Link Love (2016-05-28)
Always so sleepy she is
“Here’s the deal. I don’t care about bookstores. I care about writers. In fact, readers should care about writers more than bookstores because no writers? Well no real point in bookstores now is there? Because if a bookstore has no inventory, no point to its existence, so I feel we are wise to care about writers first…bookstores next.
Want to support the arts? Pay artists. Want to support books? Pay writers. It is simple. Do this? Bookstores will do just fine. Before we go any further, some education…” PAY THE WRITER – Pirates, Used Bookstores & Why Writers Need to Stand Up for What’s Right – Kristen Lamb
Finland prepares universal basic income experiment – Inhabitat
“Which leads me to a rather humbling thought that can apply to many aspects of our human development and our strive for change: It can take moments to pull apart an industry in favor of what we think is a cheaper or more efficient alternative but, when we realize too late that it was kinda pretty good to start with, it can take years to put it all back again.
So support these guys, they’ve acknowledged the beauty of industry and are doing something pretty noble with their time on earth to bring it back. We should solute them.” The Return of the Small Batch Business – Heddels
10 Fruits and Vegetables That Are Toxic to Dogs – I Heart Dogs
“No, knitting and crochet are not “just for grandmothers.” They never have been. Moreover, many grandmothers (mine included) hated both. Many grandmothers (especially the current crop) have never tried either.
And why, if an activity were particular to grandmothers, would that be an issue? Do you consider old age a contagious disease? Have you got a deep-seated problem with grandmothers? Would you like the number of a good therapist?
If you mean to celebrate the diversity of our community, please do so without insulting my grandma. It won’t be difficult. We are everywhere. We contain multitudes. We are all ages, sizes, races, faiths, nationalities. We are rich and poor. We are liberal and conservative. We are women, we are men.” Franklin Habit’s Friendly Three-Point Message to Journalists Who Seek to Write About Knitting and Crochet – Lion Brand Notebook
Test – Robot Hugs
“But jumping to the support of “voiceless” Afghan women while telling American feminists to stop complaining about rape on college campuses is telling of an even bigger patriarchal mindset. Disguised in this sentiment is the notion that women deserve protection and support in so far as they remain “voiceless victims” to physically violent crimes. However, the moment they find the ability to speak up and demand equality- real equality that will dismantle all patriarchy, not just the most overtly violent patriarchy- their voices are no longer worth paying attention to.
In other words, if there is no need for a male savior but rather for male accountability, women’s voices are irrelevant.” Dear American misogynists: Afghan women are not oppressed for you – Medium
Basic Income Can Make America Great Again – Medium
““At the moment, transgender is listed as a mental illness or behavioural problem,” Social Democrat health spokesman Flemming Moller Mortensen told Danish news agency Ritzau. “That is incredibly stigmatising and in no way reflects how we see transgender people in Denmark. It should be a neutral diagnosis.” Denmark will be first country to no longer define being transgender as a mental illness – The Independent
No Such Thing As Straight Women – The Real Danger Behind This Study. – Consider the Tea Cosy
“When an intense relationship falls apart…
Grief is normal.
Withdrawal from the drug of attraction and passionate love and drama and conflict is normal.
Guilt is normal.
Feeling at loose ends about what to do with all of the time and space she took up in your life is normal.
Anger is normal.
Longing is normal.
Remembering only the good parts when you feel low is normal.
Second-guessing everything is normal.
Intrusive thoughts of her and the relationship are normal.
(Relief, numbness, or whatever emotions you actually feel are also normal – there are a lot of normals!)
All of these things are normal for a while, and then you find a new normal.” #786: Trapped by a doomed love – Captain Awkward
Why a Teen Who Talks Back May Have a Bright Future – NPR
“Then he stopped even trying to use words, which is how so many of these stories go. “But how was I supposed to know that she wasn’t into it? Poor confused me!” says every dude who tries it on with an unwilling or unresponsive acquaintance or friend or date. Sometimes I think dudes freak out about calls for explicit consent, verbal consent, enthusiastic consent, “yes means yes,” style consent because to be honest, they can think back to drunken escapades where they can’t be 100% sure that the other person wanted it because they never fucking bothered to ask (or, worse), and it makes them feel guilty as hell. “If that’s not okay, then that means I may have assaulted someone. That can’t be right!” Since no one likes feeling bad about themselves, they push back on the entire idea instead of, I dunno, listening to women? Or resolving to ask in the future or any measure that would help there be more good, non-coercive sex in the world. “Don’t be silly! I can’t possibly be expected to ask the person who is right in front of me with whom I am planning to do an extremely intimate and vulnerable thing! That would ruin the mood! I’m sure it would ruin something (like my sense of entitlement to sex when I want it)!”
