced to have sex with their owners, but their masters considered this a favor. White men often claimed they were doing Black women a favor by saving them from having sex with Black men who were considered to be animalistic and brutal.” 10 Horrifying Facts About the Sexual Exploitation of Enslaved Black Women You May Not Know – Atlanta Blackstar
Report finds 80 percent of anti-Muslim attacks in France are against women – Feministing
“Probably. That’s all doubtless part of it. But, having gone through what felt like a strangely ritualistic enactment of a statistic I haven’t wanted to believe, I am filled more with questions about the larger implications of men not reading fiction by women than about the causes. If you think that because I’m female what I have to say in my novel won’t interest you, what about the things I say when I am talking to you about the research project in which we’re both engaged? About the funding needed for the public school system? How about when I am arguing a case in court? Filing an insurance claim?
Is it credible that fiction occupies a unique place? Credible that men who dismiss what female storytellers have to say as irrelevant to them, aren’t also inclined to dismiss – albeit unconsciously – what females of every variety have to say? To think it somehow less relevant than what the other men say? Is it credible that this often unexamined aversion is a special case of some kind? A glitch?” Guest Blogger Robin Black: On Learning To Spell Women’s Names While Men Buy My New Book For Their Wives – Read Her Like an Open Book
James A. White Sr: The little problem I had renting a house – TED
“When the going gets rough, I often speak to myself silently or softly, using words of compassion to help me feel better. If I feel let down by a friend, I might repeat silently, “I feel hurt by her behavior but I mustn’t blame myself.” If I’m sad about having to miss a gathering, I might whisper soothingly to myself, “It’s hard not to be there when I want so badly to visit with everyone.” When I don’t deny that I feel bad, and even acknowledge it in a self-compassionate way, I’m better able to cope with disappointment and sorrow.” How to Talk to Yourself – Psychology Today
“2. Find out whose business you’re in.
Your business is the realm of things that you can directly influence. Are you there? Or are you in someone else’s business? When we’re trying to control things outside of our own business, it’s not going to go well.” Let Go of Control: How to Learn the Art of Surrender – Tiny Buddha
Breaking the cycle of food cravings: Why are we drawn to foods that harm us? – Autoimmune Paleo
“An undergraduate student at the College of Chemical Sciences in Sri Lanka and his mentor have been tinkering with a new way to cook rice that can reduce its calories by as much as 50 percent and even offer a few other added health benefits. The ingenious method, which at its core is just a simple manipulation of chemistry, involves only a couple easy steps in practice.” Scientists have discovered a simple way to cook rice that dramatically cuts the calories – The Washington Post
A Beginner’s Guide to Meditation – Nerd Fitness
“The bottom line is there is a growing body of evidence that suggests gut microbes play a large role in regulation in behavior and brain chemistry and are relevant to development of depression and anxiety.” Mind Altering Microbes: How Your Gut Microbiome May Influence Your Mood – Primal Docs
10 Powerful Natural Painkillers from Your Kitchen! – Healthy Food Mind
“I had been inducted, apparently, into the growing army of American adults living in chronic pain. I discovered that there are 100 million of us, according to the Institute of Medicine. That was surprise No. 1. Surprise No. 2 was that most of us are women. Nobody really knows why.
There are cultural factors, to be sure. Women are “allowed” to be emotional about their pain, and men often aren’t, so perhaps women’s pain gets noticed more. There are complicated hormonal factors too. There are research biases at work as well, including the absurd fact that most basic neuroscience work on pain pathways is done not only in rats but in male rats. Go figure.
What is clear is that women and men can react so differently to both pain and pain medications that, as the McGill University pain geneticist Jeffrey Mogil only half-jokingly puts it, we may someday have pink pills for women and blue pills for men.” Why Millions of Women Are Living in Chronic Pain – Wall Street Journal
Ask the Doctor: 8 Herbs for Arthritis – Herb Companion
“What we’re looking at here is more than inertia really. It’s not just about getting moving but about the extra effort and patience to overcome negative physiological as well as behavioral patterns. If we can understand that there will likely be a lag time between our mental decisions and our bodies’ progress we’ll be more apt to have patience with our own process. Likewise, we’ll know to front load that process with effort, support and other motivation-boosters. We can create a series of lower threshold goals along the way and choose to value quicker advances and small wins even if they’re not the big results we’re really gunning for. (Those will come, too.)
The tipping point in behavior change, it appears, isn’t scare tactics or additional justification but simple accessibility. Making your process more accessible – easier, clearer, more blatantly simple to follow – can be the best strategy to begin.
Knowing the behavioral and physiological trends in addition to the essential knowing yourself – what cues you’re likely to respond to – will help you establish the routines that will be most effective in your daily life. With time, you brain and body will catch up with your intentions, and you’ll be working with the added bonus of momentum on your new Primal track.” How to Overcome Inertia and Get Yourself Unstuck – Mark’s Daily Apple
Perfect AIP Vanilla Cupcakes (Egg-free/Coconut-free/Nut-free) – Paleo’ish on a Dime
Fizzy Blended “Juiced” Apple Kombucha – Cultured Food Life
Autoimmune Paleo Pumpkin Pie – AIP Lifestyle
Tostones & Guacamole (AIP/Paleo) – It’s me, Charlotte!
Paleo Blueberry Streusel Coffee Cake Muffins (AIP Friendly) – Beyond the Bite
Bacon Herb Biscuits (AIP) – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations
Birthday Cupcakes (AIP-friendly) – The Paleo Mom
Paleo PITA Bread (AIP) – Predominantly Paleo
Vanilla Cinnamon Coconut Milk Pudding (AIP) – The Curious Coconut