Link Love (2015-05-16)

Thought-provoking

“If this sounds more like a religious mystic recalling an ecstatic experience, maybe that’s no coincidence. That synchrony feels so instinctive and so enjoyable reminds us the dividing line between the self and the rest of the world is blurry at best – McNeill’s “loss of boundary” can feel amazing. In communal movement, it’s as if you suddenly realise what a burden it is to maintain your individualism the rest of the time. Morris dancing and synchronised swimming might not be completely indefensible after all.” The joys of physical synchrony – The Guardian

6 Examples of How Extroverts Benefit From Their Social Privilege – Everyday Feminism

At it’s best, self-control doesn’t revolve around deprivation, denial or chastising but clarity, intention, and attunement. We don’t disown elements of ourselves but get clear about what role we want them to have in our decision-making. We don’t punish ourselves or take pride in how little we can force ourselves to live with. We create an over-arching vision for our lives and make choices that take care of our needs in ways that also serve that plan.
In that regard, self-control is the ultimate exercise of freedom – a freedom that comes from self-determination of one’s life unbound from both cultural norms and lesser impulses. What we call control is, in fact, the alignment and actualizing of our higher will.” Self-Control: The Ultimate Exercise of Freedom – Mark’s Daily Apple

3 Ways Mindfulness Will Improve Your Relationship – Nicole Liloia – Huffington Post

Religion

In the book, you quote a woman from Tunisia who says, “Where women fight, only men benefit.” This is when you’re discussing what you call “the double battle” – that women were essential to the Arab Spring but afterward the misogyny and the violence were just as bad, maybe worse.
We began these difficult revolutions and then we focused on men and the struggles among men to basically divvy up the spoils. We’re just doing musical chairs to replace one man with another.
We need to start talking about violence against women as a form of terrorism and recognize that until we solve that terrorism – instead of the kind we’re often told we must focus on: the explosions; the fight between military rule and the Islamists – the political revolution will fail. That’s why I keep talking about the double revolution. Nothing will succeed and we will never be free unless we have a concurrent social and sexual revolution that focuses on all of us.” Why some people consider Mona Eltahawy a dangerous woman – The Globe and Mail

Equality

“Obviously, calling someone inspirational isn’t offensive in itself. However, it can easily become insulting when it’s applied to someone with a disability.
When an able-bodied person calls a disabled person inspirational, they’re usually applauding them for existing – and in turn, patting themselves on the back for realizing how difficult disabled life must be.” 7 Reasons to Stop Calling Disabled People Inspirational – Everyday Feminism

How Female Senators Dealt With Sexism as They Built Their Careers – Cosmopolitan

“Once upon a time a woman expelled a child from her womb. It was a daughter. The woman looked at the child and was afraid. The girl was beautiful and vibrant and completely unrestrained. The woman saw two possibilities: The first, that she could observe her daughter as she grew. She could watch and wait and help as needed, recognizing that children do not always make safe choices or good choices, but that they can learn to make the best choices. Her daughter might make big, scary choices or small, silly choices, or even repeat unnecessary, annoying choices, but her daughter would learn from these choices. She would grow up knowing herself because she was allowed to do so. But she might not grow into the right kind of woman.” Right Kind of Woman by Shawna Ayoub Ainslie – ASLI Magazine

4 Things Your History Teacher Didn’t Know About Native Americans – Everyday Feminism

Beauty & Body Image

KonMari Your Purse – AsianCajun

“Of course, lo and behold, by the end of the video many women have changed their minds (not sure of the time lapse). After some deep thought and sympathetic conversation with others, they will now consider themselves beautiful and give themselves permission to walk right through that beautiful door! In my opinion, if Dove really wanted to dig deep, perhaps they might have chosen a more thoughtful pairing of words like “confident” and “insecure,” or “fulfilled” and “unfulfilled.” Elle Magazine says the ad is “incredibly powerful” asking: “Who knew the simple task of choosing an entrance could be so empowering?” I don’t find this one bit empowering. I actually think it is depressing. I find the very idea of reducing women to these two attributes incredibly enervating, redundant and of little help in the broader discourse about female empowerment as if we have only to consider these two options.” Why I’m Not Buying What Dove is Selling – Princess Free Zone

When Magazines Made Me Hate My Body, Yoga Made Me Love It Again – The Vagenda

“Anything that you don’t love, that doesn’t make you feel fabulous in – leave it behind.
Anything that doesn’t coordinate with at least three other existing items in your closet – leave it behind.
Anything that you can’t comfortably afford – leave it behind.
You are far better off creating a wardrobe with this attitude than a random ‘grab it and run’ approach – you’ll love the working wardrobe you create, and your wallet will thank you, too!” Common Items Women Buy But Just Don’t Wear – My Year Without Clothes Shopping

Save Money on “Dry Clean Only” Fabrics with These Cheaper At-Home-Helps – The Krazy Coupon Lady

Inspirational

“Connecting with our true selves is challenging—we often feel a great deal of pressure to meet societal demands of who we should be or what we should look like, often in direct conflict with authenticity. Yet we have the great potential to unveil our true selves and rock the universe.” Embrace Who You Are (Not What People Expect You to Be) – Tiny Buddha

