Link Love (2015-07-18)
The Shut-In Economy – On Demand – Medium
“In theory, more options are better, right? Wrong. Psychology professor Barry Schwartz, famous for his 2004 book The Paradox of Choice, divided us into two types of people: “satisficers” (those who satisfy and then suffice) and “maximizers,” who seek out the best.
Thanks to smartphones and the Internet, our options are unlimited, whether it’s a retail item or a romantic possibility. We have all become maximizers. When I think back to that sad peanut-butter-and-banana sandwich I had in Seattle, this idea resonates with me. Besides gasoline, it’s nearly impossible for me to think of anything I won’t put in time for to find the best. I’m a maximizer for just about everything. Tacos? You better believe. Candles? If you only knew how good the candles in my house smell.
It’s easy to find and get the best, so why not do it? If you are in a big city or on an online-dating site, you are now comparing your potential partners not just to other potential partners but rather to an idealized person to whom no one could measure up.
But people don’t always know what they’re looking for in a soul mate, unlike when they’re picking something easier, like laundry detergent.” Aziz Ansari: Love, Online Dating, Modern Romance and the Internet – Time
8 things I learned from wearing an Apple Watch for a couple of weeks – The Oatmeal
“One of the common issues I see in couples isn’t that they don’t communicate, it’s that they’re communicating in a way that their partner doesn’t understand. Everybody has their own personality quirks; the problem is how often we tend to assume those quirks are completely understandable, transparent and universal. You think you’re making yourself perfectly clear. Your partner, on the other hand, is mystified like a dog that doesn’t understand why the cat doesn’t want to be his friend.” Better Communication Can Save Your Relationship – Dr NerdLove
Tony Fadell: The first secret of design is… noticing – TED
the one reason I haven’t shared that tea/consent thing – the dirty normal
“It is time for Ireland to legalize abortion law once and for all. An Amnesty International report, released on Tuesday, reveals what the human rights organization calls the “devastating impact” of Ireland’s ban on abortion: grieving women forced to carry dying fetuses to term, rape and incest victims with no recourse, even suicidal women – who legally should be able to obtain abortions – having their rights violated and lives put at risk.” Ireland’s abortion law tortures women. It needs to be legal. – Jessica Valenti – The Guardian
You Know Those Common Objections to ‘They’ Pronouns’? Here Are 9 Simple Facts to Shut Them Down – Everyday Feminism
“I think that what our society teaches young girls, and I think it’s also something that’s quite difficult for even older women and self-professed feminists to shrug off, is that idea that likability is an essential part of you, of the space you occupy in the world, that you’re supposed to twist yourself into shapes to make yourself likable, that you’re supposed to hold back sometimes, pull back, don’t quite say, don’t be too pushy, because you have to be likable.
And I say that’s bullshit.” I’m Wasting My Likeable On the Wrong People. Are You? – Yes and Yes
Trevor Aaronson: How this FBI strategy is actually creating US-based terrorists – TED
“In order to move forward with our own healing and to learn to love ourselves better, we’ve got to facilitate the healing of that inner child.
We are adults now, so it is our responsibility to look at that poor, hurt, misunderstood kid and tell her or him that they are loved, valuable, wanted and important.
But how do we do that?” Healing the Inner Child: Sunday Self Love Challenge – Health Light Balance
Going through a life change? The one thing you need to do. – Lottie Ryan
“If we make space for contemplation and meditation right in our own homes, then peace and joy are always available to us,” Dung writes in the introduction of the book. In this sacred space in our home, he writes, we are able to “return to ourselves and touch something deep within ourselves.” 3 Tips for Creating a Home Meditation Practice – World of Psychology
Practicing Non-Judgment – Zen Habits
“2. Because you will provide greater peace of mind to people who are grieving. Family members won’t have to agonize, wondering, “But what if someone had known CPR?” They will know that every possible action was taken to save their loved one. Because you tried.” Trying is always worth it – Alexandra Franzen
Chronic Illness & Pain
14 Tips from 14 Years Sick – Psychology Today
“I stood wavering between a few different emotions: anger, hurt, disappointment and unbelief. Did my disease really deserve nothing better than a simple “Oh”? I pondered for a moment what this encounter would have been like if the illness I was stricken by was in fact cancer. This stranger probably would have told me that I was brave, and she may have even shared with me stories of loved ones she knew battling cancer. There most certainly would have been a tear shed, and even a silent hug, followed by a “But you’re so young!” and a sincere “Good luck!” Why is it that only one disease seems to command the compassion of others, while the rest are lost and forgotten?” When a Woman’s One-Word Response to My Disease Angered Me – The Mighty
Learning to Delay Gratification – Autoimmune Paleo
“Before we zip through the end of this year and leap to the next, I have a suggestion: Take stock of what you’re leaving behind.
It’s so easy to look ahead, we often fail
to give ourselves credit for how far we’ve come.” The Flawed Fibromyalgia Success Map – ProHealth
Does milk really do your kid’s body good? – Today’s Parent
“Few know that only the last of our digestive tract’s eight metres deals with faeces, that it produces more than 20 kinds of hormone, contains more than a thousands species of bacteria and is controlled by a nervous system that is almost as complex as the brain’s.
And Enders argues that even scientists like her – a 24-year-old doctoral student at Frankfurt’s Goethe University – have only in recent years started to explore the possibility that the health of our bowels could have a more direct influence on our mental wellbeing, our motivation, memory and sense of morality than our DNA.” Gut reaction: book celebrating digestive tract becomes German bestseller – The Guardian
Ask Well: Do Microwaves Degrade Food Nutrients? – The New York Times
“All yogurt is initially created equal, but after that, all bets are off. For whatever reason, food producers have seen fit to ruin a perfectly good thing with misguided additions and subtractions.” Is All Yoghurt Created Equal? – Mark’s Daily Apple
The Problem with Calcium Supplements – Wellness Mama
“Even while many women suffer PCOS because insulin resistance causes their testosterone levels to rise, this is actually only the case for about 70% of women with PCOS. For everyone else with PCOS, metformin’s effects will be minimal at best, and may in fact be harmful.” Metformin and PCOS: Everything You Need to Know – Paleo for Women
The Pseudoscience of Beauty Products – The Atlantic
Carrot Ginger Meatballs – Plaid & Paleo
Instant Pot Pina Colada Chicken Recipe – AIP Paleo, Gluten Free, Easy – Paleo Cajun Lady
Banoffie – Banana Coconut Cream Pie (AIP, Paleo) – Further Food
Farmacy: Mizuba Matcha Green Tea + Tart – thirlby
12 Delicious Infused Water Recipes – Beauty in the Mess
Carrot Cake with Whipped Coconut Frosting (AIP, Paleo) – Heartbeet Kitchen