How Going Gluten Free Helped Me Halve My Intake of Painkillers

 

Photo Credit: estherase via Compfight cc

Photo Credit: estherase via Compfight cc

On the 22nd of August 2013 I came across an article that talked about an Italian study, which showed that a majority of women with endometriosis have less pain after following a gluten free diet for a year.

I have had painful periods for as long as I can remember, and was first diagnosed with endometriosis in 2010. I’d developed ways to cope with the period pains and cramps, and tried to deal with the ups and downs of the condition.

I had known for several years that a gluten free (and preferably paleo) diet had a good chance of helping ease my symptoms related to endo (such as pain, cramps, fatigue etc.). But I made excuses. It was too hard. I was too busy. Too stressed.

The truth is I was scared.

I was scared that it wouldn’t make a difference, and then I wouldn’t have anything left to try. And continuing the status quo, I at least had the hope that something might help in the future.

But after reading about the Italian study, I felt like I had no excuses left, and had to give it a proper try. The next day I went 100% gluten free.

The first couple of weeks were the hardest, although much easier than I had expected. Compared to previous times, it just felt like the right time to do it.

The first month I didn’t feel much of a difference, but by the second month I already had less cramps and less pain. By the third month I was astonished at how much milder my cramps were.

It has been almost 8 months now, and I have more than halved my consumption of painkillers. I used to be on 2-3 different kinds of painkillers during my period, and now I can usually handle it with a hot water bottle and the occasional Ibuprofen (which is completely astonishing to me).

Fellow endometriosis sufferers, I can only recommend giving a gluten free diet a go. Worst case scenario is no difference, best case scenario you might have much less pain to deal with.

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Apologies for being out of action for the past couple of weeks, I sprained my right wrist (don’t worry, it’s fine now) and wasn’t allowed to use it at all, which made typing quite a challenge.

Thought-provoking

Karen Thompson Walker: What fear can teach us – TED

“But being anxious or socially clumsy or inexperienced isn’t the same as being creepy. Someone who is socially awkward will occasionally trip over somebody else’s boundaries by accident because they may not necessarily understand where the line is in the first place. A creeper, on the other hand, knows exactly where those boundaries are… he just doesn’t care. A socially awkward person frequently realizes that they fucked up almost as soon as the words are out of their mouth and will often freeze up or try to verbally backpedal; a creeper who is using “socially awkward” as an excuse on the other hand, will wield their supposed infraction against the other person as proof that they didn’t do anything wrong… or rely on others to do their defending for them.” Socially Awkward Isn’t An Excuse – Paging Dr. NerdLove

Reading Mein Kampf – Robert Nielsen

“I’m not super pro-tattoo or anti-tattoo. I’ve debated getting one in the past but never that seriously. But my mother is vehemently anti-tattoo. Listed below are the reasons my mother has always given me for why I shouldn’t get a tattoo.

To the new moms traumatized by BabyCenter: YOU ARE NOT ALONE – Renegade Mothering

And I understand that she’s from a different generation. And I love my mother very much. She’s a really wonderful person and I’m not saying none of them is a legitimate reason, but I’m saying that after having a child, I find it really hard to take any of them seriously.” Why You Should Never Get a Tattoo (but Having a Baby is Fine) – The Ugly Volvo

Religion

“These are familiar issues, I think, to what many women face for having their bodies torn down, shamed, and dehumanized. Women of color, women with eating disorders, women whose bodies have been mistreated in a plethora of ways, women whose bodies have been denied as the bodies of women—and they do not boil down to an antsy inability to feel comfortable in a certain style, with certain clothes—it’s not about belts and hats and colors and skirts. It’s about an inability to feel whole or connected to your body, the very vessel that is not a separate thing but that really is you.” What it is like to be an Ex-Muslim woman – Between a Veil and a Dark Place

If you marry the “wrong person,” then after you’re married they become the “right person,” aka God’s new will for your life. You’re stuck. Deal with it. You shouldn’t have dated him anyway, or married him without your parents’ permission. We know you either dated or married without parental blessing or both, because duh, you married the “wrong person” and you would never have done that if you’d courted and gotten your parents’ blessing!” Guest Post: The Many Valuable Lessons I Learned at ATI – Love, Joy, Feminism

Equality

“Which is why preserving the patriarchal societies in so many fantasies doesn’t make sense to me. I understand the argument that we should not whitewash history, and I fully agree—when it comes to actual history scholarship. But abiding by the historical fact of sexism in a fictional universe that is otherwise not bound by historical fact, I’d say, accomplishes nothing as much as reinforcing the idea that it’s the default order of things” An Analysis of Sexism in in Historical Fantasy – The Mary Sue

Embracing the Feminine Energy in Entrepreneurship – Everyday Feminism

“Think about it: girls are bossy, boys have “leadership qualities.” Women are deemed aggressive, while men are simply decisive (or just, um, bosses). From Ruth Bader Ginsburg (called “a bitch” by her law school classmates) to the “ball-busting” Hillary Clinton, historians will tell you: women in power have long been punished for exhibiting qualities of assertiveness, because it veers from the “feminine” mold. And yet, isn’t it precisely those assertive qualities that will help women get ahead? If you wouldn’t call a dude these words, don’t say ‘em of a lady.” Ban Bossy: How to Talk About Women Without Sounding Like a Sexist Jerk – Times

14 Qualities of the Sexually Liberated Woman – Sex, Love, Liberation

“Last year, I never really paid attention to the dress code. But this year, teachers started to get stricter about it and giving stupid reasons for it. The reason was basically: “boys.” It’s a lot like saying that if guys do something to harass us, it’s our fault for that. We’re the ones being punished for what guys do.” Middle school leggings protest: 13-year-old activist Sophie Hasty talks about restrictive school dress codes – Slate

Great new anti-rape campaign launched in Scotland doesn’t treat sexual violence as inevitable – Feministing

Beauty & Body Image

“But that doesn’t stop the fact that the primary sentiment behind the “strong is the new skinny” movement is that beauty is all about the way that your body looks.” Love is the New Skinny – Paleo for Women

Building Your Look from the Inside-Out – Secrets of the Red Carpet

But there is another element of weight stigma that affects everyone, that does not discriminate between fat and skinny, that has real and serious consequences, and that is deeply wrapped up in sexism. And that element is internalized body dissatisfaction. It’s that driving knowledge that your body is not appropriate and never will be, that you’re fat and ugly and will never be pretty (unless you starve yourself), and that causes you to treat your body in horrific ways. While this type of body shame does apply to men as well, in many ways it’s wrapped up in the conviction that women’s appearance is the most important thing about them, the idea that women’s bodies don’t belong to themselves, and the underlying message that women should always be taking up less space. These toxic ideas have serious effects on women’s mental health, and can affect their behavior to such an extent that they have physical repercussions as well.” Fatphobia and Body Dissatisfaction: Different Conversations – Skepchick

