About Pain: For Those Who Suffer and Their Caregivers by Rachel B. Aarons
Pain, especially chronic pain, is a difficult topic for us to talk about. If you’ve never experienced chronic pain it is very hard to understand what it’s like to deal with pain on a continuous basis. Even if you have experienced chronic pain, it can be hard to fully comprehend how devastating another type of chronic pain can be.
About Pain: For Those Who Suffer and Their Caregivers by Rachel B. Aarons gives an excellent insight into the world of chronic pain, both from the perspective of the person dealing with chronic pain in the first part of the book, and from the caregivers in the second part of the book. In the third part of the book Dr. Aarons gives advice on how to best live with, manage and relieve chronic pain.
This perfectly describes how I myself feel a lot of the time:
Along with the limits and walls, go the losses. It is not so easy letting go of those hopes and dreams you have cherished. At the same time as the world becomes weighted down with negativity, it shrinks in options. Many of the enticing possibilities disappear. Either physically or emotionally, they simply are not possibilities anymore.
At bottom, pain constitutes an assault on your freedom of choice in the world. Others get to do so many exciting things while you are walled in by can’ts. Even if your mind is willing, your body may not be. Imagine the frustration of being trapped in a body that is limping, creaky and hurting. You may feel old long before your time. As the world shrinks and sours, it will inevitably affect the person you are.
Whether you are coming to terms with your own chronic pain, or trying to understand a loved one’s condition, I highly recommend About Pain.
Each of the personal stories have been written by the patients themselves, and have not been edited by Dr. Aarons. The story by Otis covering his experience with prostate cancer and his poor treatment in a hospital, included a completely irrelevant and offensive comment, questioning whether a “Obama death panel” was in his future. I personally find this comment incredibly offensive, as well as completely nonsensical. I asked Dr. Aarons about it, and she said that she’d chosen not to edit any of the personal stories, and didn’t know what the patient had meant by it. While I personally wouldn’t allow people to share such views on my platform (they are free to do so in their own space), I respect Dr. Aarons choice to do so, while also wanting to give any prospective readers a heads up, that you might want to skip that particular section.
I was contacted by Dr. Aarons and received a free copy. The review is my own honest opinion.