Link Love (2016-01-23)
“Where are the fact checkers in Young Earth Creationist’ (YEC) organizations? And why do simple errors and profound misconceptions of science persist among their ranks? I have commented multiple times that the YEC organization Institute for Creation Research (ICR) has a self-editing problem. As I have documented (Eg. The Case of the Shrinking Comet and the Age of the Universe), their science writer, Brian Thomas, has made a habit of mangling the scientific literature making simple errors of logic you would expect to be fixed by internal peer-review process. Such internal review is crucial for an anti-establishment organization like the Institute for Creation Research or Answers in Genesis because they are so apt to ignore the peer-review of their work from outsiders such as myself.” When Peer Review Lets You Down: A YEC Quote Problem – Naturalis Historia
“And . . . Morning Center does not appear to provide any birth control services. Apparently a “more well rounded approach” means one that leaves out arming women with the ability to plan their pregnancies. And actually, this strategy makes sense, if you think about it. The more pregnant women in the community, the more people Morning Center has to evangelize. And if those pregnant women are in tight spots because their pregnancy was unplanned? So much the better! After all, God often uses crisis situations to bring people to faith in him.
Remind me who is exploiting these women again?” When “Pro-Life” Means “Anti-Birth Control” – Love, Joy, Feminism
“Miss Clara is a pusher—as bad as any drug dealer on the street. Miss Clara pushes Christianity instead of crack. Not just any Christianity, the type of Christianity that keeps women in abusive relationships, that keeps them locked in misery—that makes the humiliation, degradation, and hate they endure somehow their fault.
This kills women. Miss Clara kills women. This movie, it intends to kill women by keeping them in harmful and life-threatening situations by promising that if they just endure long enough, they will be rewarded with a husband who no longer wants to crush their spirit or their skulls.
This movie, which is currently the second-highest-grossing movie in America, intends to see children grow up watching their mothers be abused, disrespected, defeated—not only by their fathers, but by their faith. Right now, as you read this, a woman is dying because she cannot leave her abusive partner. Right now, a man is acting on the belief that he has the divine right to treat his partner like shit because God says she should submit to him.
This movie should offend any person, especially any Christian, who believes that God is a loving God. This is not what love looks like. And this is not what faith looks like. If any movie could make one lose faith in God, this would be it. recommended” Box-Office Hit War Room Made Me Shake With Rage – The Stranger
5 Questions Cis People Are Still Asking About Why Trans-Inclusive Language Matters, Answered – Everyday Feminism
“The tradition of drag queening is not an offensive act, but drag performers may abuse privilege and create problematic messages regardless of their intent. The problems of drag as an institution are the pre-existing racist heteropatriarchal structures that impede upon it. These difficulties with drag are the same hegemonic forces which delve deep into our film, art, video games and universities.” What, if anything, is wrong with drag? – Sociological Images
12 Women They Didn’t Tell You Were Queer in History Class – Autostraddle
“Pennu and Nair’s experiences are not unusual. As more and more Indian women become vocal in the online space, they are increasingly the target of online abuse. Some are ordinary citizens. Some are well-known. Sagarika Ghose, a journalist formerly with CNN-IBN who is vocal on Twitter and has 608,000 followers, has repeatedly received threats of rape. In 2012, Meena Kandasamy, a poet and activist, was threatened with acid attacks and “televised gang rapes” when she wrote about a Dalit festival where beef was served. Eating beef is a taboo among upper caste Hindus, and Kandasamy was attacked for writing about eating beef.
The abuse is often sexist, according to a 2013 study by the non-profit, Internet Democracy Project. The researchers did detailed interviews with 17 Indian women active in the online space, either on Facebook or Twitter or on blogs. Richa Kaul Padte, one of the study authors, recorded death and rape threats as well as sexualized messages and gender based slurs.
“We’re not saying that men don’t face abuse” For Speaking Her Mind Online, A Woman in India Can Face Threats – NPR
Memory Banda: A warrior’s cry against child marriage – TED
“George Clooney may not have the cure-all for sexism in Hollywood, but at the Toronto Film Festival on Friday, he proposed one surprising simple solution: Rewrite roles originally intended for men to be played by women.
