Link Love (2016-05-07)
A New Golden Age Part III: The Basic Income Guarantee – Los Angeles Review of Books
“And then, in the darkness, my thoughts turn to the first Thanksgiving. For the Puritans, a true day of Thanksgiving was a day of fasting; of recognizing the horrors that have been endured, of offering prayers of gratitude for the blessings that remain. There must always be blessings that remain. And I think about those killings. And I think about this dark war that plays out so far from the battlefield, victimizing so many innocent pawns. And I give thanks for the blessings that I hold now: for this child, who is learning about the pain of the world, and for the dog, who, in her final hours, gave Saoirse the gift of unleashing her sorrows. And I give thanks for the sorrow, too. For the fact that we can still feel it. Because maybe in the sorrow, maybe in the hugs of gratitude as family and friends find their way back to each other’s arms, as prayers for nonviolence and harmony rise up to the divine, we will rekindle hope, and nourish ourselves enough to move forward in our quest for peace.” Thanks Giving – The Radical Homemaker
Get Lost in the Details of These Miniature Test-Tube Cities – Make
“I marched last September at the pro-choice rally. I became emotional when one speaker referenced the support she wanted us to give to the 10 women (on average) who travel to England or elsewhere each day for abortions. I think of them now, getting up when it is still dark, feeling how I felt back then: sad, confused, torn, guilty, numb. Until you are in the situation, it’s impossible to judge someone else’s decision or know how they feel. I made my own decision. It was the decision that felt right for me. I am telling my story now because I believe as a society we should trust women to do what is right for them when – as so many have and so many will – they become pregnant and they don’t want to be.” ‘As I woke up each morning, my pregnancy screamed at me’ – Irish Times
Rand Paul: If Gay People Don’t Want to Be Discriminated Against, They Should Keep Their Gayness at Home – Love, Joy, Feminism
“According to the individual I spoke with, IR are “considering” making accessible trains a part of their procurement requirements for new trains. Maybe. If we’re good. And they feel like it.
The rep also mentioned possibly looking to disabled groups for grants to help. The government couldn’t possibly be asked, I suppose.” #DARTGate Part 2 – Danielle Lavigne
Myths vs Facts in the Syrian Refugee Issue – Bearing Drift
““I’m writing something for the first time that’s a little bit autobiographical,” this one extremely serious white woman once said to me after workshop. “I wanted to get your advice. You write about yourself all the time. How do you do it?” My characters were always young Asian American women or girls, but I hadn’t written anything autobiographical. Just like her, I had imagined my stories. I made them up. They were fiction. But to her, they were so obviously just an unimaginative extension of my already-limited self. I was just tracing my life and my identity artlessly into my stories. Another white writer talked openly about searching for some kind of obscure “ethnicity” that she could write into her stories to give them an extra edge. “Like what you have in your writing,” she added, meaning well, of course. She and the other white writers who marveled over my luck wanted to try on my Otherness to advance their value in the literary marketplace, but I don’t think they wanted to grow up as an immigrant in the United States. I don’t think they wanted to experience racism and misogyny on a micro and macro level, be made to feel perpetually foreign no matter how long they’ve lived here, and be denied any opportunity to ever write something without the millstone of but is this authentic/representative/good for black/Asian/Latino/native people? hanging from their necks.” They Pretend to Be Us While Pretending We Don’t Exist – BuzzFeed
Relationships & Parenting
“I am told our desire to get away from everyone every now and again and again is perplexing and sometimes painful to extroverts. They don’t understand how we could enjoy being alone, period. Even more confusing, we sometimes choose to be away from people we really like.
The truth is we see all people as stimulation and potential energy drains. Sorry. It doesn’t matter if you make us laugh until we wet our pants or we find you so attractive we agree to make babies with you (or at least practice). We will need a break from you. We even need a break from other introverts, but speaking only for myself, not as often.” Introverts Explained: Why We Love You But Need to Get Away From You – Brenda Knowles
Why Family Traditions Matter (Plus 15+ Ideas to Get You Started) – Mommypotamus
“The story I’m making up…” becomes an opportunity to revisit a confusing or troubling situation. From there you can challenge your perceptions and reality-check them against the viewpoint of the other person. It provides space for the other person to clarify their intentions.” A Simple Phrase that Can Prevent Arguments & Resentment – Tiny Buddha
Sherry Turkle: How to Keep Your iPhone from Destroying Your Relationships – Christianity Today
“I must confess, I used to err very much on the side of caution when it came to kids and knives, until I started finding research that delaying a child’s ability to learn to use sharp objects like knives can actually interfere with their psychological development and is akin to “delaying potty training until school age.”” Benefits of Letting Kids Use Knives – Wellness Mama
“This paradigm of forgiveness gives space for a seeming paradox: I am worthy of love and belonging and I am imperfect.
