Link Love (2016-09-17)
“The disconnect between internet fame and financial security is hard to comprehend for both creators and fans. But it’s the crux of many mid-level web personalities’ lives. Take moderately successful YouTubers, for example. Connor Manning, an LGBT vlogger with 70,000 subscribers, was recognized six times selling memberships at the Baltimore Aquarium. Rosianna Halse Rojas, who has her own books and lifestyle channel and is also YouTube king John Green’s producing partner, has had people freak out at her TopMan register. Rachel Whitehurst, whose beauty and sexuality vlog has 160,000 subscribers, was forced to quit her job at Starbucks because fans memorized her schedule.
In other words: Many famous social media stars are too visible to have “real” jobs, but too broke not to.” The sad economics of being famous on the internet – Fusion
Jessica Stones Star Krysten Ritter on Why the Superhero Will Never Wear Heels – TIME
“He polled a large sample of likely voters, looking for correlations between support for Trump and views that align with authoritarianism. What he found was astonishing: Not only did authoritarianism correlate, but it seemed to predict support for Trump more reliably than virtually any other indicator.” The rise of American Authoritarianism – Vox
A New, Minimalist Economy – Becoming Minimalist
“In the dog training ‘industry’ there are several different ideas as to how best to train a dog, which methods should be used and which are outdated or even cruel. However, any behaviour can be taught using force-free methods without the need to invoke pain, fear or force onto our dogs. Tools such as shock collars, prong collars, choke chains, spray and rattle bottles, to name just a few, can be replaced with kinder methods. Using clicker training and reinforcements such as food, toys, praise and life rewards can get the same results. If we love our animals, why do people find it acceptable to cause them pain or fear just for the sake of ‘training’?” Why I Train Without Force – Positively
“But less attention was paid to what Cenac had to say about being the only black writer in the room, torn between speaking up or saying nothing and keeping the peace. (Full disclosure: Cenac is a personal friend.) “I gotta be honest if something seems questionable,” he told Maron, “because if not, then I don’t want to be in a position where I am being untrue not just to myself but to my culture, because that’s exploitative. I’m just allowing something to continue if I’m just going to go along with it. And sadly, I think that’s the burden a lot of people have to have when you are ‘the one.’ You represent something bigger than yourself whether you want to or not.”” On Wyatt Cenac, ‘Key & Peele,’ And Being the Only One in the Room – Code Switch
The Bogeyman of the 38-Week Abortion – Consider the Tea Cosy
“If gender neutral clothes are only made for and marketed to the parents of little girls, it is less a sign of gender equality and more an indication of the misogyny that is so ambient in our culture. There is such a devaluing of anything traditionally feminine that we’d rather chuck it out triumphantly than ever demean our boys with it.” Everybody in dresses: Why does gender neutral clothing always mean ‘boy’ clothes for girls? – National Post
LGBT Leaders Warn of Looming Gay Rights Backlash – TIME
“They asked us: Does it make sense that they, as LGBTQ+ youth, face approximately 14 times the risk of suicide and substance abuse than their heterosexual and cisgender peers, when mental health problems, substance use and suicide are not side-effects of having a minority sexual identity or gender orientation?
They are side-effects of prejudice and discrimination.” The Health Impacts of Prejudice and Discrimination – petra8paleo
Beauty & Body Image
Loving + Dressing Your Body at Any Size – Styling By Sisters
“Sometimes, our beliefs shift and we try on new behaviors. Sometimes we try on new behaviors and our beliefs change. Perhaps you do not give yourself everything on your list because you are waiting to believe that you deserve it.
I wonder what would happen if you imagined the person you would be if you gave yourself these things, imagined how your life and the lives of others would be enriched as a result. And then you just gave yourself these things, whether or not you yet believed you deserved them. I wonder how that might open you up just a bit more to what’s possible for your health and then create this beautiful positive feedback loop that starts to let you know that, yes, in fact, you not only need these things, but you deserve them.
Not because of anything you’ve done. Not because you’re better than anyone else.
But because you have a body. And that body needs you.” Your Body is Deserving – The Resilient Body
Forget H&M, Primark, and Forever 21: The Case for Expensive Clothes – The Atlantic
“During a large portion of the medieval period, the beautiful woman emphasised her high, round forehead. If a woman was unfortunate to have been naturally cursed with a low hairline, the correct and fashionable look was artificially enhanced by the plucking of the hairline back up towards the crown of the head. This look was accentuated by reducing the eyebrows to a barely-there line.” Hairstyles – Rosalie’s Medieval Woman
Close the (Thigh) Gap – Thrive with Jen Sinkler
“When it was over, I wasn’t permitted to mourn him. No one could understand how love, hate, fear and comfort could coexist simultaneously. They could not understand that in addition to my abuser, I also lost my confidant, the person to make dinner with, the person to watch movies with on a rainy Sunday, the person to laugh with, the person who knew me. I lost my companion. How can you explain to someone that the abuse was only a part of who he was? How do you explain that to yourself?
There are still days when I remember tender moments and wonder if it really was that bad. I still struggle with reconciling how he could love me to the point of tears and yet hurt me as if I was an enemy. Like a child, I’m learning to redefine the borders of normal behavior and to realign my expectations. I remind myself that acts of violence can never be acts of love.” He Never Hit Me – Huffington Post
Step 389: Remember Your Friends’ Sad Anniversaries Too – Adulting
“In this relationship culture, expectations and trust are in constant question. The state of stable ambiguity inevitably creates an atmosphere in which at least one person feels lingering uncertainty, and neither person feels truly appreciated or nurtured. We do this at the expense of our emotional health, and the emotional health of others.” This Is What’s Wrong With Modern Relationships – Esther Perel Explains – Mind Body Green
Chronic Illness & Pain
Exercise for POTSies – POTSgrrl
“The “PLAY UP” moment is controlled as tightly as possible. I stop the activity while I still feel able to do more and start the Post Activity LAY UP no matter how well I feel. It is not easy. If I’ve got it right then I should have almost no symptoms. Ironically, it also might seem to others that my condition is not so severe – because I tend not to enter the BUST ZONE!” “Play-Up & Lay-Up” not “Boom & Bust” – Just ME
Compression stockings: From beige to brilliant – Living with Bob (Dysautonomia)
Evolutionary Medicine and Back Pain – Pain Science
“Vitamin D is most well known for regulating the amount of minerals like calcium, magnesium, and phosphorous in the body. In recent years, there has been much research into additional functions, like its effect on the immune system, cardiovascular system, and cancer. Here is a list of what vitamin D does in the body:
- Regulates bone mineralization and metabolism
- Controls the expression of over 200 genes
- Modulates the immune system
- Controls cell growth
- Has anti-inflammatory and anti-carcinogenic properties
- Supports the immune system fighting infection
- Assists in neuromuscular function”
Don’t Fear the Sun! Vitamin D and Healing – Autoimmune Paleo
Not really the paleo diet – Nutritious Movement
Sweet Potato Turkey Chili (AIP/Paleo) – Sweet Potatoes and Social Change
Golden Turmeric Sauce – Autoimmune Paleo
DIY Swedish Punch Recipe – Serious Eats
Sweet Potato Lasagna Recipe – Wellness Mama
Pumpkin Spice Cookies with Vanilla Cinnamon Icing
,– Against All Grain