Cleopatra was a Redhead: A History of Hair – Beautiful in Theory

And when you judge others against this standard, it’s simply inevitable that you are going to then judge yourself against the same standard. When you pick apart all their flaws, it’s pretty much a given that you will then have to pick apart your own.” How to Stop Judging Others So You Can Stop Judging Yourself – The Love Vitamin

Inspirational

“Those bad outcomes are just a few possibilities out of many, and they’re unlikely to come true.
And even if they do (let’s say someone thinks badly of you), the bad outcomes rarely ever mean anything disastrous for our lives.
Even if the bad things come true, you’ll be OK.” You’ll Be OK – Zen Habits

I Want to Feel… – Mara Glatzel

And the ironic thing is that the courage and confidence you need are in the face of what you’re actually afraid of. When you slowly, but deliberately, take action on your desires, you find what you need on the other side. And you may not get what you want right away or the first time, but the courage and confidence are building within you.” Why Your Fear Story Is So Important (and What You Can Do About It) – Your Kick Ass Life

 

Health

Higher Risk of Mental Illness for Those With Older Fathers – PsyBlog

15 Edible Plants to Forage in Your Own Back Yard – And Here We Are

Guest Post by Kelsey Marksteiner – Why Potassium Matters More Than Salt for Blood Pressure Control (Plus 10 Other Pressure-lowering Tips!) – The Paleo Mom

Will We Ever Accept that Exercise Is Often the Best Medicine – Mark’s Daily Apple

Best Natural Toothbrush Review – Wellness Mama

Recipe

Spicy Chicken with Grilled Lime – Elena’s Pantry

How to Make Jun Tea – Nourished Kitchen

Paleo Crepes with Almond Butter – WorldLifestyle

How to Make Honey Rhubarb Soda (With Lacto-Fermentation!) – And Here We Are

Avocado Fries with Chili Lime Mayonnaise – Thank Your Body

Sweet Potato Ginger Brownies – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations

Broth Blocks for Snack Time or Sleepy Time – Real Food Carolyn

AIP Salted Caramel Ice Cream – AIP Lifestyle

Honey Sweetened Lemon Curd – Neo-Homesteading

Dark Chocolate Avocado Mousse with Coconut Caramelized Bananas – Half Baked Harvest

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Thought-provoking

“If we tell children that they must allow kisses and hugs they do not want, that their physical boundaries are not respected, that whoever is the biggest gets to say who touches or tickles or hugs whom, what in the world do we think we’re teaching them?! For me, this is one of the biggest parts of both keeping Sally safe from predators and ensuring that she will be strong enough to stay out of or leave unhealthy or abusive romantic relationships.
And frankly, respecting your child’s body is also part of being a decent human being.” Respecting Every BODY – Love, Joy, Feminism

36 Lessons I’ve Learned About Habits – Zen Habits

It’s important to remember that your feelings are valid – always – because you can’t help them.
You can’t help the way that you feel, and so your feelings are never inherently wrong or bad.
We can commit acts that are wrong or bad based on our feelings, but those aren’t the same two things.” 5 Steps Toward Effectively Communicating Your Feelings – Everyday Feminism

How to Stop Giving a F*ck What People Think – LifeHacker

“I think it’s interesting to see the way that when people get into a monogamous couple dynamic, they often have to neuter their sexual desires. As the initial intensity of a relationship shifts to feelings of long-term love, you can end up in a sexless marriage, and I think that’s a huge contributor to infidelity and the breakup of a lot of families. We put so much emphasis on a partner being everything—that this person completes you—and when that doesn’t happen it creates a lot of pressure. I don’t think that open relationships are for everyone but it’s something that you should no longer feel ashamed to talk about at a time when so many marriages are failing.” Up for Polyamory? Creating Alternatives to Marriage – Roc Morin – The Atlantic

Powerful speaking is not about you – Tricia Karp

Religion

Bill Gothard, Sexual Pradator – Love, Joy, Feminism

Equality

“9. Journalists who substitute the word “sex” for “rape” – as if they’re the same thing.” 25 Everyday Examples of Rape Culture – Everyday Feminism

“So, as we continue to be reminded that the murder of a black boy may never be valued in a legal system that once deemed black folks as less than human, as we collectively grieve for those we lost and those we have yet to lose, this one thought comforts me.
He was free. He was loved.” Remembering Trayvon: On Black Life, Love, and Freedom – Role / Reboot

Investors more likely to give to men over women who are pitching the exact same idea – Feministing

“But in a groundbreaking study published in PNAS last week by Corinne Moss-Racusinand colleagues, that is exactly what was done. On Wednesday, Sean Carroll blogged about and brought to light the research from Yale that had scientists presented with application materials from a student applying for a lab manager position and who intended to go on to graduate school. Half the scientists were given the application with a male name attached, and half were given the exact same application with a female name attached. Results found that the “female” applicants were rated significantly lower than the “males” in competence, hireability, and whether the scientist would be willing to mentor the student.” Study shows gender bias in science is real. Here’s why it matters – Scientific American

Beauty & Body Image

“Before long, many of my friends had followed suit, posting their make-up free selfies and nominating their friends to take part. It was all very well meaning and inoffensive but, as far as I could tell, absolutely nothing to do with breast cancer awareness. If anything, it was trivialising a very serious issue and using it to justify a vanity project.” Why I Won’t Be Posting a Make-Up Free Selfie – Emily Buchanan – Huffington Post

“So clothing is designed for its own appealing shape, not for how it fits actual human beings. Models have often been called “hangers” for this precise reason. They are valued first and foremost as objects. They are useful for their measurements. They are bones and angles off of which clothing is meant to hang, not living, breathing, vibrant human beings.” Two Shocking, Dehumanizing Reasons Runway Models Are so Thin, and Why We Should Never Aspire to Look Like Them – Paleo for Women

“This is an important preface for a step-by-step guide to loving your body. As George or I or any other health advocate out there who has “made it” to the shining pinnacle of self-love and body acceptance will tell you, this is an on-going journey. There is no finish line. There is no trophy; there is no marching band. But there are important milestones. There are ways of thinking about and relating to your body that help. And before you know it, you will have left the cold open waters with sharks behind and have found yourself swimming in warm seas with manta rays – not a perfect place to be, but there is also most likely an occasional mojito waiting for you on the beach.” 9 Steps to Invincible Partnership with Your Body – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations

“As with nearly every exhausting inequality, smart women end up self-flagellating because we’re not able to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps and get right on out of our own oppression.
We end up holding our vulnerabilities close to the vest, even when those vulnerabilities are what brought us to the feminist movement in the first place.” Feminists Have Body Issues, Too: 5 Ways to Get Over the Shame – Everyday Feminism

Inspirational

“That’s why boundary work is so vital to establishing a solid sense of self-love. You’re expanding the space that’s available to you in the world.
Through your actions, you’re teaching yourself that you deserve a place on this Earth, just like everyone else.
Boundaries are priceless on their own, but their value runs deeper, too: when you set a boundary, you teach yourself, experientially, that it’s possible and that you’re deserving of space.” claiming space – effervescence

darling, just freaking do it – Justine Musk

“This is fascinating to me: that my body will have the same reaction to an imagined scenario as well as a real scenario. I know that happens with negative stress, but I didn’t make the connection that it would happen with positive stress as well.” On Crushes, Flirting and Delight – K. Foley Wellness

Health

Regulating Circadian Rhythm (and why that’s important) – The Paleo Mom

Recipes

Double Chocolate Chip Cookies – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations

Lactofermented Red Onion Recipe – Delicious Obsessions

Cinnamon Apple Kombucha – Plaid & Paleo

Apple Cinnamon Coconut Flour Muffins – Wellness Mama

Grain-Free Cheesecake Swirl Brownies – Food Renegade

Molten Lava Cake – The Paleo Mom

No-Bake Chocolate Fudge Fridge Cake (Raw, Vegan, Paleo) – Gourmande in the Kitchen

Coconut mousse pie with berries – Cats in the Kitchen

Homemade Paleo/Clean Eating Marshmallows – Salixisme

Melt In Your Mouth Guilt-Free Brownies – Danette May

Writer’s Wednesday: Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

I have talked before about the importance of daring to be vulnerable, and how Brené Brown’s TED talks on vulnerability and shame (and if you haven’t watched them you must), but it had taken a while for me to get around to reading her book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. I wish I had read it sooner, but I know this is one of the rare books that I will read again. I think about half of the book has been highlighted and I want to buy it and make everyone around me read it.

Brené talks about Wholehearted living, which “is about engaging in our lives from a place or worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”

She debunks the myths around vulnerability, for example that it is weakness, something “you don’t do”, letting it all hang out or going it alone.

We love seeing raw truth and openness in other people, but we’re afraid to let them see it in us. We’re afraid that our truth isn’t enough – that what we have to offer isn’t enough without the bells and whistles, without editing, and impressing.

Here’s the crux of the struggle:
I want to experience your vulnerability but I don’t want to be vulnerable.
Vulnerability is courage in you and inadequacy in me.
I’m drawn to your vulnerability but repelled by mine.

Brown goes on to talk about “Shame [which] is the fear of disconnection. … [It] is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.” She then shows us the difference between shame (I am bad) and guilt (I did something bad) and further on shows us how this is important not just for us as grown ups, but especially as we are raising children.

When we apologize for something we’ve done, make amends, or change a behavior that doesn’t align with our vlaues, guilt – not shame – is most often the driving force. We feel guilty when we hold up something we’ve done or failed to do against our values and find they don’t match up. It’s an uncomfortable feeling, but one that’s helpful. The psychological discomfort, something similar to cognitive dissonance, is what motivates meaningful change. Guilt is just as powerful as shame, but its influence is positive, while shame’s is destructive. In fact, in my research I found that shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we can change and do better.

Men and women don’t experience shame in the same way. “…the real struggle for women – what amplifies shame regardless of the category – is that we’re expected (and sometimes desire) to be perfect, yet we’re not allowed to look as if we’re working for it. We want it to just materialize somehow. Everything should be effortless. The expectation is to be natural beauties, natural mothers, natural leaders, and naturally good parents, and we want to belong to naturally fabulous families. Think about how much money has been made seeling products that promise “the natural look.” And when it comes to work, we love to hear, “She makes it look so easy,” or “She’s a natural.””

The main struggle of men, on the other hand, is: “Do not be perceived as weak.” and often the women in their lives can’t handle men’s vulnerability: “We ask them to be vulnerable, we beg them to let us in, and we plead with them to tell us when they’re afraid, but the truth is that most women can’t stomach it. In those moments when real vulnerability happens in men, most of us recoil with fear and that fear manifests as everything from disappointment to disgust. And men are very smart. They know the risks, and they see the look in our when we’re thinking, C’mon! Pull it together. Man up. … “Men know what women really want. They want us to pretend to be vulnerable. We get really good at pretending.”” (I know I for one am taking a careful look if I have different standards and expectations for the men in my life than for the women).

These feminine and masculine norms are the foundation of shame triggers, and here’s why: If women want to play by the rules, they need to be sweet, thin, and pretty, stay quiet, be perfect moms and wives, and not own their power. One move outside of these expectations and BAM! The shame web closes in. Men, on the other hand, need to stop feeling, start earning, put everyone in their place, and climb their way to the top or die trying. Push open the lid of your box to grab a breath of air, or slide that curtain back a bit to see what’s going on, and BAM! Shame cuts you down to size.

As I look back on what I’ve learned about shame, gender, and worthiness, the greatest lesson is this: If we’re going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light. To set down those lists of what we’re supposed to be is brave. To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.

Brown talks about how we try to protect ourselves through foreboding joy, perfectionism and numbing , but also how we can develop practices that help us lower our guard and dare to live a vulnerable life through practicing gratitude, appreciating the beauty of cracks, setting boundaries and finding true comfort.

Like I said at the beginning, I think this book is absolutely incredible and I think everyone, their family and friends and the world itself would be better off if we all read it and took its message to heart. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead is eye-opening, thought-provoking and at times hard to read, but oh so important.

Daring greatly is not about winning or losing. It’s about courage. In a world where scarcity and shame dominate and feeling afraid has become second nature, vulnerability is subversive. Uncomfortable. It’s even a little dangerous at times. And, without question, putting ourselves out there means there’s far greater risk of feeling hurt. But as I look back on my own live and what Daring Greatly has meant to me, I can honestly say that nothing is as uncomfortable, dangerous, and hurtful as believing that I’m standing on the outside of my life looking in and wondering what it would be like  if I had the courage to show up and let myself be seen.

As always I invite you to find me and connect with me on Goodreads.

 

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Thought-provoking

Rupal Patel: Synthetic voices, as unique as fingerprints – TED

2. They’re more emotionally reactive. People who are highly sensitive will reactmore in a situation. For instance, they will have more empathy and feel more concern for a friend’s problems, according to Aron. They may also have more concern about how another person may be reacting in the face of a negative event.” 16 Habits of Highly Sensitive People – Huffington Post

10 Rules for Brilliant Women – Tara Sophia Mohr

Derek Sivers: Keep your goals to yourself – TED

Heidi Grant Halvorson: The Incredible Benefits of a “Get Better” Mindset – 99U

Religion

“Michael looks at this little girl harshly spanking her doll—”Stop your crying. SWITCH, SWITCH. If you don’t stop crying, Mama will have to spank you again. SWITCH, SWITCH, SWITCH. OK, stop crying now.”—and sees something to praise, and a sign that her mother is parenting correctly. He sees that this girl’s go-to parenting tool is the switch, and her lack of compassion, and he doesn’t see what he should—a sign that there is a problem. Instead, he sees it as an affirmation that his sadistic, dictatorial, self-erasing child rearing methods work.” TTUAC: Spank Your Baby to Sleep – Love, Joy, Feminism

“When you make high-sounding proclamations like “God will never forsake you” it behooves you to unpack what that even means.  Is it a completely hollow promise?  Does it refer to a null set of possibilities?  If all the awful things we can imagine can conceivably fall under the heading of “God remaining faithful,” then what exactly would God not remaining faithful look like?  Isn’t this embracing a teaching which is ultimately empty and misleading?  I would argue that when you tell people that “God loves you” and “God will never forsake you,” you are making a completely unfalsifiable claim.  Unless I am mistaken, there is no scenario in which your version of God could be either unloving or unfaithful because any and every imaginable possibility can conceivably be called “God being loving” and “God being faithful,” no matter how unfavorable.  That makes this another hollow promise.” Hollowing Out the Promises of God – godless in dixie

Equality

“There is no harder, there is just hard. We need to stop ranking our hard against everyone else’s hard to make us feel better or worse about our closets and just commiserate on the fact that we all have hard.” Ask Beckham: We’re all hiding something. Let’s find the courage to open up – TED

Privilege – Robot Hugs

““Respecting women” is one of the most sexist things you can do then. I cringe anytime someone — often far more well-meaning than Huckabee — says it. Because it only makes sense if you believe women are fundamentally different than men. Unless you think women are inferior — uniquely vulnerable and especially in need of such niceties — the first kind of respect should be given to everyone regardless of gender. And unless you believe our femaleness somehow confers on us some unearned abstract superiority, the second kind cannot honestly be granted to “all women” as if they are the same. In other words, if Huckabee truly believed in gender equality, he’d either extend to all people the common courtesies he gives women, or he’d acknowledge that there’s no earthly, non-sexist reason why he’d treat a female political opponent more like his wife than like a male political opponent. Though he might admire both his wife and his opponent, his ways of showing it would be different. Respect doesn’t mean sameness either. Respect means treating women like individuals.” Dear Mike Huckabee: Saying you “respect women” is how we know you’re sexist – Feministing

Inspirational

“Women, especially, are taught that their nature is tricky and should be treated with caution. We are taught that we are too much, that the flux of our emotions deems us hysterical. We are taught that we need to be strong and solid in order to exist in the world – the world of tasks and outcome and getting ahead. We are taught to unwind in private, so as not to burden anyone. We are taught to shrink. To hold ourselves up. To prove our worth. ” Motivation & Permission to Be Human – Mara Glatzel

“I made a mistake, and that’s okay. Everyone makes mistakes. It doesn’t mean I’m a bad person. I forgive myself, and I love myself anyway.” the grace of forgiveness – effervescence

“I came to realize that wanting to do those things isn’t bad. Even actually doing them isn’t awful. What it is – always – is a choice. My choice. Your choice.” Embracing Choice to Evoke Change: Breaking Old Habits With a Simple Approach – Grace Quantock

“And I am not here to pretend otherwise. I am not here to paint you a beautiful picture of a perfect life. Because perfection is an illusion. It does not exist. No matter how much you love yourself, how much weight you lose, how many profits you bring in, you will never get to a place in life that does not include uncomfortable emotions, including hatred.” Self hate is the path to self love – Christie Inge

Health

Molly Stevens: A new way to grow bone – TED What’s Wrong With The Modern Diet (Charts) – Business Insider

Recipes

Cauliflower Wraps (SCD, GAPS, Paleo) – Empowered Sustenance

Nut-Free Sesame Hamburger Buns – Paleo Mom

fermented cinnamon clove carrot and cucumber combo – Laura Green Psychology

Grain-Free Shortbread with Salted Caramel – Nourished Kitchen

CrockPot Pulled Pork – Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations

Applesauce Gels – Kristine Rudolph

Paleo Lemon Bars – Paleo Recipe Love

Incredible Edible Paleo Salted Caramel Cheesecake Bites – Clean Eating with a Dirty Mind

Almond Gelatin Recipe – Easy Chinese Dessert – The Real Food Guide

Tarta de Santiago (St James Cake) – A Spanish Almond Cake – Oh the Things We’ll Make

#NoMakeupSelfie + Cancer Awareness?

So lately these #NoMakeupSelfie’s for “cancer awareness” have been all over my newsfeeds, and frankly they are pissing me off. Don’t get me wrong. I am all for cancer awareness, and I think self-expression through pictures – with or without makeup – is great. But unless you’re a cancer survivor, or you’re asking people to look at your naked skin to help you check for skin cancer, you aren’t creating “awareness” around cancer.

Cancer Awareness

In this day and age, who isn’t “aware” of cancer? And if someone genuinely isn’t, they aren’t going to suddenly know about unregulated cells growing and forming malignant tumors, because someone has posted a picture of themselves without makeup, shared the colour of their bra, grown a moustache, told us where they place their handbag or whatever ridiculous new “awareness” campaign is going viral. I mean it when I say it is ridiculous. These things trivialize cancer, and takes attention away from cancer patients, their loved ones, research and information around prevention and detection.

I have no doubt that those who take part in these campaigns have good intentions. However, intentions aren’t magical and we all know the road to hell is paved with them. We do need awareness around the needs of cancer patients, the need for research, and information around prevention and detection of cancer. If you want to help, listen to people who have or have had cancer, listen to their loved ones, help spread information on early detection or cancer prevention. Donate to organizations that do cancer research (such as Cancer Research UK, Cancer Research Institute or Danish Cancer Society. However, do check how much of your donation actually goes to research or programs to create awareness or support patients.)

No Makeup + Self Expression

I think selfies – with or without makeup – can be a great way to express yourself, and to work on self-acceptance. And you’ll find several pictures of me on Facebook without makeup – some because I just happened to not be wearing makeup that day, and some because I consciously chose not to.

The thought of going without makeup on a workday made me uncomfortable. That’s precisely why I did it.

It is interesting to question why we choose to wear – or not wear – makeup in certain situations. For me, putting on makeup often means putting on my “professional” face. Similarly, when I am not feeling well or in a lot of pain, I will often wear more makeup to put on a brave face and avoid questions. However, for me it is also important to sometimes break that habit and know that I am okay to face the world on my own – even as that might make me feel more vulnerable.

I would love to see more people embracing their own beauty, and posting photos of however they choose to express it. Just own it. Don’t make it about cancer awareness.

Writer’s Wednesday: Yes Means Yes! by Jaclyn Friedman & Jessica Valenti

Yes Means Yes!: Visions of Female Sexual Power and A World Without Rape is a fantastic anthology edited by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti. It is groundbreaking in dismantling our beliefs around rape, but instead putting in a framework of enthusiastic consent and respect for female sexual pleasure.

Friedman and Valenti have found an incredible array of writers from all areas of life, including people like Jill Filipovic, Rachel Kramer Bussel, Samhita Mukhopadhyay, Hanne Blank, Stacey May Fowles, Lisa Jervis, Brad Perry, Latoya Peterson and many more. They cover such diverse topics as masculinity, female sexual pleasure and autonomy, incest, rape culture, queer sexuality, racial sexualization etc.

My favourite paragraph from Jill Filipovic, that in my opinion pretty much sums up the anthology in its entirety:

Feminism and anti-rape activism challenge the dominant narrative that women’s bodies aren’t our own, they insist that sex is about consent and enjoyment, not violence and harm, and they attack a power structure that sees women as victims and men as predators. Feminists insist that men are not animals. Instead, men are rational human beings fully capable of listening to their partners and understanding that sex isn’t about pushing someone ot do something they don’t want to do. Plenty of men are able to grasp the idea that sex should be entered into joyfully and enthusiastically by both partners, and that an absence of “no” isn’t enough – “yes” should be the baseline requirement. And women are not empty vessels to be fucked or not fucked; we’re sexual actors who should absolutely have the ability to say yes when we want it, just like men, and should feel safe saying no – even if we’ve been drinking, even if we’ve slept with you before, even if we’re wearing tight jeans, even if we’re naked in bed with you. Anti-rape activists further understand that men need to feel empowered to say no also. If women have the ability to fully and freely say yes, and if we established a model of enthusiastic consent instead of just “no means no,” it would be a lot harder for men to get away with rape. It would be a lot harder to argue that there’s a “gray area.” It would be a lot harder to push the idea that “date rape” is less serious than “real” rape, that women who are assaulted by acquaintances were probably teases, that what is now called “date rape” used to just be called “seduction.”

This book, and the discussions that arise from it are so incredibly important for all of us and in my opinion it ought to be a mandatory part of any sex ed class.

Quotes

My past haunted me still, but it came to me in strange ways. I am surprised by how much sex I have had in my life that I didn’t want to have. Not exactly what’s considered “real” rape, or “date” rape, like my first time, although it is a kind of rape of the spirit – a dishonest portrayal or distortion of my own desire in order to appease another person – so it wasn’t rape at gunpoint, but rape as the alternative to having to explain my reasons for not wanting to have sex. You do it out of love sometimes, to save another’s feelings. And you do it out of hate sometimes, because you don’t want to hear your partner complain – like you hate their voice so much that whenever you aren’t made to hear it, it is a blessing. This is all sex I have said yes to, and sometimes even initiated – that I didn’t want to have. Often I would initiate the encounter just to get it over with, so it would be behind me, so it would be done. It is the worst feeling; it is like unpaid prostitution, emotional whoring. You don’t get paid in dollars, you get paid in averted arguments; you get paid by being able to avoid the truth another day. You hold your breath and you don’t feel your body, and you just let go of yourself. Your body responds just enough to make them think that you are into it, that you want it, that this is really sex. But it isn’t. I hate it, but I have done it, and I really don’t ever want to do it again because it is dehumanizing and demoralizing.
- Margaret Cho, Foreword

Male sexuality, and maleness in general, are socially enforced by requiring men to be Not Women. Men who transgress and exhibit characteristics that are traditionally associated with femaleness – passivity, gentleness, willingness to be sexually penetrated – have their masculinity questioned.
- Jill Filipovic, Offensive Feminism: The Conservative Gender Norms That Perpetuate Rape Culture, and How Feminists Can Fight Back

The kind of consent I’m talking about isn’t concerned just with whether your partner wants to have sex, but what kind of sex, and why. … When we passively respond or assume we know what the other person’s thinking, we could very well be wrong. By not speaking up or waiting until the other person can share their desires, we are simply guessing. There are exceptions, of course. Some people get off on having one person take charge and set the tone, pace, and position for sex. That’s fine, as long as this is spelled out at some point in advance and isn’t simply assumed.
…Besides, consent should be a baseline, the rock-bottom standard for sexual activity, and shouldn’t necessarily have to be sold as “sexy” to count as something vital and important.
- Rachel Kramer Bussel, Beyond Yes or No: Consent as Sexual Process

There are certain people who feel it’s their sacred duty to inform us, again and again, that rape is a compliment. (Or, more precisely, “Rape is a compliment, you stupid whore.”) Rape is not a violent crime meant to control and dehumanize the victim, see; it’s evidence that you were just so ding-dang attractive to some perfectly average guy, he couldn’t stop himself from fucking you, against your will, right then and there! He thought you were pretty! Why are you so upset?
- Kate Harding, How Do You Fuck a Fat Woman?

Because I’m a feminist who enjoys domination, bondage, and pain in the bedroom, it should be pretty obvious why I often remain mute and, well, pretty closeted about my sexuality. While it’s easy for me to write an impassioned diatribe on the vital importance of “conventional” women’s pleasure, or to talk publicly and explicitly about sexual desire in general, I often shy away from conversations about my personal sexual choices. Despite the fact that I’ve been on a long, intentional path to finally feel empowered by and open about my decision to be a sexual submissive, the reception I receive regarding this decision is not always all that warm.
BDSM (for my purposes, bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism) makes a lot of people uncomfortable, and the concept of female submission makes feminists really uncomfortable.