Your friend stopped using words on purpose because he knew what the answer would be. He didn’t ask, “Hey, could the trip out to my house be a date-sort-of-thing?” because he knew that then you wouldn’t come. He didn’t ask before touching you in the cab. He wouldn’t get out of the bed and kept pulling you back even when you got out of it. He stopped short of raping you, thank heaven, but he used every single tactic that rapists use – isolating their victim, alcohol, not taking no for an answer, using size and strength and manipulation and bullying to get their way. What a fucking repulsive human being.” – #823: Another Day, Another Creepy Dude Who Doesn’t Deserve Friends – Captain Awkward
7 Ways to Practice Pleasure this Week – Chris Kresser
“When I boldly proclaim “Shut up, I’m amazing,” (which I have continued to do on a regular basis), I help myself live into that reality. I help myself truly feel amazing, truly feel like I am capable, and truly feel like I can confidently conquer whatever I put my mind to.” Repeat After Me: “Shut up, I’m Amazing!” – Paleo for Women
Mortification is what brings us all together. (Cringey tweets part 2) – The Bloggess
“I didn’t realize how much, I, advocate for all things self-care, was still running myself ragged and spreading myself too thin. I was pretty shocked when I found myself with, in fact, even less time than before. Because I had made commitments before my word of the year chose me.
It’s just not what we choose in each moment, it’s what we choose to layer that soon catches up with us.”My Word for 2015: What it Was & How it Changed my Life – Christy Tending
How to create a regular creative or spiritual practice – The Freedom Experiment
Chronic Illness & Pain
“Female pain might be perceived as constructed or exaggerated”: We saw this from the moment we entered the hospital, as the staff downplayed Rachel’s pain, even plain ignored it. In her essay, Jamison refers back to “The Girl Who Cried Pain,” a study identifying ways gender bias tends to play out in clinical pain management. Women are “more likely to be treated less aggressively in their initial encounters with the health-care system until they ‘prove that they are as sick as male patients,’” the study concludes—a phenomenon referred to in the medical community as “Yentl Syndrome.” How Doctors Take Women’s Pain Less Seriously – The Atlantic
Coming Out as a Spoonie – Huffington Post
“Often, when I go to the doctor and dutifully recite my list of troubling symptoms, they immediately respond with a reminder that my disease is progressive and has no treatment. That knowledge hasn’t slipped my mind, and (shockingly!) I don’t go to the doctor for that reminder.” 5 Things I Wish My Doctor Knew About Having an Invisible Illness – Ravishly
10 Top Tips for Pacing When You Have Fibromyalgia – February Stars
“It’s so easy to look ahead, we often fail to give ourselves credit for how far we’ve come.” The Flawed Fibromyalgia Success Map – ProHealth
10 Indispensables for Those with Chronic Pain and Illness – Psychology Today
Stuck at the Starting Line? Find Your “Gateway” Change – NerdFitness
“And then I became a writer, and soon needed my own advice. Now my butt feels numb half the time. I creak and crackle almost continuously. My neck has a nasty crick three days out of five. My shoulders are hunched forward like they’re being pulled on by teams of oxen. And ominous aches flicker around my body like brush fires.
Chairs are bad news. Sitting a lot is bad news. Why and what can you do? In this article, I’ll review the science and health effects of a sedentary life, but with a focus on the musculoskeletal effects — the aches and pains and stiffness.” Sitting Too Much? The Trouble With Chairs – Pain Science
Help for Stiff, Achy Feet – The Resilient Body
“Putting pressure on the abdomen squeezes internal organs, which can push acid from the stomach into the esophagus. That’s why weight gain can lead to gastroesophageal reflux disease, and tight undergarments can do the same thing, says Jay Kuemmerle, a gastroenterologist at Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond. “It’s really just plumbing,” he says. “For someone who has reflux disease or is prone to reflux, wearing tight garments may exacerbate those symptoms.” Tight clothes can also worsen the discomforts of irritable bowel syndrome and urinary incontinence, he says. As for the Jessica Alba-endorsed “corset diet,” Kuemmerle doesn’t recommend shapewear for weight loss.” Shapewear comes with health risks if worn for too long – LA Times
Polyphenols: Magic Bullet or Health Hype? – The Paleo Mom
Why You Should Eat Offal (And How to Make It Taste Good) – Bulletproof Executive
“I knew she was hooked, because she was picking up on something tea lovers have known all along: The same vocabulary we use for coffee, spirits, and wine—tannins and fruit undertones and terroir—are all just as applicable to tea. In that black walnut-peach skin moment, she understood that tea is something worth paying attention to, not just a hot drink for when you’re under the weather.” The Non-Judgmental Guide to Getting Seriously Into Tea – Serious Eats
A Seismic Shift in How People Eat – The New York Times
Instant Pot Pressure Cooker Whole Chicken – Mommypotamus
Honey Roasted Pears w/Sea Salt & Rosemary Whipped Cream – Strictly Delicious
Roasted Garlic Cauliflower Hummus – Autoimmune Paleo
Apple Jelly with Lemon & Lavender – Local Kitchen
Crockpot Curry Chicken Recipe – Paleo Hacks
Simple Salad Hack: Chopped Salad – Clean Mama
From the Blog
To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee
Homemade Green Ice Tea – Perfect Beverage for the Summer
Fabulous Female: Shirin Ebadi
Self-Compassion: Treating Yourself Well When You’re Down
The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath