Link Love (2015-07-04)
“Dear humans: What would happen if we dropped the storyline that teenaged girls are “the worst” and just let them fucking BE? Love, Janelle” Hey teenage girls: You are not the worst- renegade mothering
Manage Conflict, Part 1 – The Gottman Relationship Blog & Part 2
“Six years ago, I wrote a story for Bloomberg News about an interesting research review that looked at which studies of antidepressants such as Prozac, Paxil and Zoloft got published in medical journals and which didn’t. The review found that almost every clinical trial that got published in a medical journal—a whopping 94 percent of them—had positive findings, meaning they showed the drugs worked. Those were the studies that got published; those were the studies that doctors and patients could turn to for guidance.” Drug companies aren’t telling you the whole truth – Salon
5 Ways You Sabotage Your Love Life – Dr NerdLove
“Birth control pills and herbicides in water are known to wreak all kinds of havoc on the sexual development of aquatic life and possibly even our children, but now a researcher from University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee has found another culprit. The medicine metformin, commonly taken for Type II diabetes and found in freshwater worldwide, has been shown to cause intersex fish – males that can produce eggs. Male fish are not supposed to be able to produce eggs.” Common drug in waste-water is surprising reason behind gender-bending fish – Treehugger
701: “How do I care for my ill and grieving mom when I am stretched so thin myself?” – Captain Awkward
“We need to be careful to make sure we’re teaching our daughters “and” rather than “or.” Pushing girls away from “boy” things is a problem, yes—a big problem—but pushing girls away from “girl” things is also a problem. We need to make sure we are not giving our daughters the message that things that are pink, or ruffly, or jeweled are somehow inferior. If we do, they might get the idea that if they like those things, they’re inferior too.” The Tomboy in Skirts – Love, Joy, Feminism
Alice Goffman: How we’re priming some kids for college – and others for prison – TED
“We are subjected to a steady stream of news about judges who clearly hold seriously outdated and biased ideas about sex, gender, violence, and rape.
Judges who call 13-year-olds sexual predators who “target” 41-year-old abusers. Judges who, in order to excuse the behavior of adult men, grapple to pinpoint that elusive moment when a girl child becomes a scheming woman who is fair game for rapists.
Although, some don’t even disguise their efforts, such as the lawyer in Texas I can’t get out of my head, who compared an 11-year old gang-raped by almost two dozen men to a “spider” that “lured” them into her dangerous sexual web.” It’s Not ‘Forced Sex’, It’s Rape – and Why Not Calling It That Is Dangerous – Everyday Feminism
Derail – Robot Hugs
“About three years ago, Sophia’s mother and, then, Anna’s mother found the blog I write about raising my gender nonconforming son, and they wanted their sons to meet and know another boy who was a girl at heart. C.J. loves his boy body and thinks it’s the perfect house for his girl heart and girl brain. He knows what it means to be transgender (when a person’s sex and gender are at odds) and what it means to be cisgender (when a person’s sex and gender align) and he says he’s neither. That makes him gender creative.” How I Told My Son His Friends Are Transgender – Yahoo
7 Everyday Things Poor People Worry About that Rich People Never Do – Everyday Feminism
Beauty & Body Image
“To love yourself you must first decide to be kind to ourselves. Without kindness, we will never make positive change. If we treat ourselves like bullies, we will only fail, because we will have half of ourselves rooting against us.