Patrick califia, writer and advocate of BDSM pornography and practice, wisely states that “internalized kinkophobis is the unique sense of shame that many, if not most, sadomasochists feel about their participation in a deviant society.” This hatred of self can be particularly strong among feminist submissives, when an entire community that they identify with either dismisses their desires or pegs them as unwitting victims.

The safe, sane, and consensual BDSM landscape is made up of stringent rules and safe practices designed to protect the feelings of everyone involved, and to ensure constant, enthusiastic consent. The culture could not exist if this were not the case; a submissive participates in power exchange because a safe psychological space is offered up to do so in. That space created an opportunity for a displace of endurance, a relief from responsibility, and feelings of affection and security. Before any “scene” begins, the rules are made clear and the limitation agreed upon.
- Stacey May Fowles, The Fantasy of Acceptable “Non-Consent”: Why the Female Sexual Submissive Scares Us (and Why She Shouldn’t)

Not rape comes in many forms – it is often known by other names. What happened to me is called sexual assault. It is not the same as rape, but it is damaging and painful. My friends experienced statutory rape, molestation, and coercion.
What happened in the courtroom is a by-product of rape culture – when what happens to women is marginalized, when beyond a shadow of a doubt still isn’t enough, when your past, manner of dress, grade point average, or intoxication level are used to excuse the despicable acts of sexual violence inflicted upon you by another.
Internalized shame is what I experienced, that heavy feeling that it was my fault for allowing the sexual assault to happen. So many of us are conditioned to believe that these actions are our fault, that if we had done something differently, if we had made a better choice, if we had been smarter, then we wouldn’t be in that situation. many of the girls I grew up with knew that sexuality was something to be guarded, something not to be discussed, and something not to be displayed. We were curious, but we knew that there was a pervasive idea of “get what you get.” If you were alone with a boy, you were asking for whatever he did to you. If you were raped at a party, you were asked why you chose to go in the first place. If a man followed you down the street, the question became “What were you wearing?” The onus is always on us to keep ourselves safe – even in impossible circumstances. I was afraid that if I spoke up, people would look at me differently, as something damaged or dirty – or, worse, they wouldn’t believe me at all.
- Latoya Peterson, The Not-Rape Epidemic

For me, real sex education is something more. I believe that it requires actually teaching about sex. Real sex education requires, in addition to teaching about protection, teaching sex as a normal and healthy part of life that is varied in terms of both preferred partners and preferred acts. Real sex education teaches that sex is more than heterosexual intercourse and should be consensual and pleasurable for all participants.

The fact is, many abuse victims don’t realize that they’re being abused. They undergo the trauma and just don’t understand why it hurts. I was never taught about enthusiastic consent. The phrase entered my vocabulary only a couple of years ago. It pains me to think of how different my life would have been if someone had taught me that I was supposed to want sexual contact and say so; otherwise, it was wrong. I truly thought that fearfully giving up after saying no twenty times counted as consent. If taught differently, I don’t know that I would have avoided the initial assaults, but I do believe with all my heart that I would have gotten myself out of that situation sooner. At the time, I knew that rape and physical assault were inexcusable acts of violence generally committed against women. I just didn’t realize that what was being done to me was rape. For that reason, it took me years to realize why I felt so traumatized.
- Cara Kulwicki, Real Sex Education

Let’s look a little more closely at that correlation between rape and alcohol, for example. That’s not a correlation between female drinking and rape. It’s a correlation between all drinking and rape. In fact, studies have shown that it’s more likely that a male rapist has been drinking than that his female victim has. So if we want to raise awareness about the links between drinking and rape, we should start by getting the word out to men (who are, after all, the overwhelming majority of rapists) that alcohol is likely to impair their ability to respond appropriately if a sexual partner says no.
- Jaclyn Friedman, In Defense of Going Wild or: How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love Pleasure (and How You Can, Too)

As always I invite you to find me and connect with me on Goodreads.

Link Love (2014-03-11)

Thought-provoking

“In practice, that means HSPs tend to avoid violent movies, are easily overwhelmed by bright lights and loud noises, get rattled when two people are talking to them at once, and need time and space to regroup during especially busy days.” Let’s talk about highly sensitive people – Modern Mrs Darcy

10 of the most counterintuitive pieces of advice from famous entrepreneurs – The Buffer Blog

“25. Oh and just the small pressure of figuring out your career, where you’re going to live, marriage, faith, identity, etc. – and feeling like you have to have it wrapped up neatly in a red little bow before you exit the decade.” Twentysomething Problems – Paul Angone

The easiest way to fight procrastination – Quartz

When we end things with someone – a romantic partner, a friend, even someone we’ve employed – we become a source of discomfort. As much as we’d like to stay in touch, stay friends, stay in the loop, we need to put the ball in their court.  When you’ve ended something, you no longer have a say in how that person spends their time or directs their feelings. And if you really, actually care about them you’ll give them the space they need to decide how (or if) you’ll be part of their life.” Love them Enough to Leave them Alone – yes and yes

How to Really Listen to My Wife in 13 Steps – Jayson Gaddis

Religion

“Honestly? These bits are the hardest part of the book to get through, for me. “Now, don’t move or I will give you more licks.” “If he continues to show defiance by jerking around and defending himself, or by expressing anger, then she will wait a moment and again lecture him and again spank him.” I remember this. I remember this only too well. I was raised by parents who followed the Pearls and the methods laid out in this book. Trying to get away, trying to avoid the pain, being angry, being anything but broken—those things meant more pain, more humiliation. The goal was to deaden your emotions and put on a mask so as to get out of the situation as quickly and with as few licks as possible.” TTUAC: Police State – Love, Joy, Feminism

“I am sick, sick, sick – sick to death of all the bible beating that goes on in an attempt to support intolerance – actually to support anything.  Because here is the thing that people of all religions need to get through their heads: not everyone buys into your bible.  There are many of us to whom your bible doesn’t hold water.  There are many of us to whom your bible is just a book.  If you want to live according to your interpretation of your bible, go for it.  But you cannot – do you hear me?  you cannot impose it on anyone else.  Just because you belong to a particular club does not mean that everyone should be required to live by the rules of your club.” How Religion Ruins People – Lisa Morguess

