Link Love (2015-11-07)
“To this day it’s (what Gottman calls) an enduring vulnerability for me, this fear that someone I care about will assert that my emotions are invalid, disproportionate, or, worst, actively toxic to those around me.
Because my feelings are NOT any of those things, no matter what you say or what you think, and if you disagree with me you can FUCK RIGHT THE HELL OFF because you’re WRONG, and I mean wrong not just in a factual sense but in a moral sense. Your false belief hurts people and you can shove it up your ass.” emotion coaching – the dirty normal
This explains why I got frustrated with, and in the end ‘unliked’ I Fucking Love Science:
” “Thanks To Reduced Solar Activity, We Could Be Heading For A Mini Ice Age In 2030”
“There Probably Won’t Be A “Mini Ice Age” In 15 Years”
“No, We Aren’t Heading Into A ‘Mini Ice Age’”
“The ‘Mini Ice Age’ Hoopla Is A Giant Failure Of Science Communication”
With mixed messages like these leaving most readers with the impression that science is without consensus, it would be prudent to pin these headlines as the work of four disparate publications. However, in the landscape of rush to publish journalism, the once fun yet reliable source of science news, I Fucking Love Science published all four of these headlines within days of each other.
So what became of an organization that once strove to popularize science? How did they become the less-than-reliable tabloid of science journalism? And with sensationalized headlines that hardly resemble the scientific work from which they preen clickbait, how can readers separate science fact from science fiction?” Pop Sci to Pop Sigh: I Fucking Love Science Ex-Admins Speak Out – Skepchick
“The trolls of the internet got together (in my head) and wrote a helpful handy guide. If you are unclear what a “troll” is, I give you this definition: The most annoying commenters in the world; people who make it their mission to enrage and insult while simultaneously ignoring the point. They appear on every comment thread. Anywhere. No matter what. You can run, but you can’t hide.
Luckily though they are easy to spot because THEY ALL THINK THE SAME WAY.” A troll’s guide to the internet – Renegade Mama
“But the overall problem is one of a culture where instead of seeing women as, you know, people, protagonists of their own stories just like we are of ours, men are taught that women are things to “earn,” to “win.” That if we try hard enough and persist long enough, we’ll get the girl in the end. Like life is a video game and women, like money and status, are just part of the reward we get for doing well.” Your Princess Is in Another Castle: Misogyny, Entitlement, and Nerd – The Daily Beast
Trump escalates his sexist attacks on Megyn Kelly – Mashable
“According to the Hollywood Reporter, nearly 50 women have to come forward to accuse you of sexual assault over the course of your five decades in show business. In the process of the long, painful trial against you in the court of Internet public opinion, so many women will accuse you of drugging and raping them that they can’t all fit on the cover of New York magazine. The case against you is so grim that even your staunchest defenders have turned against you—even Whoopi Goldberg, who is still batting for Mel Gibson and Roman Polanski.
But to be the most-hated woman of the moment, all you have to do is be kind of a brat. Former Nickelodeon star and “Love Me Harder” singer Ariana Grande came in second in THR’s biannual Q Score ranking, which ranks famous people by their popularity—or in Grande’s case, their unpopularity. Following an incident where Grande licked a donut and claimed to hate America, her negative Q Score has increased by 26 points, almost as much as Cosby’s 43-point climb.” The war on “unlikeable women”: Ariana Grande, Kim Kardashian and the brazen misogyny we choose to ignore – Salon
Mike Huckabee: 10-year-old rape victim should be forced to carry rapist’s baby – Raw Story
“Twitchy may be one of the most powerful political platforms online, but its role as an organized harassment tool is almost never discussed. Founded in 2012 by conservative blogger Michelle Malkin, the site has half a dozen editors who troll Twitter for content to post; each post consists of a tweet or series of tweets along with some brief and often outraged commentary. Malkin sold Twitchy to Salem Media, a for-profit Christian company in 2013, but the religiosity of its new owners has not shifted its acidic content. (Malkin and several current Twitchy editors did not respond to multiple emails requesting comment, and Salem Media did not return emails and phone calls requesting comment.)” The Right-Wing Hate Machine – Cosmopolitan
5 Ways that Science Supports Feminism – Not Gender Essentialism – Everyday Feminism
“It’s the combination of cutesy girliness with the idea of women aping men that makes –ette words, so far as I’m concerned, a feminist no-go area. To me, there’s something paradoxical about referring to women scientists as ‘stemettes’ (which implies they are trespassing on male turf, whereas the organization’s message is that STEM fields aren’t just for men), or calling a magazine for female tech enthusiasts Gadgette (isn’t that the linguistic equivalent of offering women ‘the pink version of a laptop’? OK, I know, irony, but there’s a fine line between ironizing sexism and just repeating it, producing what the cultural critic Judith Williamson dubbed ‘sexism with an alibi’).” Ette-ymology – language: a feminist guide
Chronic Illness & Pain
“But here’s what I’ve learned: Every one of us, in some way, is “damaged.” And moreover, those struggles, while they may have shaped who we’ve become, are not the entirety of who we are.
And whatever those struggles might be, they certainly don’t depreciate our value. We aren’t meat sitting in a freezer, slowly expiring until we’re tossed aside. We’re people – people that, like anyone else, have had our fair share of challenges to get to where we are today.
Anyone who says we’re less valuable because we’ve struggled in the past does not deserve a place in our present.” 9 Affirmations You Deserve to Receive if You Have a Mental Illness – Everyday Feminism
Healing from Ulcerative Colitis – Jesse’s Story – Sweet Potatoes and Social Change
“It’s difficult to know how to deal with a friend or loved one who has a chronic or invisible illness. We learn that when you are sick you treat it and it goes away. Chronic conditions don’t go away. They are hard to understand.