In reality, it was Sandra Bullock, not Clooney himself, who inspired this line of thinking, The Wrap reports. When Bullock read the script for Our Brand Is Crisis, a film about an American political consulting firm managing a presidential campaign in Bolivia, she identified a role she was interested in playing.
The problem? The role, loosely based on real-life political consultant James Carville, was written for a man to play.” George Clooney Wants Hollywood to Rewrite Men’s Roles for Women – Time
Watch and Laugh as ‘White People Whitesplain Whitesplaining’ – Everyday Feminism
Relationships & Sex
Sensitive Introverts in Long-Term Love, It’s Possible – space2live
“Before we can pretend to impart any wisdom about sexuality, we have to address our own shame and do our own healing.
That’s an ongoing process; we don’t have to be perfect. Our children—and I mean our collective children—feel who we are more than they hear what we say. They will listen to us when they feel that we have something to offer. They will listen when we speak from our hearts and from our sex about our real experiences, in the past and right now. Being righteous won’t help. Whether we think things are right or wrong makes no impact on the fact that they are happening. Children need our heartfelt honesty to be able to understand where our fear or indignation is coming from.
Healing sexual shame is no small task. We live in a sex negative culture, where even admitting our sexual natures can be confronting for many people. Sex is something private—for behind closed doors. But the repercussions of that are vast: teenage pregnancies, incoherent behavior (teenage mothers advocating for celibacy) and a reliance on the internet as a source for information. Making your intimate life a priority will have ripple effects on how the youth of the next generation relate to and love one another.
We can create a sex positive culture.” Have Sex for Our Children – Elephant Journal
11 Stereotypes About Genital Herpes You Probably Believe (And Why You Shouldn’t) – Everyday Feminism
“veryone fights, but we differ in how we deal with conflict. And it turns out that how we deal with conflict says a lot about the future of our relationships. By watching couples fight, researcher John Gottman(link is external) discovered what not to do if you want to make your relationship last, and published seminal research on what behaviors to avoid if you want a happy ending for your relationship. Gottman discovered that four behaviors are particularly detrimental to relationships. He termed the “the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” and they are?” 4 Things You Can’t Do When You Fight With Your Partner – Psychology Today
Want Sex Tips That Actually Help? Try These 4 Activities to Connect to Your Body – Everyday Feminism
“For a lot of self-helpers, and juicers, and cosmic troopers who have been at it for a while there comes a pitfall — and you can trip into it on your first hot yoga class, or after ten years of regular meditation and fervent prayer. It goes like this: If I’m doing all this spiritual work, why does shit keep happening?” Spiritual practice won’t stop shitty things from happening to you. However… – Danielle LaPorte
“The light and darkness that we fear within others is that very same light and darkness that is within ourselves.
For many years, I kept that wildness locked up in a cage, afraid of its potentially disastrous effects on my life, were it unleashed. I realized that I suffered greatly when this powerful force was ignored.
So, the question is this: How do I give my all in a world where giving it all translates into “unstable” or “crazy” behavior? In other words, how does one give their all without fear of being labeled as a “slut,” a “whore” or another harmful word associated with the true behavior of a “wild” woman?
Where do we begin to unleash this energy?” A Woman’s Power Lies in Her Darkness – Elephant Journal
“Do you strive for perfection, and feel constantly disappointed that you never get there? Do you find yourself putting things off because you can’t do them perfectly, or worse, never sharing the things you do because they’re not “perfect”?” Why Being a Perfectionist Sucks – Who’s That Lady
“What I was truly searching for were the versions of me that came out with all those different men. I realized that the thing I was chasing was always me.
I was looking for people that brought out different sides of me because I did not always know how to bring out those parts myself. I was always disappointed because each man brought out only some parts but no one brought out all of me.” What To Do When Our Sex Life Gets Boring – Elephant Journal
“When I got sober, the person most pivotal in my recovery told me something profound. And I don’t mean sort of profound. I mean like SUPER FUCKING DEEP AND LIFE CHANGING.
Sit down, and listen. It goes like this: Nothing changes if nothing changes.
Whew. Yeah. I know.
Go ahead, Take a moment if you need it.