“The book is personal as well as scholarly, and Zuckerman, an engaging writer, brings it to life with anecdotes about his time in Denmark and Sweden in addition to subjects’ testimonies. He begins by highlighting the numerous differences between Denmark’s lack of religiosity and the pervasiveness of religion in the United States—focusing on God’s absence from public view there, whether in the media, in schools, or in politics. Denmark is, by our standards, as “deeply good” a society as we can imagine, which leads him to think about social goodness in terms both broader and deeper than usually defined by conventional religious morality: that is, by healthcare, gender equality, cleanliness of public spaces, life expectancy, gross domestic product, social order, functioning public amenities, the absence of crime, and a wide and deep sense of security.  Contrary to American fundamentalists’ warnings, this irreligious society is “gentle, calm, and inspiring.”” Society Without God: What the Least Religious Nations Can Tell Us About Contentment – The Humanist

Equality

The Best Decision I Ever Made: Not Having Kids – Role / Reboot

“The thing is: women do approach guys. All the time in fact. Women frequently message guys they’re interested in when it comes to online dating; it just seems less significant compared to the many men who will shotgun out messages. Other times they get brushed off by the men because they’re not the women those men want to approach them. Then, there are the times when guys don’t recognize that someone is trying to make the first move. More often than not the way women approach men they’re interested in doesn’t match up with how they picture the approach going. She may use proximity and body language to try to catch his attention and signal that she wants to talk to him,  she makes an observation about something or finds an excuse to talk with him about, say, a class they have in common, as a way of breaking the ice.” Why Women Don’t Approach – Paging Dr NerdLove

5 Reasons Why It’s Okay If You Don’t Want Children – Everyday Feminism

“Confirmation bias is one way people can continue to hold more rigid gender ideologies in a more fluid world—they latch onto information that confirms their biases and rejecting information that contradicts them. Of course, anyone can suffer from confirmation bias, and we all do at some point or another. But as a parent raising a child of each gender in today’s world, I see firsthand the way confirmation bias can reinforce traditional ideas about gender and affect our lives—and our children’s lives. Why can’t we just let children be children, and recognize that each child will have a variety of interests that may not fit into any preconceived gender box?” Bobby’s Trains and Confirmation Bias – Love, Joy, Feminism

Beauty & Body Image

“When people choose to offer commentary about your appearance (or your station in life), it is never about you.  It is about them, about the thing that paralyzes them, about the story they have told themselves, about the narrative they are choosing to live regarding that issue. And because they are so consumed with that issue, they can’t help but mention it when they are with you, pinning all their insecurities, all their fears onto you.” Shine Day 7: Understand that it is NOT about you – Rosie Molinary

Inspirational

“One of the most common internal conflicts for the women I work with is knowing that always putting others before themselves is not working but that if they don’t put others first then that means they are selfish. And since these women are deeply driven to love and care for others, selfish is the last thing they want to feel. As an attempt to avoid feeling selfish, they just keep going, putting the needs and thoughts of others ahead of their own. All the while, feeling like they are losing themselves and any hope that life will ever feel good.” 5 Life Lessons on Being Selfish and Needy – Christie Inge

How to Make Your Dreams Come True – Your Kick Ass Life Coaching

Health

The First Clinical Trial Using a Paleo Diet for Autoimmune Disease – The Paleo Mom

Is It Time for Your System Restore? – Whole9

Recipes

Quick and Easy Paleo Chocolate Mousse Recipe – The Healthy Foodie

Baked Bananas – A Girl Worth Saving

Choc Topped Caramel Cups – Wholefood Simply

Earl Grey Pots de Crème – (Dairy-Free, Paleo-Friendly) – Gourmande in the Kitchen

Dark Chocolate Almond Butter Cups – Taste of Divine

Coconut Flan (dairy free) – Savory Lotus

50/50/50 Burgers – The Paleo Mom

Easy Grain Free Flatbread: A Healthy Bread Alternative – Empowered Sustenance

Plantain Tortillas – Zen Belly

Crispy Chocolate Chip Cookies – Elana’s Pantry

Link Love (2014-03-08)

Thought-provoking

“You might not realise, but real life is a game of strategy. There are some fun mini-games – like dancing, driving, running, and sex – but the key to winning is simply managing your resources.” Life is a game. This is your strategy guide. – Oliver Emberton

The Daily Routines of 7 Famous Entrepreneurs and How to Design Your Own Master Routine – The Buffer Blog

“Imagine walking up to a stranger at a party, but instead of asking: “So, what do you do?”
Asking, instead: “What would you never do?”” What are you… not? – Alexandra Franzen

#546: Counter-Intuitive Friendship Fixing Advice: The Be Nice to Yourself Project – Captain Awkward

“You don’t need permission to create. You don’t need to be “gifted” or a “genius” or “brilliant” to contribute to the world around you — you just need to choose to build something.” Be Honest: Are You Rejecting Yourself? (Why You Should Make Things) – James Clear

Religion

“You got that job you wanted, right? Congratulations! Did you interview for it, and put your best foot forward? That’s great! But why then call this “an answer to prayer?” You made it happen by doing the things people do to make this happen. Does it matter to you at all that other people did the same things you did, and got their jobs, too, but didn’t pray at all? This is how confirmation bias works. If you automatically rule out all data which contradicts your hypothesis (in this case that “praying for things can make things happen”), then of course all you’re left with is positive results! If you also refuse to eliminate other relevant variables (like interviewing for the job, or taking the medicine, or working the extra shift, or telling the whole Sunday school class about how broke you are) then acquiring affirmative results is a piece of cake.” Lessons Learned from the Death of a Snake Handler – Godless in Dixie

“But this isn’t a one person thing. Her sentiment is actually something I’ve seen quite a bit. We, we grown homeschool kids, you see we’re not allowed to speak on homeschooling unless we have homeschool kids of our own.
Because apparently having been a homeschool kid yourself isn’t enough.” Is Having Been a Homeschool Kid Really Not Enough? – Love, Joy, Feminism

Equality

“Women’s sports tend to be less well-funded than men’s. We tend to have a lower profile. We don’t get tens of thousands of people watching us play. We rarely get the fancy sponsorship. We rarely get to play as a profession- we fit our training around our day jobs instead.
And we play, even though we don’t get paid, and even though we don’t get acknowledged or taken seriously. When you watch women’s sports, you’re not watching people who are in it for the adulation and the glory. You’re watching people who live and breathe their game, who love it and dedicate themselves to it despite the fact that hardly anyone outside their circles gives a rat’s ass about what they’re doing.
But, y’know, if you’d rather watch a bunch of overpaid guys run around the place.. be my guest.” Women’s Sports are Boring – Consider the Tea Cosy

The Little Girl from the 1981 LEGO Ad is All Grown Up, and She’s Got Something to Say – Women You Should Know