We have to have our minds and hearts aligned with our bodies how they are now in order to truly love ourselves.” 4 Tips to Accepts and Love Yourself at Any Size – Health Light Balance
Does it Fit vs. Does it Work – Already Pretty
“Rather, breast policing is a highly subjective form of gender control in terms of which breasts, whose breasts, the size of breasts, the shape of breasts, the color of breasts, the usage of said breasts in the moment, and probably something about nipples.” If You Need Proof that Breast Policing is Ridiculous, Look No Further than These 4 Examples from Facebook – Everyday Feminism
Flower Sack Dresses From the Flour Mills (Historical Kindness) – Kindness Blog
“When we hug, our hearts connect and we know that we are not separate beings.” The Great Zen Buddhist Teacher Thich Nhat Hanh on How to Do “Hugging Meditation” – Brain Pickings
How to practice mindfulness meditation – Business Insider
“If we didn’t give the body a rest at night, it wouldn’t function very long. The only time the mind can have a real rest is when it stops thinking and only experiences. Once verbalization stops for a moment, not only is there quiet but there is a feeling of contentment. That quiet, peaceful space is the mind’s home. It can go home and relax just as we do after a day’s work when we relax the body in an easy chair.” Give Your Mnd a Rest: Practice Not-Thinking – Psychology Today
How to Stop Giving a F*ck What People Think – LifeHacker
“If you’ve ever been told that you are too much.
If you’ve ever been made to feel that you need to dull down your brightness, your beauty.
To dumb down your words.
To fit into a box that is much too small for the magnificence of your being.
That somehow, by being the person that you are, you believe that you’ll snatch that opportunity away from everyone else.” If You’ve Ever Been Told You’re Too Much – Danielle Dowling
Chronic Illness & Pain
3 Ways to Weather the Internal Storm of Chronic Pain & Not Let It Define You – The Princess in the Tower
“Many of us who suffer from chronic painand illness are on medications with side-effects that, in some cases, are as difficult to cope with as our initial health problems.” How to Cope with Side-Effects of Medications – Psychology Today
Relaxation Rehabilitation Part Four: How to Rest and Make It Fun – Grace Quantock
“New research discovers that individuals who live with daily pain often face a struggle with their sense of self and find it difficult to prove the legitimacy of their condition.” Living with Chronic Pain Challenges Sense of Self – Psych Central
Eight Ways to Deal with Chronic Pain – Washington Post
“At first, I actually didn’t make the connection, and I genuinely considered going to the ER. It was only later, after calming down, that I realized that my caffeine intake was causing me to have the worst panic attacks of my life.” Anxiety Guinea Pig – Part 1 – Caffeine – Stepping Over Me
Coping With Chronic Pain – Health.com
10 Natural Remedies for Eczema – Mommypotamus
“Because when I began studying at The Restorative Exercise Institute, the VERY FIRST THING that one must do is to correct one’s stance. The feet are naturally supposed to be lined up straight using the outside edges, like this:” When Pigeon-Toed Isn’t – Move Your Body Better
Cheese: the secret to longer life and faster metabolism? – Telegraph
“Your shoulders and back might have been fine the week before and suddenly, boom, there is pain. The pain didn’t come because you carried your baby more than usual. Well, it did. Kind of. Really, the pain came because you’ve been carrying your baby (and your own body) in a tissue damaging way from the start. And that one day, your body thought now is ENOUGH!” The baby that broke the mom’s back OR how to get stronger while holding baby – Kangaroo
5 Reasons You Can’t Sleep at Night – Coconuts & Kettlebells
“We have to face facts first: genetics and the habits we were brought up with do matter. Whether they are healthy habits or unhealthy habits, learned from great parents or parents who didn’t pass along a solid foundation – they matter. Maybe you have anger management issues like your dad, a sugar addiction like your mom, or you had parents who struggled to hold a job (or, parents who are doctors or scientists)!” Have Your Parents Decided Your Fitness Fate? – Nerd Fitness
Is Heartburn Caused by “Leaky Esophagus”? – Chris Kresser
Roasted Carrots with Carrot Top Pesto (Autoimmune Paleo) – Joy-filled Nourishment
Homemade Bratwurst (AIP) – Enjoying this Journey
Panfried Sardines (from Nourish) – Beyond the Bite
The Morning Cocktail I Drink Instead of Coffee – Tim Ferriss
Moroccan-Inspired Broccoli Salad – Autoimmune Paleo
Yogurt Panna Cotta with Honey-Roasted Strawberries – Nourished Kitchen