Invisible illnesses are illnesses that you can’t see just by looking at someone. Things like Chronic Migraines, Lupus, Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, etc. don’t affect your appearance, but they affect how your body functions and feels. Every day. Probably for the rest of your life.
When you say these things to someone with a chronic illness, you probably don’t mean to hurt their feelings. A lot of the time you are just trying to understand or sympathize. Well, from the perspective of a chronic illness sufferer, here are 15 things you should never say to someone with a chronic illness:” 15 Things Not to Say to Someone With a Chronic or Invisible Illness – Pins and Procrastination
How to Travel With Fibromyalgia and Chronic Illness – Rebuilding Wellness
“We are all told to pace ourselves when we are diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I am sure some doctors are better than others at explaining what pacing is, but I’ve come to appreciate that it’s a term that is banded around without much explanation at all. It’s as if we should know what it meansinstinctively. “Do a little at a time and break down tasks so they are simpler”. This is what pacing is in essence but, for me, it is far too simplistic an explanation. I mean, how do you manage to pace when you have so much to do in a day?” What The Hell Is Pacing Anyway? February Stars
Coconut Oil for Skin: Everything You Need to Know – Coconuts & Kettlebells
“From academic success to cancer risk, research increasingly shows that the age at which a girl gets her period—called “menarche”—can have a significant impact on her life.
These findings are especially notable given that, around the world, the average age of menarche has dropped steadily since the 1950s. With new studies coming out regularly about girls going through puberty earlier, we were curious: What’s causing this global decline—and what are the potential long-term consequences?” Why the age you get your period can matter forever – Fusion
Methylation Series Part 1- Methylation and Folate – Autoimmune Paleo, Part 2 – Gene Mutations that Affect Methylation & Part 3 – Methylation Treatment and Support
“I left my in-patient program more confused about food than ever, more obsessed about calories than I had been before, more controlled by my food consumption and food regimens and totally reliant on a handful of medications to take care of all my digestive needs from peristalsis to defecation. I had a dietary protocol to follow and needed to challenge myself to eat ‘difficult’ foods. Over and above that, I felt AWFUL. I had never felt worse. This had little to do with the weight I had regained, and more to do with my physical symptoms – excessive abdominal pain and bloating, joint pain, fatigue, skin issues, mood fluctuations, sleep disturbances, night sweats, nausea and brain fog are just the beginning of the list. Nothing was helping. Nothing was improving. My train of thought was literally that being ill, with the risk of imminent death was better than having to deal with all these symptoms forever. This was not a lack of desire for recovery. The symptoms I was experiencing were significantly more uncomfortable and were having an even greater impact on my emotional well-being than my illness had. Is this why relapse rates were so high? Was I supposed to resign myself to this unpleasant existence as my only alternative option to my eating disorder? I began to wonder why each time I developed a new symptom, another medication was prescribed without even a question.” Real People, Real Paleo – Beyond Eating Disorder – The Paleo Mom
An Introduction to Isometrics: How to Build Strength Without Even Moving – Mark’s Daily Apple
“A walk in the park may soothe the mind and, in the process, change the workings of our brains in ways that improve our mental health, according to an interesting new study of the physical effects on the brain of visiting nature.” How Walking in Nature Changes the Brain – The New York Times
What Eating 40 Teaspoons of Sugar a Day Can Do to You – The New York Times
“On a basic level, meditative practices can help calm an overactive brain. “Anxiety is essentially worrying about the future, about bad things that haven’t happened yet and probably won’t,” says Jenny Taitz, PsyD, a clinical psychologist at The American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in New York City. “Because anxiety is future focused, anything that keeps you in the moment is helpful.” And that’s exactly what yoga and meditation do. By paying attention
to the way your body feels inWarrior II or holding your mind on the feeling of the breath moving in and out of your nostrils, you keep yourself firmly anchored in the present moment.” Learn How Yoga Relieves Anxiety Holistically – Yoga Journal
The Bulletproof Guide to Sunscreen and Sun Protection – Bulletproof Executive
“Coffee and tea both landed in the British isles in the 1600s. In fact, java even got a head start of about a decade. And yet, a century later, tea was well on its way to becoming a daily habit for millions of Britons — which it remains to this day.
So how did tea emerge as Britain’s hot beverage of choice?
The short answer: Tea met sugar, forming a power couple that altered the course of history. It was a marriage shaped by fashion, health fads and global economics. And the growing taste for sweetened tea also helped fuel one of the worst blights on human history: the slave trade.” Tea Tuesdays: How Tea + Sugar Reshaped The British Empire – NPR
Should I Get a Blender, a Food Processor, or a Mixer? – The Sweethome
“First of all, there are probably going to be people who like cooking and eating alone no matter what generation they’re in. Another part of it is that one pleasure of cooking comes from breaking something down, feeling like you’re in control. We live in a time where we’re really not in control of very much. You can’t get a job, you can’t get a date without branding yourself properly on, you know, whatever app you’re using. You don’t really understand how the Internet works or how your phone works, but food is something you can break down. You can understand it, so you can have control over the final product.” Millennials Are Foodies: Consequences for Restaurants, Agriculture, and Grocery Stores – The Atlantic
Rosemary Mashed Sweet Potatoes – Whole Life, Soul Full
Guest Post by The Paleo Cavewoman – Asian Chicken Skewers – The Paleo Mom
Homemade Fermented Pickle Recipe – The Prairie Homestead
Guest Post, The Urban Poser: Berries & Cream Breakfast Cake – Paleo Parents
Caramelized Fennel and Sweet Potato Sauté (AIP, Paleo) – Don’t Eat the Spatula
Asian Chicken Patties – And Here We Are…