“In debate libertarians argue that their ideology is based on freedom, all they want is to be free of government interference. After all, liberty is so important to them they put it in their name. But how can anyone disagree with that? Do social democrats hate liberty? What I have found is that in the debates between left and right, people are arguing past each other rather than with each other. So the left does believe in freedom, but they just view it differently. In this sense there are two types of freedom. There is negative liberty or freedom from, which is the main principle advocated by the right and there is positive liberty orfreedom to, which is the main principle advocated by the left.” The Two Types of Freedom – Robert Nielsen

Beauty & Body Image

“Age is a weapon society uses against women. Each year that you gain comfort in your own flesh, your flesh is seen as worth less. Thirty, like 40 or 50, is a demarcation line, but a particularly loaded one. Cross it, says the world, and you leave the trifling-but-addictive privileges of girlhood behind. Invisibility this way, ma’am.” On Turning 30 – VICE

Loving Your Body 101: The 3 Questions of Positive Body Image – Beauty Redefined

“I see selfies as an important way to have more confidence, to get to know myself better, my moods, to capture moments that make me happy, to feel comfortable in my own skin, to share the joy of a great outfit or makeup. There are so many good things that selfies have been bringing to me since the invention of digital cameras, and I feel that they have helped me build a better body image.” Insight: Selfies and Positive Body Image – More of Me to Love

Woman Loses 100 Friends After Posting Beautiful Post-Surgery Photos on Facebook – Bust

Inspirational

“Just as parents need to let their children know that they love them even if they don’t always love what they do, we each need to learn to love ourselves unconditionally, even when we make mistakes or do things we’re not proud of.
It’s possible and important to accept ourselves, even when we’re less than pleased with our actions.” unconditional self-love – effervescence

Self-Care for Type A Productivity Monsters Like Myself – Everyday Feminism

We can not live in spite of ourselves. We cannot force ourselves to show up and perform without leading directly to a state of burnout.
We must be tender stewards of our bodies, moving ourselves with purpose and pleasure as we tend to our own needs.” Tender Sustainability – Mara Glatzel

“Waiting to be the woman you know is just a layer beneath the one that’s visible to the world.” Getting Comfortable with Uncertainty and the In-between - Stratejoy

Health

Ten Simple Steps: Fitting Paleo Into Your Busy Life – The Paleo Mom

How to Ensure Your Final Years Are Good Ones – Mark’s Daily Apple

Breakthrough Science: Curing “Incurable” Diseases by Terry Walsh MD – Sara Gottfried MD

Recipes

Guest Post, Against All Grain: Paleo Breakfast Cookies - Paleo Parents

Raspberry Chocolate Cream Tart – Mummy Made It

Coconut Caramel Candy – My Heart Beets

Raspberry Coconut Panna Cotta – Phoenix Helix

Paleo Cranberry Orange Muffins – Cook Eat Paleo

Grain-Free: Crunchy Almond, Sesame & Coconut Granola – Neo-Homesteading

Salted Caramel Chocolate Raspberry Chia Seed Pudding - PaleOMG

Paleo White Chocolate Raspberry Cheesecake – Hannah’s Healthy Heaven

Avocado Chocolate Cookies – Thank Your Body

Seven-Layer Bars Dessert – Against All Grain

Link Love (2014-03-01)

Thought-provoking

Infographic: Science of Happy Relationships – Happify

“Like most mortals out there, I suffer from a sometimes-paralysing sense that, unlike everyone else in the world, I’m just making it all up as I go along, flying by the seat of my pants, and someday someone’s gonna find out I’ve been faking it all this time. If you told me that everyone reading this blog is in fact my mother, logged in from a shedload of different locations, and maybe some people who just showed up to laugh at my terrible writing? A little part of my brain would believe you. Sounds legit, like.” Sports and the Death of Imposter Syndrome – Consider the Tea Cosy

How to Respond to Rude or Inappropriate Remarks – World of Psychology

“We’re conditioned to think that more choice is always a good thing, but in the past few years, studies have discovered something called decision fatigue. The research helps explain why decisions are so much harder at the end of a work day and why we’re tempted by the candy in the checkout lane after a marathon grocery trip.” How to be Happier and More Productive by Avoiding ‘Decision Fatigue’ – Buffer Blog

How to Add a Vital Habit to Your Life – Early to Rise

“It’s certainly true that some people are more able to use teasing — i.e., making fun or mocking someone playfully — in a nice way than are others. Some people can use teasing as a way to make people feel closer, as a way to show friendship — which is obviously a good thing. But maybe that’s more in the nature of “joshing” (teasing lite) than real “teasing.” Some people are good at using teasing as a way to bring up a difficult subject in a way that’s a relief to everyone — very tricky to do well.” Thinking About Teasing – Something I’ve Never Thought Much About – The Happiness Project

Religion

“Notice anything? They call it adultery and treat the girl as just as guilty as her abuser. When Donn Ketcham began sexually abusing the girl, he was pushing 60 and she was 12. And they call it adultery. That was the problem—Donn Ketcham, missionary doctor, had an affair with a 12-year-old girl.” They called it “adultery” and made her confess – Love, Joy, Feminism

Equality

“It’s true that some women try not to let their humor out of the bag as a survival technique. When we are funny, we can quickly become construed as a threat, so sometimes we figure it’s better to keep our heads down and pretend to be serious so we don’t become a target of outrage. This is a technique common to all oppressed groups, and it’s one reason that, I would argue, women and minorities are often much funnier than white men. They just keep it on the qt.” Why Are Some Men Threatened By Funny Women – Role / Reboot

“The “your daughter isn’t bossy” message is such a strong one, and has helped pave the way in which women idealise and translate real female leadership values. The message also re-iterates the importance of how female leaders must teach young girls to look through the lens of real women. Here is another fantastic article and video clip in the Huffington Post based on a campaign to get more girls interested in STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Maths). The video clearly shows how our girls are becoming warriors and trailblazers in the playground, and are no longer tolerating the out-dated label of being a “bossy boots”.” Your Daughter Isn’t Bossy and Other Real Female Leadership Lessons – Project Eve

Recipes

Apple Cinnamon Gummy Candies – Phoenix Helix

Grain-Free Banana Scones – Eating 4 Balancef

2-Ingredient Paleo Caramel – My Heart Beets

Pannukakku (grain free) – Seasonal & Savory

Paleo Candy – Paleo Fuel and Fire

Rose and Coconut Fudge – My Heart Beets

Creamy Coconut Chocolate Chip Macaroons – Paleo Parents

Grain-Free Granola Bars – The Preppy Paleo

Flourless Chocolate Cake (Paleo) – Real Food RN

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