A Simple, Powerful Self-Compassion Method – Zen Habits

“The number one obstacle that gets in the way of us being our own hero is prioritising who we think we should be over who we actually are.
When we do this, we end up living according to other people’s values and beliefs rather than our own (also called “people-pleasing”). This is a bit like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole; it creates friction, discord and a whole ton of internal conflict. We’ve usually had excellent reasons to prioritise other people’s beliefs and values over our own in the past but doing this doesn’t serve us as adults.” The 4 Most Common Types of People-Pleasing (and How to Stop) – Becoming Who You Are

8 sure ways to block positivity – Danielle LaPorte

“Do you feel overwhelmed by the pace of your life? Do you often feel disconnected or distracted and unable to relax? If so, check out these 6 tips for avoiding a “near-life experience” and living a happier, more rewarding life.” How to Avoid a Near-Life Experience – Chris Kresser

How to Be a Good Friend to a Needy Person – xoJane

Chronic Illness & Pain

“Deficiencies in certain nutrients, particularly are clearly associated with depression. A deficiency in most of the B vitamins is linked to some sort of decline in mental or emotional state: depression, fatigue, confusion, memory loss, apathy, anxiety, irritability, nervousness, sleep disturbances or loss of appetite. Vitamins B3, B6, C, biotin, zinc and folic acid are also all needed for the conversion of tryptophan to serotonin to take place.” Nutritional Reasons that May Be Making Depression Worse (and Your Pain Too) – The Princess in the Tower

22 Herbs, Vitamins, & Supplements: The Ultimate Guide for Treating RA – Healthline

“When you are chronically ill, just the act of leaving your house may be difficult.  You may have very limited mobility.  And you may have some emotional effects from being confined to home so much (if you are confined to home) – anxiety or fear about leaving the house and all that entails.  Everything is harder when you are dealing with a chronic illness.  But, here are some simple suggestions to make life a little easier.” Energy Economy – Leaving the House While Chronically Ill – Laina Laughing

Top Ten Tips for Getting a Life – Autoimmune Paleo

“When experiencing ongoing severe pain, life’s daily stressors become magnified and appear to be insurmountable obstacles. It can lead to depression, anxiety, social withdrawal, feelings of inadequacy, and feelings of being “beaten down” and abandoned.” Coping with Chronic Pain – Brainline

Unfucking with Chronic Pain: Tips – Unfuck Your Habitat

“Think of being resilient as the ability to bounce back in the face of difficulties. For people with chronic pain, it means not letting symptoms interfere with living a full life. Resiliency also may make you feel better; experts have found that people with positive outlooks often experience less pain and stress.” Bolstering your resiliency – Pain Action

21 Ways to Help a Headache – The Pillow Fort

Health

Shoes: The List – Alignment Matters & Shoes: The Winter List

“Your feet are the foundation of all your movement. They actually contain, between the two of them, around 25% of all the bones and muscles in the body – they each have 26 bones and 33 joints. This makes them sophisticated marvels of engineering, designed not only to support your weight and allow you to stand, walk and run, but also to sense and adapt to constantly changing ground conditions as a major component of your body’s stabilization and suspension systems.” Feet. So weird, yet so useful. – Movement Revolution

Is Too Much Stretching Bad for You? YTU Takes You From Floppy to Fit – Yoga Tune Up

“The World Health Organization recommends people obtain no more than 5% of daily calories from added sugar. That’s about 6 teaspoons or 25 grams on a typical diet, and it’s half of what they previously recommended a year or two ago. They’re urging countries to follow suit with national dietary guidelines.” How Much Sugar Is Recommended Per Day? – Mark’s Daily Apple

How to Choose Carrier Oils – Scratch Mommy

“An interesting paper published in the Journal of Periodontology in 2009 described a study of 10 individuals.1 These people had to eat a Paleo-type diet, which strictly avoided refined sugars and all processed foods. For 30 days, they could not brush or floss their teeth. At the beginning of the study, their teeth were examined for any signs of gum disease, and the bacteria around their teeth were identified. At the end of the 30 day period, the bacteria around their teeth as well as any gum bleeding or gum pockets were reexamined. The results at the end of this study showed that bleeding from their gum tissues decreased, the depth of their gum pockets decreased, and unhealthy types of bacteria around their teeth decreased. They did have quite a bit of bacteria around their teeth, but they were not the unhealthy types that caused gum disease or tooth decay. As a reminder, they did not brush or floss for the entire 30 day study.” Do I Have to Brush and Floss on a Paleo Diet? – The Paleo Diet

Black Cumin Seed Oil Benefits – Wellness Mama

Recipes

Ginger Scallion Sauce (Paleo, AIP, Vegan) – Fresh Tart

12 Favorite Fruit and Herb Flavors for Kombucha – Thank Your Body

Autoimmune Paleo Lemon Cream Frosting – Beyond the Bite

Pan-Fried Sardines – Popular Paleo

Lemon Breakfast Cake – The Spunky Coconut

How to Make Honey Candied Ginger – Delicious Obsessions

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