I can start fresh because my past failures haven’t determined my eternal worth as a human being.
I can move on because I’ve given up the hope that things could have been different. I don’t need them to be different.
I can imagine myself as a person who doesn’t have to perform for acceptance.
I can imagine myself as a person who could receive (and give) something besides conditional love.
This is a hard thing to give ourselves. I think that’s why we lean so heavily on other people for this.
But it’s not up to anyone else to manage our emotional experience. I know there sometimes rifts in relationships, and it’s important to mend those, but most of the time even mending the rift doesn’t end the issue. We put ourselves in jail. And there’s only really one person who can release us.” Imaginative, Rowdy Forgiveness – k. foley wellness
Chronic Illness & Pain
Air Travel Tips for the Chronically Ill – But You Don’t Look Sick
“We need to learn to listen to our bodies. This can be especially hard for those of us who have spent our lives pushing beyond our limits and never slowing down. Remind us that we aren’t weak, that it is OK to take care of ourselves and put our needs in front of other things. This also includes letting go of emotions, thoughts, etc. that do not serve us. I have found a lot of people with POTS to be extremely sensitive people. We have to learn new ways to manage stress and our own active minds. Talk this through with us. Come up with a game plan together. Be our teammate, not our keeper.” When You Love Someone With Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome – The Mighty
CFS / ME / Fibro Treatments – Get Up and Go Guru
“Out of all the health issues my patients come to me with, fatigue is by far the most common. I witness the epidemic of extreme exhaustion on a daily basis.
Patients wake up feeling exhausted, craving cups of caffeine. They are irritable and “hangry” for salty or sugary foods. They can’t lose weight, despite dieting and exercise, and have little to no sex drive. Their energy level crashes in the afternoon, but they often get a “second wind” before bed. Then they have trouble winding down in the evening, only to have another night of restless sleep.
Sadly, many think this is normal. That’s because they look around and see everyone looking just as tired and miserable as they are. But just because something is common doesn’t make it normal.” Constantly Stressed & Exhausted? 8 Ways to Heal from Adrenal Fatigue – Dr Will Cole
Mitochondrial Dysfunction: D-ribose for Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue – February Stars
“I am also that woman who remains positive that somewhere along the line things will get more manageable. I am the woman that has taken control of her health care and come to terms with the fact that I can’t do everything I used to but realize I am still capable of so much!
I am the woman who has learned to let go, to let others help and to ignore (at least try) the uneducated commentary I sometimes get , or the “gossip” that I must be fine if I managed to go shopping in the city.” I am the Woman – Jennifer Dawn
12 Healing Protocols: a guide – petra8paleo
10 Causes of Low Libido for Women No One Knows About – Paleo for Women
“It sounds so easy: stop eating red meat to lower greenhouse gas emissions. But nature is far more complicated than that.
There are three critical questions you need to ask before cutting beef and lamb out of your diet for environmental reasons: what will happen to the grasslands that cattle and sheep graze; how will alternate protein be produced; and what will the greenhouse consequences of that production be?” Not eating red meat won’t save the planet – The Sydney Morning Herald
Overcoming Sugar Addiction: How to Break the Sweets Cycle – Tiny Buddha
“Under the back of the skull must be the single most pleasing and popular target for massage in the human body. No other patch of muscle gets such rave reviews. It has everything: deeply relaxing and satisfying sensations, and a dramatic therapeutic relevance to one of the most common of all human pains, the common tension headache. And no wonder: without these muscles, your head would fall off. They feel just as important as they are.” Massage Therapy for Tension Headaches – Pain Science
Your First 48 Hours Paleo: 5 Things You Need to Know – Paleo Hacks
Paleo Spice Cake with Coconut Cream Frosting – Paleo Hacks
Dinner Rolls – The Paleo Mom
Garlicky Roast Asparagus – Real Food with Dana
Lasagna Meatloaf – Mark’s Daily Apple
Beef Jerky – Mommypotamus
Ginger Lemongrass Sauce – Balancing BRCA
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Love Sick by Cory Martin (Interview + Review)
Søren Kierkegaard 200 Years (+ Either/Or Book Review)
Forget Yourself by Redfern Jon Barrett