Link Love (2016-02-27)
“Savita Halappanavar died three years ago today. She died of septicaemia. She died from a drawn-out miscarriage that went untreated too long. She died after spending a week in hospital.
Savita may have died of blood poisoning, but she was killed by the Eighth Amendment to the Irish Constitution. Two decades of Irish governments have blood on their hands. They were too cowardly to legislate to protect pregnant people’s lives.” Three years on: My country still kills women – Consider the Tea Cosy
I Was Sexually Assaulted, Then Threatened with Suspension for ‘Spreading Rumours’ – Everyday Feminism
“I mean let’s think about this for a moment. First of all, study after study has shown that there is no link between vaccines and autism, and yet, anti-vaxxers continue to insist that there must be a link, and to throw more money in that direction, rather than redirecting it to more profitable areas of research. This does not actually help people with autism. Second, when anti-vaxxers or organizations like Autism Speaks speak of autism as a terrible, horrible, effectively life-ending condition, well, that doesn’t help individuals with autism either. In fact, it makes their lives harder.” Anti-Vaxxers Reach New Low in Criticism of Autistic Sesame Street Character – Love, Joy, Feminism
Reflections on the state of LGBT activism in Africa – Africa is a Country
“But I must take exception to her point that Irish women generally do talk about abortions because that simply isn’t so in my experience. Since I went on record as being pro-choice, innumerable women have told me their stories about abortion. Women who’ve been bottling this up, often for years, afraid to tell a soul. Up to one in ten Irish women have had an abortion but many never tell their GP – so strong is the sense of shame. So powerful is their fear. One women told me she never even told her obstetrician, even though she knew that complications, relevant to her imminent delivery, had occurred. She put her own health at risk, rather than be subjected to the unbearable judgement she thought she might receive. She felt tormented by her weakness but too vulnerable to speak.” Doctor’s Orders: We need to talk about Breda and abortion – Independent
“The other thing that became apparent is that even thoughtful, good people can be confused about the nature of abuse. Even those who accepted that the child had the right to say “no” found it difficult to understand how a hug could be inappropriate. Part of this stems from the fact that we often use the phrase “child abuse” as shorthand for a specific kind of abuse—sexual abuse. It’s not like it happened in private, they reasoned, so it couldn’t have been sexual, and therefore it wasn’t abuse.
In reality, there are many forms of abuse, including emotional, spiritual, and physical abuse. If we think of abuse only as sexual, we will miss other forms of abuse, many of which are precursors to sexual abuse itself. The problem with an unwanted hug is not that it is a hug but that it is unwanted. The problem is that a child has as much right to consent or to refuse physical affection as adults do.” “What’s Wrong With a Hug?” – Leadership Journal
#751: The post-wedding blues – Captain Awkward
“I have been told it is shameful that I write about how close I come to being an abuser on a near daily basis. This stems from a lack of understanding of three issues. The first is that the body does remember. There is a reason it is said that abused children become abusive adults. Anger was the example set for us. It is what our body and mind turn to first when we are overwhelmed by cartwheeling, tantrumming toddlers. I can’t tell you how surprised I was to have to fight that impulse. I can tell you it was nowhere near as jarring as falling into a flashback, striking my child, starting therapy, digging in deep to that healing, and still having to fight daily to not see my child as my abuser. To never strike my child again.
I work on this constantly: My child is not my abuser. He is not the adult. I am not the child. I am the adult. He is the child. My child is not my abuser. Despite what comes after this, I am succeeding.” Shawna Ayoub Ainslie – Stigma Fighters
8 Ways to Talk to Difficult People – Psychology Today
“The voluntary nature of friendship makes it subject to life’s whims in a way more formal relationships aren’t. In adulthood, as people grow up and go away, friendships are the relationships most likely to take a hit. You’re stuck with your family, and you’ll prioritize your spouse. But where once you could run over to Jonny’s house at a moment’s notice and see if he could come out to play, now you have to ask Jonny if he has a couple hours to get a drink in two weeks.” How Friendships Change Over Time – The Atlantic
“So I got to thinking about all the things you might say to you. And how absurd it is for you to be so mean to yourself. And how much I think you should treat yourself like the soft and adorable creature you are.” Be Kind to Cute Animals. And Yourself. – Meg Worden
How to Stop Apologizing for Your Presence When You Walk Into a Room – Fire + Wind Co
“How to get through is to find your own way of making the pain hurt a little less. It’s doing the things that make you sigh with relief. It’s about feeling the fiery feelings, but without burning out.” Healing, compassion and how to get through – The Freedom Experiment
Chronic Illness & Pain
Day 13: 31 Days to a Better CFS Life – Using Audiobooks as a Management Tool – Get Up and Go Guru
“My latest pain contract, presented as a requirement for obtaining care, included a demand that I appear, whenever ordered, before any practitioner in the health maintenance organization to which I belong, within an hour’s time, with my medication bottle in hand.