No no. Don’t turn away. That right there is some crazy shit: We have to physically, actually DO something different if we want new things to happen in our lives. WE CAN’T JUST THINK ABOUT CHANGING.
We have to move our feet in new directions. And our arms. And even our hands. ALL THE BODY PARTS. We have to move our bodies in completely new ways to make new shit happen in our lives.” Therapy hour with Janelle (or: ramblings with a damn-near-crazy woman) – renegade mothering
Chronic Illness & Pain
Latif Nasser: The amazing story of the man who gave us modern pain relief – TED
“When autoimmune disease strikes and turns our lives upside down, we search hard for a “fix.” We want our lives back, and we want them back now! The problem is that autoimmune healing is a marathon, not a sprint. And sometimes our impatience actually interferes with our ability to heal. Here are a few ways this can happen” Is Your Impatience an Obstacle to Healing? – Autoimmune Paleo
Exercise for POTSies – POTSgrrl
“Being upright (sitting / standing) is hard work. My body doesn’t do a good job of pumping the blood (and oxygen) around my body. So the longer I’m upright, the more painful and swollen my legs get (blood pooling) and the more tired my brain gets (not enough oxygen). My blood pressure is often low (meaning that my blood is only sluggishly moving around my body, distributing oxygen). My heart rate, when I’m upright, is high (because my body is working so hard just to stay upright). The “maximum heart rate calculation” is 200 minus your age. I’m 26, so according to the maths, I want to aim for a heart rate below 174 when I’m exercising. I can hit that just taking a shower. I often have to lie down after a shower, panting like I’ve just been for a sprint down the street. Sometimes I struggle to breathe – taking deep breaths, but not getting any oxygen (the ANS is in charge of that).” What is Dysautonomia? – Reflections Of A Bear
5 Ways to Live Well With Chronic Pain and Illness – Everyday Health
SIBO: Solutions for Small Intestinal Bacterial Overgrowth – Dr Deborah MD
“More compelling to me are the straightforward facts about breast milk: It contains all the vitamins and nutrients a baby needs in the first six months of life (breast-fed babies don’t even need to drink water, milk provides all the necessary hydration), and it has many germ- and disease-fighting substances that help protect a baby from illness. Oh, also: The nutritional and immunological components of breast milk change every day, according to the specific, individual needs of a baby. Yes, that’s right, and I will explain how it works in a minute. Not nearly enough information is provided by doctors, lactation counselors, or the internet about this mind-blowing characteristic of milk.” The More I Learn About Breast Milk, the More Amazed I Am – Features – The Stranger
4 Healthy Fats for High Heat Cooking – Bulletproof Executive
“In our new, yet-to-be-published study of more than 700 college students, we found that while poor executive functioning did predict sleep problems, the stronger effect was actually due to anxiety. The students who were more anxious about being apart from their phones used their phones more during a typical day, and woke up to check their phones more often at night. The latter two results — more daily smartphone use and more nighttime awakenings — led directly to sleep problems.” Relax, Turn Off Your Phone, and Go to Sleep – Harvard Business Review
How to Beat Sugar Cravings with Glutamine – Food Renegade
“Since the initial study, floating’s effects have been tested numerous times. In a 2011 study, fibromyalgia patients reported a 30 percent reduction in stress levels after each floating session and said the effects of relief lasted an average of two and a half days.
In another study, sleep was improved, patients felt more optimistic and the content of the vitalizing hormone prolactin increased after 12 sessions. Patients also reported a decline in anxiety, stress, depression and perception of pain.
Other research has found floating brings relief from a wide variety of symptoms including back, neck and joint pain, arthritis, muscle tension and bursitis.” ‘Floating’ eases the mind, body – WishTV.com
12 Signs Your Health Problems are Actually Magnesium Deficiency Symptoms – Real Farmacy
Turmeric Tea Recipe “Liquid Gold” – Dr Axe
Simple Asian-Inspired Stir Fry – Autoimmune Paleo
Ginger Syrup Recipe (Video Tutorial) – Mommypotamus
Homemade Kefir Ranch Dressing Recipe – Nourished Kitchen
Raw Matcha Macaroons – DesignLoveFest
Caramelized Salmon (AIP/Paleo) – Sweet Potatoes and Social Change