For a pill count.
How, exactly, is that supposed to work?
I have a job, a family, a life. I can’t carry around a bottle of prescription narcotics; the contract deems loss, theft, or damage as suspicious activity, and the pills would not be replaced. So I would have to interrupt teaching, go home, retrieve the pills, and report to a practitioner.
Within an hour.
I would rarely be able to do this, and when I could, doing so within an hour would usually be impossible. But in failing to comply, I would risk the revocation of my “pain medication license.”” My chronic pain isn’t a crime – The Boston Globe
Natural Remedies for Interstitial Cystitis – Wellness Mama
““So often we can feel that our body is the enemy. This is a different way of looking at bodies — what can your body do, what feels juicy and rich and rewarding? And that’s such a relieving break from the everyday experience of being constrained by one’s body.” Finding burlesque has allowed Maddie Ruud, who lives with chronic pain, to celebrate and enjoy physicality. For Christina Kish, who also has chronic pain, pole dancing was the answer. “It gets you out of your head, it builds your adrenaline and endorphines so you’re happy. And it’s really hard to think about pain when you’re in a challenging, empowering place,” she says.” Using Burlesque and Pole Dancing to Come Back from Chronic Pain – Emotional Health – Rheumatoid Arthritis
10 Ways to Stay Positive When You’ve Been Diagnosed With a Chronic Illness – Buzz Feed
“So. Paleo desserts. They’re actually wonderful – they help us socialise, celebrate with friends, and give us a way to eat cake on our birthday so we don’t feel like we’re missing out. But if we’re looking after our health we should see them as a treat only – to be eaten once in a while and definitely not every day. And just because someone you know eats Paleo pancakes and salted caramel cupcakes every couple of days it doesn’t necessarily mean that you can too if you want to be at your best. And for now you might just have to settle for that teaspoon of honey in your chamomile tea. Just enjoy every sip.” Where Do Paleo Desserts Belon on a Healing Diet? Primal Eye
5 Tips for Reconnecting With a Sick Friend – Fashionably Ill
How to Use Castor Oil Packs to Help You Detox – Dr Axe
“Those who think we’ll be “protected” from pathogens of all kinds by super-sanitizing our lives and everything we come in contact with are living in a delusion (or an episode of The Jetsons). Our gut biota is something we build over a lifetime, and it requires input—challenges that work it and hone it and sometimes even reset it. It’s meant to be self-sustainable like a self-cleaning oven except modern agricultural developments, food ingredients and environmental factors overwhelm those inner settings.
Our everyday exposures to run-of-the-mill soil and other mundane bacteria will in nearly every case protect us more than harm us. I’m not suggesting anyone go out and deliberately expose themselves to the likes of salmonella or any other pathogen. File that under the Darwin Awards…. Nonetheless, it’s interesting to note that many if not the majority of farmers develop antibodies to common pathogens carried by their animals. How much does this mirror our natural history and the biology that was honed around it?” Foodborne Illness Wrap-Up: The Role of Your Health and Your Food’s Health – Mark’s Daily Apple
Host vs. Human: How Our Microbiome Controls Every Aspect of Our Health – Autoimmune Paleo
“Basically, she suggests that if you focus on the good mood foods, then you will lessen any anxiety, depression, fatigue, insomnia, or other brain-related imbalances. Following this plan is also very nourishing for your body, helps support neurotransmitters (which affect our mood), and it helps balance hormones and blood sugar.” Is the Food You’re Eating Putting You in a Bad Mood? – Jen Broyles
12 Tiny Changes for Your Health – Kale and Chocolate
Matcha Latté Recipe (with a Superfood Boost) – Nourished Kitchen
Smashed Parsnips – Real Food Forager
Paleo Coconut Crusted Chicken Tenders – Mommypotamus
Irish Soda Bread – Paleo Pumpkin
Chocolate Hazelnut Roll-Ups – Paleo Hacks
Beet and Turmeric Kvass Tonic – Sarah Wilson
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